Calling The Cops On Your KidFollow

That's my solution.

My parents called the cops on my older sister while in high school dueto general & consistent "delinquency". They gave her chances, but the final straw was when we returned home from being at my grandfather's death bead for about a week to find that she had broken into the house (she was staying at a friend's) & had a party while we were all gone. The house was trashed, copious amount of underage drinking had happened (as the trash bags full of empties were found in the ditch next to the house), copious amounts of vandalism had happened, & they found a used condom in their bed.

What should be noted, however, is that my folks had to PAY for all the court fees as well as her probation that included mandatory classes. All in all it came close to 100K back in 1998 & almost lead to my folks having to file for bankruptcy.

Knowing that: no, I would not call the cops on my kid for pushing me down after I caught him or her selling pot. However, I wouldn't let them back into the house with their stash if they were dealing. While I would be much more understanding if I found my 16 years old's personal supply of pot, there's no way I'd let them deal out of our house because ultimately, as an adult I'm responsible for it.

I think step two is actually rape, then murder.

Maybe on your side of the river.

Over here, it's murder, then rape. Ask BT, I'm sure he could confirm.

It's legal here in Scott Brown country, where your opinion on the matter is dismissed as ill informed & bigoted.

I'm also a businessman and I don't want to kill his drive to earn me money.

They start selling pot and assaulting their parents?

Seriously, that was even more disjointed than usual.

Gee, I sure was worried that varus, of all people, might pass judgment on me. Thank god he's blaming the schools instead, I'd hate for an uneducated hick to think I was dumb.

I read the quote. It's almost wholly unrelated to your response, which was a complete non-sequitur.

Legally, a narcotic is an opiate or opoid. Pot doesn't qualify.

Where laudanum, opium and heroin are concerned, booze is just a mixer.

Heroine is highly addictive. Alcohol is a substance that can be consumed with no ill effects in moderation by all but a small fraction of the population. Say less stupid things.

First offense?

My first question would be "Do you still owe money for this?". The answer would determine my course of action.

If he owes money I'd be driving him to the place he got it and having him give it back. (this is for his future safety).

If he doesn't owe money it woud be going down the toilet (read: hidden in my ceiling without his knowledge).

Then it would be handled in house. Serious chores, restrictions, oversight for quite some time.

I doubt my 16 year old would be capable of pushing me over a chair, but if he did **** would hit the fan large.

Second/Third time, cops get called. If he didn't learn the first time the courts can straighten his *** out. Better now than later.

Ultimately I don't have a problem with pot at all, but being a parent sometimes being a hypocrit is part of the job. Also, dealing (and this is clearly dealing based on the description) is another story entirely, you don't dimebag up your pot to share with friends, you do that to sell (typically friends of friends of friends at that age). There are safety issues when illegal substances are involved (mostly the people associated with them) and most children do not have the life skills to manage these situations effectively.