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#1 Feb 11 2010 at 8:53 AM Rating: Good
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So that commercialized holiday where people feel forced to buy things for their loved ones is coming up. 3 questions come to mind:
Is Valentines Day a holiday specifically for couples or do you celebrate it as a holiday for love in general. I've heard both perspectives and now Im intrigued to see what you guys think. Do you celebrate Valentines Day or do you feel that this holiday is contrived to guilt you into spending money to prove your love? And are you doing anything for the holiday?
#2 Feb 11 2010 at 8:56 AM Rating: Good
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Valentine's Day is the epitome of Capitalism and it's rampant abuse of iut's ability to place you under it's thumb and make you do things you don't necessarily want to do. We should all revolt agaisnt this wretched misuse of power.



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#3 Feb 11 2010 at 8:58 AM Rating: Good
My wife's getting some special attention that day, but nothing over the top. The kid is a holiday nut, so he likes to go a little overboard for every single one. He decided to make the cards for his class this year (mom's a crafter, I tried to talk him out of it).

I haven't done much overly special for the day ever, really. Now that I'm married, maybe even less so. I usually go out and make something small-ish & personal for her every year. Flowers aren't that big of a deal, because I buy her flowers randomly 3-4 times a month. She hates greeting card company cards, so that's out.
#4 Feb 11 2010 at 9:04 AM Rating: Good
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Lady DSD wrote:
So that commercialized holiday where people feel forced to buy things for their loved ones is coming up. 3 questions come to mind:
Is Valentines Day a holiday specifically for couples or do you celebrate it as a holiday for love in general.
My 3 biggest loves are my kids and hubby of course. I typically buy some chocolates for the kids, but devote most any valentine energy I might have to my husband and romance.

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Do you celebrate Valentines Day or do you feel that this holiday is contrived to guilt you into spending money to prove your love?
We usually go out for dinner and make an effort to spend quality time together...and alone.

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And are you doing anything for the holiday?
That's a good question. I haven't, yet, done any planning.
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#5 Feb 11 2010 at 9:06 AM Rating: Good
Fundamentally, the gf and I are both of the opinion that VDay is bad bad joke. Couples shouldn't need to be told on which day to celebrate their love, even more so when this process is entirely driven by commercial imperatives. It puts pressure on couples to spend money, makes single people feel inadequate, and is generally a retarded concept. Seriously. Love Day? It's hard to believe we've sunken that low as a society.

Having said that, I'm cooking my girlfriend dinner, and we'll drink a nice bottle of Champagne.
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#6 Feb 11 2010 at 9:09 AM Rating: Good
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I still don't know what to get my girlfriend
How about a day at Ugly's Spa? You know, some fragrant bathy stuff, bubbles, massages, foot rubs, a glass of champagne with or some kind of champagne cocktail with a strawberry/cherry in it. Don't forget the lipstick.

..or a poem.
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#7 Feb 11 2010 at 9:10 AM Rating: Excellent
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Sure, there is commercialization to it, along with a bit of social conformity, but It's an excuse to do somethign extra special for the one you love, so why not take it? If the overcomercialization bothers you, you could always make your own chocolates, or choose to support a small buisiness chocolatier somewhere, or maybe donate to a worthy charity and give the donation as a gift (I reccommend the Perth Zoo Adopt a Wombat program personally)

Were I not rather depressingly single, I'd probaly go hit up the fancy chocolate stores over in Portland and maybe one of the stuffed microbes from thinkgeek so I could give someone a bad pun. (look honey, I got you the common cold for valentines day!) etc.

I think its more about intent than commercialization though.
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#8 Feb 11 2010 at 9:13 AM Rating: Good
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Fundamentally, the gf and I are both of the opinion that VDay is bad bad joke. Couples shouldn't need to be told on which day to celebrate their love, even more so when this process is entirely driven by commercial imperatives. It puts pressure on couples to spend money, makes single people feel inadequate, and is generally a retarded concept. Seriously. Love Day? It's hard to believe we've sunken that low as a society.

Having said that, I'm cooking my girlfriend dinner, and we'll drink a nice bottle of Champagne.
As far as holidays go, Valentines Day is a favorite of mine. It's low pressure. I don't have to meet, greet or even think about the big family and pool of friends. It reminds and encourages me to cherish my love, and I can pretty much count on good sex sporting multiple orgasms.
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#9 Feb 11 2010 at 9:16 AM Rating: Good
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I've never understood the connection between St. Valentine and what occurs during this holiday. Anyways, while I think it is totally commercialized, if couples can feel a little closer, have some time together and express some love, more power to them. As for me, I think I'll be babysitting my sister's kids while she gets romantic. I have this craft thing I bought to make their own pop-up book so I'll have fun with that. :P I figure, that's love!

Edited, Feb 11th 2010 10:17am by Annabella
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#10 Feb 11 2010 at 9:17 AM Rating: Good
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We took advantage of the fact we had a sitter and celebrated last weekend. We usually try to do something for each other because I think it's thoughtless to ***** to your loved one about how going out of your way for them is capitalist brainwash, but if all I get is a handmade card because money's tight, then I'm content.

Edit- it never occurred to me to celebrate this with kids, but the little paper flowers I get from Jr. are precious to me.

Edited, Feb 11th 2010 9:21am by Atomicflea
#11 Feb 11 2010 at 9:17 AM Rating: Good
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Elinda wrote:
..or a poem.
Ugh, that sounds like work. I'll go with your first suggestion maybe. Thanks.
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#12 Feb 11 2010 at 9:18 AM Rating: Excellent
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So that commercialized holiday where people feel forced to buy things for their loved ones is coming up.

