Sweetums wrote:
I know the history of it, but I'm thinking about it in a more modern context, because that's really what actually interests me.
Personally, I never thought it would "change me." I just knew it was a huge step for a relationship, and it took me a while to be comfortable with a guy that I wanted to be that serious with.
I still don't think I would ever have a one night stand. Sex, to me, is just too personal and intimate to ever be casual. I get that it's completely different for other people.
Funny story: I live in such a small town. The first guy I had sex with was someone I met in college and he lived all the way across the state from my hometown. He was a virgin, too, and we waited two years before we had sex for the first time. Later, when I left college and moved back home, I started dating the guy that I am now married to. Third date, and we were having sex. He told me later that he knew I had waited two years with my other boyfriend, and he thought he'd have to wait that long with me, too.
I was both mortified that my sex life was such public knowledge, and touched that he was willing to wait that long.
