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The entire issue rests on the fact that she is a lesbian. If she'd been straight, no one would have blinked an eye about her being denied a request to wear a tuxedo or bring a girlfriend as a date. It is interesting how the truth tends to garner the strongest reactions from some posters though. It's almost like knowing that you're wrong pisses you off or something...
I'll stipulate that the relevant issue is that she's a lesbian. Okay, that's the relevant point.
Thank you! An honest answer at last...
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Oddly, it doesn't weaken the argument at all. In fact it strengthens it, because she wanted to bring her girlfriend to the prom.
Of course. That's why the case was brought in the first place. But the point I'm trying to make right at this moment is that Belk's claim that she'd support a straight girls "right" to do the exact same thing just as much is false. Of course she wouldn't. No one would. The fact that she'd make that claim is outrageous, yet me pointing it out resulted in some nerve touching apparently.
I'm fine with people debating their position, but it doesn't help matters when someone inserts a falsehood into the issue. I was trying to get to the point that this is about her being a lesbian, and not some innate right of any student to wear whatever they please and take whomever they please to a prom. I thought that was pretty darn self-evident and was honestly floored when Belk insisted otherwise. I'm sorry if my response was a bit harsh, but I just didn't know how else to respond to what appeared to me to just be a refusal to agree with anything I say no matter how obviously true it may be.
Can we get back to actually discussing the issue now? ;)
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It's kind of a date night, if you recall. Not exclusively couples, but mainly couples, there being recognized as couples, arriving together, dressing in tacky but complementary outfits, blah blah. That's what it's about.
Absolutely. It's also about tradition and pageantry though. And for some participants, that's very very important. There's a reason why prom tickets tend to be pricey and the rules are more strict than for other school dances. The question is: Does her right to make a statement about who she's dating outweigh other people's rights to enjoy the prom in a traditional manner?
People spend that much money on prom
because of those things. Yes. I'm aware that at some schools, it's pretty much a joke event. But that's usually because of an "anyone can come dressed however they want" attitude, and not the other way around. Obviously, this school had very strict rules about their prom. That's a choice the school made. That choice represents the desires of the administration of that school, the parents of the students who attend, and in some way the students themselves. We can question that choice in specifics, but I think it's wrong to just chuck out the fact that this choice was made at some point. Every rule was decided on at some prior point in time using some process which was agreed upon by all involved.
I'm saying that she shouldn't just eliminate all those other people's right to have a prom that reflects their views of what a prom should be just because she doesn't share that view. There are usually 8-10 dances during a school year, most of which allow you to dress anyway you want, and to bring anyone you want. Why attack the one dance that has additional rules? Isn't it ok to have different dances with different rules? When did that become wrong? Lots of schools have the Sadie Hawkins dance, right? Should that be banned if a student refuses to play the role reversal typically involved? Isn't that silly?
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She has a constitutionally protected right to express herself, even if it makes the vice principal at East Jesus High School feel all funny in his righteous parts.
Not on someone else's dime though. She is not the only person attending, or even paying to attend. By that argument, dress codes in high end restaurants and clubs are a violation of your constitutional rights. See how far that gets you...
Obviously, the issue becomes more complex if we're dealing with a public school. But there still isn't an absolute right there. Schools have dress codes. They have conduct codes. A student doesn't get to insist that he or she can do anything they want under the banner of free speech. Free speech ends when you're on someone else's lawn so to speak. That goes for public land as well.
I'm not sure what linking to the very court decision we're debating proves. Um... I know a judge made a poor decision on the issue of constitutionality. I was kinda hoping you'd like to some previous decisions regarding dress codes at school events to maybe add something to the discussion, or to maybe lend support to the judges decision in this case.
Cause that would be useful...