gbaji wrote:
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What do you think the origin of that rule (if it was ever a rule at all prior to her asking permission) was? You think rules restricting same-sex dates and transgendered attire arose to keep straight kids in line? No, of course not. They exist to restrict the appearance of gay kids at the prom. The rule is aimed at gay kids.
Please tell me you are kidding? The rules exist to ensure that the kids come to prom dressed appropriately and with a date. Not a friend. A date. The fact that how they ensured that people brought dates instead of friends was to require them to buy tickets as a couple consisting of one girl and one guy should indicate to you how much they weren't even at all thinking about gay couples.
The traditional rules for proms came about long before the modern gay rights movement got anyone to even think about gay high school kids brining same sex partners to school dances. They didn't arise as some kind of backlash against gay kids, and it's absurd that you'd even suggest it.
Are you seriously suggesting that the school made their rules up specifically to prevent a gay kid from going to the prom? Wow. That's paranoid...
What the everloving FU
CK are you on about?
There
ARE no traditional "rules" for prom. There were only presumed guidelines of comportment, and these guidelines could be and have always been flouted easily so long as it was all in good fun and didn't trigger anyone's kneejerk homophobia.
1991: Platonic guy/girl pals Drew and Holly go stag to prom together at a high school in one of the most conservative areas of the midwest Bible belt. Deciding it was unfair that she should have to pay buy a gown while Drew rented a tux for considerably less, Holly showed up in tux as well. Ha ha, wink nudge, girl-in-a-tux lulz ensued.
1992: Yours truly attends prom at the same high school stag with two other female friends. At least 1/4 of the people there were attending stag, usually in groups of two or more, since the point of the prom was to dress up and go to a formal dance, regardless of whether or not you had a date.
1996: My younger brother also attends prom stag at this same very conservative high school with a group of six of his friends, complete with rented limo.
2003: My younger cousin goes stag to prom with her best friend.
2008: My niece attends prom stag with a group of her friends. Tickets are sold on an individual basis; no requirement for coming in a pair or bringing a date exists.
I find it exceptionally difficult to believe other parts of the country would have more stringent rules on bringing opposite-sex dates and dress code than an area where there existed the highest number of churches
per capita in the country.
Do I believe these "rules" about what girls MUST wear to prom were fabricated once the concept of a girl wearing a tux left the realm of ha-ha-wink-nudge-what-a-good-joke and entered the realm of actual gender expression? Damn straight I do. Do I believe that "rules" requiring opposite-sex dates suddenly cropped up only once the possibility was raised that someone might bring an actual same-sex love interest to prom as opposed to a "stag" partner? Oh, hell yeah.
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Ok. But what if the actions and decisions associated with "who they are" were created *after* the rules they are now using those associations to attack? Do lesbians insist on a right to wear a tuxedo to a formal dance because that's what lesbians are biologically inclined to do? Or do they want to wear those clothes because they've been taught that they should, by others who specifically want to attack the concept of gender associated clothing?
Transgender identities begin emerging in early childhood. If this girl has always identified as transgender, wearing a tux is simply an expression of who she is.
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I'm just saying that we need to be aware of this factor when looking at an issue like this...
And I'm just saying you're a fu
cking idiot if you're naive enough to think it unlikely that these "guidelines" weren't conveniently cemented as "rules" until very recently when the possibility of same-sex dates and transgender dress became a serious consideration.
Edited, Mar 29th 2010 8:04pm by Ambrya