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Do I honestly think he's a homophobe? No. I don't. I think he's uncomfortable around homosexual men. Maybe because he's afraid they'll hit on him and he's in the position where he has to explain that he's not gay. Sort of the same way you'd be uncomfortable around an ugly member of the sex you're attracted to, and you're worried they'll come on to you and you'd have to shoot them down without insulting them.
To be fair, the reason I don't like strange men coming onto me (their attractiveness doesn't really come into the picture) is because quite a few of them have the nasty habit of verbally harassing me if I turn them down, no matter how polite I am. Men who hit on you without even knowing you generally aren't doing it because they like your personality.
Let's not even get into what happens when I straight-up ignore some fu
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stranger that expects me to be receptive to this sort of thing at any time they please (you know, like when I'm reading on the bus). God forbid I don't want someone getting pissy and calling me a bi
tch because that unasked-for $5 drink didn't earn him my attention, especially when I just wanted to enjoy a few drinks with my friends, or that I don't really want to be repeatedly asked for coffee and deal with the requisite sulking while I'm at work. I've now lost count of these sorts of occurrences.
I don't think this is generally a problem with a dude hitting on another dude, because gay men generally don't feel entitled to a straight dude's attention. So excuse me if I'm not offended on some guy's behalf when some man has the gall to call him attractive and then let it be if he says he's not interested.
Edited, Dec 2nd 2011 10:04am by Sweetums