Sweetums wrote:
oh god you guys are gonna be so disappointed on your wedding night)[/sm], it was just so ludicrous that laughing was a foregone conclusion.
yeah brings back memories, my first time was with another virgin, and I mean, lesbians don't even really have the "advantage" of seeing ***** sex in movies and such (especially not 10 years ago) nor the easy tab goes in slot thing that hets and even gay guys have going for them, so after rolling around and trying various things we just ended up laughing.
Not even sure it counts as losing virginity since there was no orgasms or penetration even... its pretty fuzzy when yer a ***** lady, but I'll count it anyway.
As to the whole OP, I have to say it is sad to hear you talk about how they felt guilty for straying into handjob territory. I won't judge them for not wanting to do the deed until after they marry but I worry about it being an issue of guilt. If they are holding back because they would feel guilty not holding back, that's pretty unhealthy.
Also I'd like the second the folks talking about what a good idea it is to practice. I personally like being a good lover, and I don't think it hurt my current relationship to have my partner feel happy and fulfilled our first time together. Eagerness and reading can only get you so far.