Guenny wrote:
Friends and family can be the victims of rape too, Belki. I don't think Locke was trying to say he was more of a victim than she is.
I didn't think he was saying he's more of a victim. I guess I just read that as, "I can't believe she burdened me with this, then didn't take my advice and do something about it!" It's not really his place to demand she do more than she can.
I agree that she should go to the authorities and try to get this guy stopped, don't get me wrong. But what she needs from him is a sympathetic shoulder and ear, not anger that she isn't doing what he wants.
Locke wrote:
I just hate that I have this information and can really not do anything with it, as she's not helping herself. Or maybe she is, by opening up. But she said she doesn't want to do anything else... and to me it just feels like that wouldn't be enough.
I think you're doing her a disservice, and you have absolutely no idea how difficult it was for her to go as far as she has so far. If she only just recognized that it was rape, she's taken a pretty big step.
I think talking to her therapist or even calling an anonymous help line if she's that worried about her therapist reporting it is a good idea. You can offer to sit with her while she's on the phone with them and hold her hand, if that helps her.