Waiting until marriageFollow

I must be tired. I was trying to figure out why Sweetums wasn't a waitress and what that had to do with having sex before marriage.

My first time, I was 20 and had been with the same guy, who was also a virgin, for two years. He was a virgin, as well. I didn't wait because I am religious at all. I waited because I wanted to feel like I was ready. Or at least I wanted to want it. My first time, I can't say I felt "ready" exactly, I was pretty scared it was going to hurt. And it did, a little. We were a bit fastidious about it. We were up in the bonus room of my parents house after everyone had gone to bed, and I made sure we had a towel to lay down underneath me in case I bled. I didn't want to have to explain that to anyone, and I figured I could rinse the towel out and have it dry by morning. It wasn't terribly romantic, there were no fireworks. We both were virgins, and we knew it would be awkward and potentially uncomfortable for me. We just wanted to get the first time over with so we could start enjoying it.

And we did. A lot.

I always felt that picking your first sexual partner was a big deal. I wanted it to be with someone I loved, someone I could really experience different things with, and most importantly, someone I trusted.

I lost my virginity before I entered High School so my opinion is suspect at best. I feel, in retrospect, that I should have waited. On the other hand (inurendo) I think early experience made for better judgement calls later.

YMMV

I hope Chuck Norris was gentle?

That censorship is b.s. This is America, not Communistan.

Edited, Nov 30th 2011 3:04am by Allegory

This. Oh God, this.

And by lolz, I mean lots of tears. Ugh, that was terrible. The situation was lolz-worthy though; attempting to be romantic, we went to a beach and into the dunes. Sexy, right? I even brought a sheet from home, laid it out... and realized it was a fitted sheet. It kept rolling back up from under us.

Still, glad I got the awkwardness over at 17. I didn't actually get "good" at sex until I was around 20, when I dated a girl with similar sexual tastes to mine and who was actually interested in sex (as opposed to just thinking "this will strengthen the relationship!").

I agree with sexual compatibility being a key factor.

To be fair, we'd ridicule you for pretty much anything at this point.

You have a lot of nerve calling me Kao 2, poldy.

Did she comfort you afterward?

I pray that you meant "tears" rhymes with "fears" and not "tears" rhymes with "bears"

Forgive me for being grapeful at my foxy ability to find a pun.

"Tears for Bears" is going to be the name of my "Tears for Fears" tribute band.

As for the couple in the OP (yours, not the TV people), do they do anything? Some heavy petting or a handjob? Or are they virtuous little Vestals?

Apparently they got up to handjob territory at the beginning of this year, but now have backed off down to just the occasional make-out session. She refused to take off any of her clothing, or allow any touching "below her belt," and the decision to back down was (apparently) mutual; both felt really guilty about it after, and decided it introduced too much lust to their relationship. So... yeah.

We really ought to turn this into a thread of where we tell our "how we lost our virginity" stories.

There is a position called the Yugo that would probably also work in a Jetta.