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Ok, I've never quite had any skill with the ladies so I'm really new to this.

I'm 18 and a Freshman in College.

In three of my classes, there is this girl that is as obsessed about Ninjas as I am, and she plays/loves Final Fantasy VII, VIII, and XI.

She has got to be the hottest girl I have ever seen. (2938749827324/10).

I've never had a girlfriend and I'm always nervous when it comes to asking them out so...

What to do?

I praise you for posting that here a lot of people would be afraid of flames. But bravo man!

I realize you're nervous but don't come at her like your desperate and get all sloppy.

Just play it cool. You guys got classes together, ask her if she wants to study. Or just hang out. Be casual just like you're talking to a good friend. Try to find out what else she's interested in. Don't re-hash the FF and ninja card. She might start thinking you have no other interests, or don't care about hers.

You got this. If worse comes to worse buy some walkie talkies and i'll hide in the bushes. We can make it happen for ya bro^^

Well Ayazz when it comes to a subject matter i'm comfortable with. I do put my Mentor Cap on.

You are correct though. Nothing says I'm into you like a stranger hiding in the bushes feeding him lines to say.

So...when can I be expecting my walkie talkie?

Edited, Thu Oct 6 21:44:29 2005 by Wrip

She is real...

http://belmont.facebook.com/profile.php?id=34103365

See what I mean? lol

I just happen to have an account there so here you all go.

Here she is


JK JK


Edited, Thu Oct 6 22:51:47 2005 by Wrip

Most of you may laugh, but read on.

I've always found there was one simple pick-up line that worked 100%. Go up to your favorite lady at your favorite park, or secluded location and ask her the question, "Does this smell like chloroform to you?"

I've actually tried that line before. Too bad your sister already heard it.


Anyway, in my experience with women, which isn't as impressive as others, but hey, at least I actually have the balls to ask girls out. Here's the best damn way to do it.

"Hey, <name> would you like to go to <location> to <eat, drink and/or be merry> with me on <day>?".

It's like.....I don't know, the most tried and true approach to dating in the history of the world. Why is it that it seems like in the past 10 years or so, people have tried to differ from it, write BOOKS on picking up women/men? It's not that damned hard. You don't have to throw out some damn corny line. You are asking somebody on a date no matter what you say, so just cut the bullsh*t, grow some balls and do it.

Hell, my dad did it to my mom. The ol' ******* ended up getting laid, it's why I'm here on god's green earth. My grandfather used it, I'm pretty sure it's a family tradition.

Now I'll be honest, it's not a 100% success rate. But in my experience, women who are approached by a guy who's got enough guts to actually talk to her are
A) Impressed and interested and will agree.
B) Busy with something and willing to reschedule or change details.
C) Think you're a disgusting pig and spray you with Mace.
D) Already taken.

Now there are of course some guidelines. Look respectable, nobody likes a slob with bad hygiene. You're 18, just outta the house, no more of mommy's rules, but her advice on those weekly showers was right on. Brush your teeth, trust me, you f*ckers who don't brush, we can smell you from across a room, and not the good kind of smell. Wear clean clothes, that aren't wrinkled. I'm not saying you gotta go buy some fancy pants pants and shirts, a pair of broken jeans and T-shirt is fine, just make it clean. Deodorant.

Don't worry if your nervous and shy, the entire idea is just asking her out. Hell, most girls think it's cute and adorable, you might even break into the pity date.

For the most part, girls don't think common interests are reason enough to go on a date, maybe friendship, and certainly continued dating, but don't break out the "omg I love ninjas and play FFXI, let's mate" line just yet.

Edited, Fri Oct 7 01:33:04 2005 by Pokiehl

Is it just me, or did it suddenly feel really cold?

Part #1 (at work cannot write all of it at once)

Well seeing that I am officially off the market now, I am able to release a few of my secrets to being a successful dater.

1. The first contact

A. You may want to see her interest level in you before approaching her. Eye contact is where you begin.

- Glance at her and keep doing it until you catch a glance back from her. A very important thing to remember while trying to catch the glance is that most people have a near 180 degree peripheral vision and you do not want her to see you staring her down without you knowing about it, you may scare her off. Keep your glances to a very short and unoticiable until you catch her looking back then connect eyes with her for a brief moment of time.

