Everyone in this game is a *******, I swear. I was at Temple of Uggla today, and waiting patiently for the Tonberries to move out of the way (and a Doll) so I could open a Granite Door to get the Ugglapeih Offering.
Only one door, really, because I had a pretty good idea where it was, since I thought I saw the ??? when a Tonberry opened the door, but I couldn't run through in time.
So I'm waiting, replacing my buffs and an RDM in AF named Sesshomaru comes in, I ask him if he's here for the offering and he says yes, and that he's been 'farming it for 3 days'. He runs upstairs, opens all the doors and gets the offering, in the door that I knew it was in.
Everything in this game does very little but pit player against player. Crafts aren't cooperative, they're just methods for powergamers to make more money by bleeding people dry.
NM camping is pure competition. Leveling is competition. Doing quests is competing to get rare drops just so you can hand them in before everyone else.
I'm really at the end of my rope here, I'm strongly considering just giving away all my equipment and being done, and no one will care because it's all about competition, and all this means is one less crafter and mage for everyone else to beat out for spawns and items.
In fact, I would bet 100 gil that the majority of replies to this message are 'If you don't like it, get out of the sandbox' to incite and facilitate my leaving.