People are weak if they feel "forced" to do anything by Madison Avenue and are only aware of their own weakness when they feel resentful for it.

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Is Valentines Day a holiday specifically for couples or do you celebrate it as a holiday for love in general.

It's a Catholic feast day to commemorate St. Valentine, martyr of pre-Christian Rome, arrested for performing marriage ceremonies for Christian couples*. Smiley: grin

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Do you celebrate Valentines Day or do you feel that this holiday is contrived to guilt you into spending money to prove your love?

We acknowledge it. I don't think Flea "proves" her love on the day but she (and I) might make an extra show of affection.

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And are you doing anything for the holiday?

We kind of did "Valentine's Day" last weekend but we'll spend some extra time together this weekend.


*So it goes, anyway. There's actually three Saint Valentines in the Catholic martyrdom rolls
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#13 Feb 11 2010 at 9:19 AM Rating: Excellent
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Me and the Mrs used to make a big deal, but these days we just exchange cards and hump.

Trick is after 26 years together, finding a card you haven't got in the years past.
#14 Feb 11 2010 at 9:22 AM Rating: Good
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Vday is usually low key for us. We do include the kiddos by getting them a small box of chocolate and a card. I think thats more for us to see their faces light up when they see something special and placed where they sit at the table than anything. Plus with 1 kid in school and the other in preschool, the hand out Valentines Day things there so I guess I look at it as all inclusive. But the MR and I try to do something special but not over the top for the two of us. I dont need a specific holiday to know he loves me or to tell him I love him. I think it's pretty obvious. But it is nice to have one day to use as a reminder to take a step back from everyday life and appreciate your loved ones. Commercialized? Sure. But you dont have to buy into that aspect of the holiday.
As for what we're doing, we're doing more than normal this year as my mom moved down and can come to watch the kids overnight. So for the first time in almost 3 years, the MR and I are taking off Saturday night to see Avatar in 3d (finally!!!) we're going to check out an authentic Spanish Tapas restaurant and hope its as good as the one we left back in Mass, and then we're getting a hotel room for the night. And probably pass out for our first full nights sleep without interruption in years Smiley: lol
#15 Feb 11 2010 at 9:24 AM Rating: Good
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Me and the Mrs used to make a big deal, but these days we just exchange cards and hump.

Trick is after 26 years together, finding a card you haven't got in the years past.
Everything about this post is romance. Take note, n00bs.
#16 Feb 11 2010 at 9:31 AM Rating: Good
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Edited, Feb 11th 2010 4:32pm by Elinda
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#17 Feb 11 2010 at 9:33 AM Rating: Good
I announced to my husband that this Valentine's Day is about him. I'm taking him out to his favorite restaurant, we'll probably exchange cards, then I will take him home and do whatever he wants. With him or to him, matters not to me.

He has to work on Sunday, so Saturday will be our Valentine's day.
#18 Feb 11 2010 at 9:49 AM Rating: Good
I think it's about people you love in general. Thankfully, the US hasn't gone as far as Japan, where women are expected to provide not only chocolates, but home made chocolates, for every male (or female) above them in authority where they work.

Husband is getting a cake with a heart in the middle. He saw it after I was looking at the website Pikko linked on Facebook, and was drooling instantly, so I promised him I'd give it a shot.
#19 Feb 11 2010 at 9:54 AM Rating: Excellent
When you put a heart in the middle of the cake, does it effect baking time? I would think getting the meat thermometer in to test done-ness would mar the surface.
#20 Feb 11 2010 at 9:55 AM Rating: Excellent
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When you put a heart in the middle of the cake, does it effect baking time? I would think getting the meat thermometer in to test done-ness would mar the surface.
No need for that. When the ***** on top is dry, the cake's ready.
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#21 Feb 11 2010 at 10:00 AM Rating: Good
Ah, see, the trick is to wrap a strip of damp towel around the outer edge of the cake pan, to ensure even cooking time.

Edited, Feb 11th 2010 12:21pm by catwho
#22 Feb 11 2010 at 10:03 AM Rating: Excellent
I have to do stuff for the girlfriend, but tend to get rewarded for it.

So it's win-win.
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#23 Feb 11 2010 at 10:03 AM Rating: Good
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Lady DSD wrote:
a holiday for love in general


I like that sentiment. I've always been single on Valentines day, so it has never had much appeal to me. I'm very much inclined to join the majority who say that it's just a commercialized holiday to make money for various companies, much like every other holiday has become.

Despite that, I do have plans in the making. My friends band is playing on the 13th, and I will get to see a large group of friends that I rarely get to spend time with. To me that is special and a great way to celebrate 'universal' love if you will. Also, if he says yes, I may even have a date. Any further planning would jinx it though so I'll just leave it at that.
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#24 Feb 11 2010 at 10:07 AM Rating: Good
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, finding a card you haven't got in the years past.


I did this 2 years ago I gave Elne the same card 2 years in a row. She was a bit upset, until I told her that It was the perfect card so of course she got it again.


We don't do much, maybe an extra snuggle or flogging. I do make dinner, but then I do that most nights.
Not doing it because we are supposed to do it.


St. Valentine is also credited with giving women money for their dowry, allowing them to get married.
#25 Feb 11 2010 at 10:10 AM Rating: Good
I'll probably stay home and watch TV and study, then pass out on the couch.

The commercialism sucks, there is even merchandise for March 14th now.
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#26 Feb 11 2010 at 10:13 AM Rating: Excellent
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I did this 2 years ago I gave Elne the same card 2 years in a row. She was a bit upset, until I told her that It was the perfect card so of course she got it again.

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