Lesbian Teen Sent to Fake PromFollow

It's a freaking prom. Seriously. Its only value is that placed upon it by those who attend. Thus, it's perfectly reasonable for the prom to reflect what those who attend think a "prom" should be like. If a community of nudists think that means showing up in the buff, by all means they can make their rules require nudity. If a community of amish think that means showing up with the women covered from head to toe, then that's their choice. If a community of Muslims believe that prom requires traditional dress, that's their choice as well.

You get that this is about choice, right? It's about an event in which more than one person is involved. One person should not get to dictate the terms of the event for everyone else. If she does not value the dress or attendance requirements for the prom as it was planned, then she doesn't. But that does not give her the right to destroy that event for those who do. She can attend a dance that does not have the same rules or requirements, and those who do place value on such things can attend one that does. That is "fair".

There are many sorts of events that I don't like participating in, or don't think that whatever requirements are present make the event worth my time. But you know what I do? I go do something else that I enjoy. I don't fight legal battles to force other people to stop doing what they enjoy and force them to change what their doing to suit me. IMO, doing otherwise is just being a jerk. Which is what this girl did. She was not making prom "better" for everyone. She was destroying the prom that everyone else enjoyed so that it would be what she wanted it to be.

How did that work out for her? As I pointed out in my previous post, when you try to do that, most of the time you'll find yourself eating lunch all by yourself. You can't force people to attend a prom. They have to choose to do so. She forced a change to the "official" prom which made it something most of the other kids didn't want to attend. Surprise!

Telling the (federally funded) school that they have to invite the gay girl to her own prom and let her bring her own date is not the same as telling each individual student at the school taht they must hang out and socialize with the gay girl.

None of which applies. Again, just don't invite her to your private prom.

I didn't get that from the news article. Is it in one of the blogs/op-ed pieces?

That's not what I got from the story at all.

What I got was that there was to be a private "prom," and they told this chick and seven other people that it was at the country club. Then they held a different prom at a different location, and there is speculation that there were school officials involved in the super secret prom that no one told the gay girl and seven other random students about.

I don't see how anyone deserves to be told that the party is at one place while they're really hosting the "real" party at a different venue. It's despicable and cruel and no one deserves that.

Here's an analogy that applies: it's like suing to get your job back. WTF?!? You really want to work in a place that obviously finds the idea of you working there so distasteful that they're willing to risk a lawsuit to get rid of you?!?

Morons.

I guess that would work when talking about the first prom, when she was suing for them to allow her to attend. But it's not the same scenario, as she doesn't really have a choice about going to that school or not (or rather, the choice is probably graduate or don't graduate) and the prom was an opportunity to have a nice night with her girlfriend and friends. She was going to be under the district's hand until she was out anyway.

With any lawsuit now, it would be for cold-hard cash. And that doesn't fall under the above analogy.

Did the schoolchildren rise up and speak with one voice that she wasn't to come to the original prom? Some kids took her side even when the prom was canceled "because of her". I'm sure she had friends there, even if the student body at large didn't want her there. She was forcing the school board to accept her, not the kids, who one should note had no say in the matter either way. And, in fact, she was already accepted - it was her parent and attire she was forcing them to accept.

There were kids I hated at my prom. I didn't feel like I had the right to keep them from being there just because I didn't like them.

But my main beef is with them setting up two proms in an effort to trick her into showing up at a sparsely populated dance just to be cruel. That's pathetic, and I'm embarrassed that grown adults would do such a thing.