Sir Xsarus wrote:
gbaji wrote:
A couple who'd like to have their pensions and SS transfer from one to the other, but don't want to have joint custody of children, or have power of attorney over each other, etc. Think outside the box a bit. The marriage contract is pretty darn binding. What if I want to put someone on my health care tax free, but *don't* want to suffer that persons bad credit? I can't do that right now, because in order to get the health care tax exemption I'm required to enter into a contract which requires that my finances be treated the same as hers. Bad credit and all.
It's not as minor an issue as you might think.
People might want this, but since it's not marriage who the @#%^ cares? Why would this change? This isn't a problem
What do you mean by "it's not marriage"? We're talking about a set of criteria which must be met to qualify for government granted benefits. That is the entire issue here.
Those criteria specifically exclude single people. They specifically exclude a whole list of different combinations of people for a whole set of different reasons. It's not like the law says that every person or combination of people in the country can get tax exempt health insurance *except* couples consisting of two people of the same sex. So let's stop pretending that this is all about excluding homosexuals and only homosexuals.
What's the saying? You can lead a horse to water...?
gbaji wrote:
Of course it does! If three people want to form a marriage, they can't be recognized as such by the government, file their taxes as such, share SS/pensions, gain access to funding programs, etc.
Again we're not talking about more then 2 people. It's a separate issue, with different reasons, and completely irrelevant. This isn't a problem.[/quote]
If you are a polygamist and you want your second wife to be able to get your SS benefits when you die, it absolutely is. WTF? It's not about more than 2 people because you don't want to talk about relationships consisting of more than two people?
Those relationships are excluded from the benefits of marriage. It's absolutely relevant, not matter how much you don't want it to be.
gbaji wrote:
Nope, and the fact that you cite common law marriage is really telling. It serves no purpose to encourage people to get married, rather it recognizes that they are a unique state and need to be treated differently.
Huh? Common law marriage means that the state treats the couple legally as though they are in a marriage contract even though they never filed one. The point is that the state has a vested interest in getting heterosexual couples to enter into that contract. So much so that we have created a set of benefits for them if they do, and many states simply force them to be in the contract if they simply live together for a period of time.
What it points to is the objective of our marriage laws. They are clearly designed to get couples who are living together as a couple to enter into a legally recognized contract. We can move on to discussing *why* the state has a vested interest in doing that, but you wont even recognize that it does despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
I just don't understand how you can hold a position which requires that you so blatantly ignore significant amounts of facts. Don't you start to question your position at some point?
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I'm not sure I've ever seen so many strawmen in one post before.
You apparently don't know what a strawman is. Every single one of those criteria is a discriminatory point with regard to the granting of a marriage license. I didn't invent them, they are in the damn law! How the hell can you deny this? Do I have to quote the relevant statute? Or will you continue to bury your head in the sand even then?