Dear lord, Alma. I hope you're being cute.
Jophiel wrote:
Kachi wrote:
Kinda surprised by the unenlightened view of polyamory here.
There hasn't been much discussion of polyamory at all (two people?). It's mainly been about polygamy, which is a legal matter.
I sort of gleaned that the context was more towards the idea of polyamory. I think everyone is familiar with the special "Utah compound" brand of it, but there are polyamorous people all over the country, in addition to swinging, who generally don't publicize it and so the lifestyle isn't well-understood beyond what you see on sensational MSNBC documentaries.
There was one young lady that I really liked-- very attractive, similar interests, no red flag qualities... except that she was polyamorous. She preferred to have intimate relationships with multiple men, would not be in a monoamorous relationship, and this was always understood by the people she was involved with, who were often polyamorous themselves. She didn't normally cohabitate, but others do. Sometimes all involved cohabitate together (like in the Utah villages), sometimes two cohabitate and have separate relationships with others who live away, etc... there are all kinds of complex combinations and somewhere a group of people to represent each one.
Nadenu wrote:
I have no problem with polygamy between consenting adults, but I think those that engage in it are complete idiots. One spouse is sometimes one too many, I can't imagine 3 or 4.
I wouldn't chalk it up to intelligence-- it's just not for everyone. Many people in those relationships feel as though they're surrounded by friends, they can divide up the work, and they're very satisfied. Personally my partner and I shared an apartment with my brother and his partner (not as romantic partners, of course)... the three of them hated the situation. Personally, I really liked the idea of living with three of my favorite people under one roof, even in a small apartment. Some people just don't find that living romantically or platonically with one person is as satisfying as two, three, or more. They like having those deeply intimate relationships with more than one person, and/or knowing that the people they are intimate with are intimate with one another (again, either romantically or platonically).
Of course, people who struggle to maintain one good relationship would probably find it to be more trouble than it's worth. I think polyamory is better suited to those who tend to have more effortless relationships.