It is hard to tell sometimes on first glance how she feels about you. So repeat the first step and see if she will return the favor again. When she does connect eyes again and exmaine her a little longer this time, maybe even wait for her to turn away or for a reaction from her. I say to connect eyes because you may not always get a clear sign like a smile or a snear. I myself can tell alot about a person through eye contact and wether a woman has any interest at all in me is one of the easiest things to pick out.

Here is my Philosophy of what some glances may represent:

- Warm look and a smile means you are in if you just play your cards right on the aproach. It could also mwean she is in a relationship and just having fun flirting, either way an easy approach. There is no shame in approaching an already taken woman (if you do not know she is taken that is!). It is an easy gentle let down and you can keep your confidence for if she was not involed she would have been yours.

- Smile, but nervous look where she glances away quickly and looks down or somewhat embarrased afterwards. This means she is shy and most likly interested. Be a little more careful as to how you approach her for you may scare her away if you are too aggressive.

- Smile with a cold unwelcoming look, but yet she still sent a smile your way. This could mean three different things.

1. She is not interested, but still wants to be polite. You may choose to approach still, but start with more of a friends approach here and down to road work on the later.

2. She is involved and does not flirt the above mentioned.

3. She is playing hard to get. Some women live for that just to see what kind of a confidence level they are dealing with. I would say approach this one as well, but be ready to prove you are what she is looking for from the very start.

- No smile soft look when eye contact is made. This means she has horrible teeth but is really interested, ok so I am just kidding. Hard to make this one out sometimes, but with a soft warm look she is really worth trying to approach. She will not let you down harsh if she does so really only thing to lose is to not try.

No eye contact very quick look - She is shy. Once again be catious on how you approach.

A snear, rude look, disgust that you are even checking her out. Well your let down is already there. That is pretty much a turn down from the start. If you really want to get brave approach her just to test yourself on how well you can do. I have approasched this type quite a few times at bars and have even dated a few. If you are not up for the challenge though move along.

This is what I know about the look, some may have opinions that differ, but all I know if that I have had a very successful dating life since I turned 12 years old ( yes 12, movies are very popular dates at that age). Part #2 will be written shortly: The Approach.

Wow Ace so it has been a whole 1 year that you have not gone more than a week without a chick?

I can't believe you would post in any forums about this Shao... lol...

That's all I've got to say o_o

You have already got one foot in. You have talked with her and she didnt blow you off. She told you interests and she probably has expressed her feelings about classes and such.

When I was in college, I would just ask her to a social event sponsored by the school. Pizza Bash, concert, whatever. Maybe if you have friends that aren't too strange or wierd, you could invite her to watch the football game, go to a party, etc. (Some of my friends over my college years where pretty damn cool, but sometimes they where really strange too, it depends).

Basically, you just need to find an opening. Continue to talk to her, be yourself, and everything will come around.

To everyone that thinks "Hot girls" are out-of-your-league, just try anyway. They are people too and have all the same desires and needs we do. Not impossible to land a "hot girl." Not every guy is asking them out. I found from some of my friends that they can go quite some time before people ask them out. People always assume they must be taken.

Good Luck and Happy Hunting

Mohit

ok, i shouldnt post this but f it XD

There's this girl i like, shes new and well she doesnt know anybody in my school, to the point of staying alone during lunch, so I go and "visit" her where she sits, she kinda smiles everytime i go, but then its weird, she doesnt really talk to me at all when i see her on the hallways, i know shes like really shy, even though she says she isnt. so im waiting for Kramer's #2 part >.>

dont /laugh

No, im not a geek and i have had gfs before, just never gone for this kind of girl ever in my life, i always chose to ignore them, but this one is just too cute and we have a lot of stuff in common, its kinda hard to talk to her because i have to start conversations. I dont know, any suggestions?

dont /laugh or you will be (Asuran Fists)ed to death. >.>;;

Edited, Sat Oct 8 22:13:07 2005 by TakenoMNK

Edited, Sat Oct 8 22:17:11 2005 by TakenoMNK