Nilatai wrote:
I'm just speculating, but has our opponents to SSM like to bring up, marriage is all about tax breaks and other benefits. The reason polygamy is illegal is probably to avoid abusing those systems.
Like I said, speculations so don't quote me or anything.
I'm quoting you anyway!
To me, marriage isn't about tax breaks and other benefits. Legalized/licensed marriage, from the state's perspective, is about simplifying questions about child support and responsibility when/if two people produce offspring. Since the state will get dragged into any sort of legal dispute involving these things, it has a vested interest in this. The tax breaks and benefits are designed to encourage those who might produce offspring to into into the legal/licensed status so as to codify that relationship legally and make those issues easier to resolve (and decrease the likelihood they'll come up at all).
The purpose of marriage is not to provide those benefits, but to get as many people who might produce children to do so in a legally binding state of marriage. The benefits offered by the government in return for entering into that legal status are the means to achieve that end, not the end itself. Kind of an important distinction. And one that is relevant to the polygamy discussion.
Polygamy in the most common sense (one man with multiple wives) generally doesn't violate that objective. It's why that form of marriage has been relatively common throughout history. However, it does complicate things more than a simple one-man one-woman arrangement. Also, historically, it places the women and offspring in relatively greater harm if the man dies or abandons them for some reason.
In todays world? I think Polygamy should be more accepted than it is. Obviously, I'm not talking about the whole "force your followers to marry their teen daughters to you" approach, but the general idea of having multiple spouses does have some benefits. One of the major economic hurdles in todays world is that you almost do need two incomes to support a family these days. Many married couples have to face the choice of both working to make enough money and not spending as much time with their children, or sacrificing one salary so that one of them may be a stay at home mom/dad. If a man had two wives, two of them could work while one stayed home full time. In theory, it's a pretty decent idea.
The problem of complexity still arises though, which is likely why it's still opposed. Divorce gets that much messier, doubly so since one of the three people will have no biological connection to each child the marriage produces. Trying to do this with multiple husbands is even more complex, since then you can't be sure who the father is without tests. Something the state doesn't want to have to deal with (right now anyway).
Polygamy is still opposed for that legal complexity issue (and certainly some social ideals reflecting common religious beliefs), but IMO it is a far more reasonable change to our marriage laws than SSM. It's far less of a step and doesn't require basically chucking out everything that most people think marriage is about.