Elinda wrote:
Belkira the Tulip wrote:
He never cheated on me. Let me be clear about that. He says he hasn't, and I believe him. However, he has always wanted to. And he always will.
Don't we all fantasize about sex with someone who's not our partner? Understanding that it's just fantasy and rarely is the grass any greener in someone else's pasture and vows are designed to keep just such thoughts from ever becoming action is kind of what marriage is all about.
This is actually something I talk to my wife about fairly often. We've established that is fine to fantasize about people so long as there is no actual cheating taking place. We are very open to each other about who we think is "hot" and if we'd do them or not. It helps a lot that my wife is bisexual and likes a lot of the same kinds of women I do.