So i've had a bad week, thats no need to be grumpy right?Follow

I've heard it's not how big his assets are but how far up his *** they reside that's the problem.

Don't even try to bag on the Altima. Those things are ********

If it breaks, I have a ******* collection I can sell him!

I'd assume you'd be getting nothing as well.

When Glenn Beck says "buy gold" he means he has a lot of gold on hand and wants to inflate its value.

I've always wondered about the "for the childrens' sake" argument. While my parents weren't at each others' throats, they stayed married for something like thirty years until my father died and seemed mildly irritated the whole time.

I'd think that divorce can be for the benefit of the childrens' well-being, not despite. Like, if it's shown that one of the parents is a useless waste of meat who can't be ***** to (or trusted to) take care of their own kids.

Tarv, my heart goes out to you man. I hope you and the kids get through this as safely as possible in the hurt dept.

I'm a big fan of taking marriage for what it means with major exceptions such as abuse. For me marriage is life. It's also why I am fully behind living with a person for a couple of years before saying I DO, making little demon spawns, and then realizing holy fuck what did I chain myself to?

But abuse isnt always so cut and dry. It isnt always physical. I tend to think mental and emotional abuse is much much worse and leaves bigger scars that dont go away as easily in the long run. I dont know your history Tarv, but if you're saying that example was on a good day, if you have already tried counseling multiple times, and anything else you can think of to work it out, and you made damn sure she knew how you felt about this and still didnt care? It's not always the end of the world to cut your losses.

Per divorce and kidlets: It takes a strong set of parents, but more often one insanely strong balls of steel parent, to do their damndest to ensure no matter what happens behind closed doors with Mommy and Daddy, the kids are kept out of it. Too often the parents use the kids as pawns and that can really fuck the kids up. Im just stating this now, if your soon to be ex decides to try and play the kids against you, no matter what dont play the games. If she makes you out to be a bad guy, dont fight back with your kids. You may not get rewarded for your behavior now, but the kids will understand you were and are the better man in the long run. Just dont ever, ever put your kids in the middle. Walk away from the situation she wants to fight about if it means a fight that can hurt them.

Anyways, good luck.

Edited, Mar 9th 2010 7:18pm by DSD

WOOOOSH

ooooh, a rate down and insults! Butthurt much? The fact you cant figure out why shows a clear sign in your lack of intelligence

You're the idiot if you think that DSD was saying that physical abuse doesn't cause lasting harm.

No, I don't think that. I certainly haven't said that, and if you have inferred it from what I have said then that's probably the result of your patina of imbecility fucking your apprehension.



Let's look at what this shows us, apart from that DSD has not yet let the apostrophe into her life. It's really pretty simple. Either DSD is using her own private definitions of physical and emotional abuse where there is a dichotomy between the two (where what would normally be referred to as physical abuse would have both physical and emotional components), in which case she is communicating abysmally and acting smug about it (I find this possibility unlikely), she is stupid enough to genuinely believe that physical abuse has no emotional component (again, unlikely) or she made a thoughtless comment in her rush to recite a platitude that suggested so and hasn't the spine to admit it. This is the one I believe to be the case.

There are other possibilities, of course, but they are all even worse than these ones. It's a favour not to mention them, really.

Edited, Mar 10th 2010 2:41am by Kavekk