Jophiel wrote:
gbaji wrote:
Except that the state can't know that you or any other number of male husbands are or are not infertile. That's why we assume the spouse is the father of the child on the birth certificate. That is clearly not the case with a same-sex marriage.
So what? The woman can easily enough produce evidence in the custody dispute that I am not the biological father.
Not the point at all. I'm talking about why spouses are automatically placed on the birth certificate as the "father" of the child. The assumption which rests behind that process does not make sense when the couple is same-sex.
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It's the exact same case -- Two "parents", one of which contributed 50% of the genetic information in the baby and the other who "only" went through the medical process as a partner.
Yes. With the key difference being that this is the exception when marriages consist of a man and a woman, and are the 100% only case possible when marriages consist of two women.
The laws and procedures should flow from the most common case, with exceptions being left to the courts. The effect of simply dropping same sex couples into existing marriage laws has created a situation where the assumed norm is always false, and the exception is always true.
We create those rules so that they work the majority of the time, somewhat specifically to reduce the amount of legal fighting we have to go through. Had the state adopted separate rules for gay marriages, those rules could have included things like "spouses are not automatically placed on birth certificates" could have been included. You know. So that the automatic process now matches the norm instead of the exception.
But I suppose cries of "separate but equal!" win out against common freaking sense every single time, don't they?
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That's a lovely guess except that the other parent in the OP had been attempting to use her legally granted visitation rights for the past six years. She didn't just pop up from under a rock after six years and demand custody. She has been making an active effort towards involvement since Day One.
Yeah. I missed that paragraph. Still doesn't change the underlying issue though. It's wholly correct to create different rules with regard to birth certificates when the couple is same sex. Sadly, the blind masses will tend to respond to emotional rhetoric about false equality issues rather than applying common sense. So, we'll keep on mashing that square peg into the round hole and hope that one day it'll fit...
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Who knows? Who cares? There's a whole ton of people out there who do things without examining the legal consequences. Is that suddenly a defense?
When the entire legal situation is so new that this is a legal first? Yeah. I think not realizing ramifications which violate common sense is a pretty decent legal defense. Prior to dropping gay couples into existing marriage law, no lesbian assumed that her partner could take her child away from her legally, or even demand visitation rights if they should separate later.
Yes. It's something that is part of existing marriage. But how many times did anyone argue for gay marriage so that if they later divorced, their partner would be able to sue for visitation and/or custody rights? Ever?
The point is that the whole cause was pushed on emotion and not reason. Thus, a whole lot of people, even those at the center of the fight, likely never actually stopped and thought about what they were getting. They were so exited that they could marry that many of them rushed off to do it, not because they understood the commitment and long legal ramifications, but purely because they could.
How often have I argued that there is a pretty wide gap between what gay couples say they want, and all the things that get lumped into marriage? Every single time the thread has come up. This is one of those things. Marriage laws include a huge number of things that gay couples don't want, don't need, or for which there's no rational reason for them to have. Yet, because there are a small number of things they do want, need, and should be able to have, they push for the whole package.
Well... Surprise! Got more than you bargained for, didn't you? Marriage isn't just some toy to insist on having because the other kid has one. But that's how a whole lot of people treat it in the context of this issue.