Okay... I am doing this anonymously because I don't want to offend anyone or make anyone look bad. That is not the intent of this post. That being said...
I was in a party today on in Ro'Maeve. While I was standing there I get a /tell. "Would you like to join a HNMLS? We need more BRD's and two of ours just quit." I think to myself, of course I would. So I pursue the conversation a little further. Now I have been looking at a certain HNMLS (good reputation and friends in it) for a while but unfortunately they have too many BRD's and I myself am a BRD. So I decide to take a look at this one. Now at first I think it's a little strange to get a blind /tell for something like a HNMLS but I put that aside.
The first thing we do is go 'skill up' a bit before a NM spawn. As we are fighting Aquarius pops and we go at it. We were not exactly prepared for the fight and low on mp so we hit orange health pretty quick. I popped my 2hr and basically saved us from humiliation and brought us back to normal. Now no cloth dropped but of course the axe did. Reluctantly I passed on the axe (wanted for other job) because there was a RNG who didn't have it yet and I didn't want him to be embarassed anymore.
So... later when we are done with 'skill up' we go to fight the NM in Sauromugue Champaign. On the way to the camp spot I am listening to the leader of the LS be a real @$$ to the others in it like he is their god or something. I really don't like when people act like that so I already have a bad taste in my mouth. Anywyas... There is a certain quest item that drops from the skinks there. I have killed like 5000 skinks and I know the drop is supposed to be easy but I have never gotten it. While I'm standing there a skink walks up and I say, "wth... I'll kill it." and viola it drops.
This is where things get sketchy. I lot on the item and get a pretty good lot. Everyone else passes... well almost everyone. There is a RNG (the one I passed the axe for earlier) who lots higher than me and he says he never got drop before either. I told him that I have killed soooooo many of them and that was my drop and that he could kill some to get another for himself. Well after I say this he doesn't pass and he takes my drop. This paired with the disposition of the leader of the LS caused me to disband the party immediately.
As soon as I leave I am flooded with /tell's. Keep in mind that I was only part of the LS for about 3 hours. Luckily I knew some of the better people in it and they understood. Almost as if they were only in that LS because the other good LS's had too many PLD's or RNG's, who knows.
The funny thing is that I immediately get a /tell from the very person that asked me to join. He explains to me that the person who took my item was an idiot and he did that kind of thing all the time. So I ask him why they let that type of thing happen. I also remind him that HNMLS's (cause I was in another at one time but it broke) are supposed to be professional and not do those types of things. After that he begins calling me an idiot and telling me wonderful things about myself which I don't care to repeat. I asked him why he was yelling at me even though I had done nothing to him. I suggested that he forget I was ever in the LS because my standards were obvoiusly too high. But he continued rambling about how I was leaving because of a book (keep in mind I passed on the axe) and I tried to tell him it was the principle of it all but he would not listen.
After I blacklisted him I began to talk to other members who were much more understanding. Some seemed to be seeking a way out themselves. Maybe to go to a better LS or at least have the courage to leave the one they were in. Even the person who took my item apologized and we were on level ground again.
My questions are: Am I expecting too much? Are my standards too high? Should a LS reputation be that important to me? Are there any LS's who regulate this type of thing? Is this all acceptable to everyone but me? Will I ever find a good honest HNMLS that I can contribute something too?
You see... I am the type of person that doesn't like to be associated with people like that. I really don't take any crap because I really don't have to. Some people deal with it and I think they shouldn't.
What do you think Ragnarok? And if you are one of the people who was involved with this please don't mention any names. It will only lead to unnecessary trouble for everyone involved.