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There are people out there who aren't Ellen fans? That woman is amazing.
CBD wrote:
There are people out there who aren't Ellen fans? That woman is amazing.
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An invasion of armies can be resisted, but not an idea whose time has come. Victor Hugo
An invasion of armies can be resisted, but not an idea whose time has come. Victor Hugo
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The more you love, the more you can love--and the more intensely you love. Nor is there any limit on how many you can love. If a person had Time Enough, he could Love all of the majority who are decent and just. - Robert Heinlein, The Notebooks of Lazarus Long
I'm with Pigtails on this one. I'm on the side that you can love multiple people without having situations where jealousy arises (Though it could happen). I believe this has to do with social conditioning growing up.
There are always risks in trust, diseases, etc., but if one had the opportunity to find people who were willing to attempt to give such a thing a shot and actually made it work, who are we to judge if it makes them happy? I myself will not as I follow that if it makes you happy, and doesn't hurt anyone physically or emotionally, then go for it.
Congrats Pigtails on finding another who yu can love equally as your current squeeze and I hpe all works out for you and you find more who wish to join as part of your extended family.
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however the stereotype of women going crazy emotional and irrational during this time of the month is largely a product of the media.
Thank you to Exo for the link.
I lol'd.
As for the OP I can't really say that I can agree. If that's your thing then kudos for following what you want and internet-fives if it works out for ya. Personally I've neither the need nor desire to seek another woman; I love the one I've got. 10 years ago I might have been on the same page as you, but then that might explain why I'm divorced.
Jacobsdeception the Sly wrote:
Right. Women are crazy, emotional, and irrational all the time. PMS is just an excuse.
Women are no more or less crazy or emotional than anyone else regardless of where they might be in their menstrual cycle. However, there are days that they may be slightly less tolerant of the ignorant, selfish ways of others.
I don't really have anything for the OP. It's not something I've ever had a desire for. I don't think a marriage would be strengthened by bringing another individual into the relationship, but eh, to each his own.
Edited, Dec 4th 2009 3:46pm by Elinda
Alma wrote:
I lost my post
Elinda wrote:
Women are no more or less crazy or emotional than anyone else regardless of where they might be in their menstrual cycle. However, there are days that they may be slightly less tolerant of the ignorant, selfish ways of others.
That's been my experience, and this is coming from someone who actually has PMDD. Hormone levels simply make me more likely to react to provocation, and less likely to moderate my response when I do so. But there IS some sort of provocation involved--it just might not be at a level to which I would normally respond any other time. I don't just fly off the handle for no reason.
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Right. Women are crazy, emotional, and irrational all the time. PMS is just an excuse.
I think I loathe the occasions when men say atrociously stupid things about women, staining my soul and person simply by proxy, more even than when women say stupid things about men. It's a pretty close level of loathing to be sure, but the former is just slightly more disdainful to my emotional landscape.
Edited, Dec 4th 2009 10:47am by Pensive
Pensive the Ludicrous wrote:
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Right. Women are crazy, emotional, and irrational all the time. PMS is just an excuse.
I think I loathe the occasions when men say atrociously stupid things about women, staining my soul and person simply by proxy, more even than when women say stupid things about men. It's a pretty close level of loathing to be sure, but the former is just slightly more disdainful to my emotional landscape.
Edited, Dec 4th 2009 10:47am by Pensive
That's sexist!
KryjeckI wrote:
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The more you love, the more you can love--and the more intensely you love. Nor is there any limit on how many you can love. If a person had Time Enough, he could Love all of the majority who are decent and just. - Robert Heinlein, The Notebooks of Lazarus Long
I'm with Pigtails on this one. I'm on the side that you can love multiple people without having situations where jealousy arises (Though it could happen). I believe this has to do with social conditioning growing up.
There are always risks in trust, diseases, etc., but if one had the opportunity to find people who were willing to attempt to give such a thing a shot and actually made it work, who are we to judge if it makes them happy? I myself will not as I follow that if it makes you happy, and doesn't hurt anyone physically or emotionally, then go for it.
Congrats Pigtails on finding another who yu can love equally as your current squeeze and I hpe all works out for you and you find more who wish to join as part of your extended family.
Thank you KryjeckI, I really appreciate the support.
I did find the remark about STD's earlier in the thread amusing, I just forgot about it until now. People in poly relationships typically engage in safer sex practices than monogamous people actually, or at least the non selfish ones do. Back when I was mono I was mostly safe, but there were a couple times I trusted someone on their word that they were clean (usually someone I knew very well, or a SO), which of course was rather stupid of me. Luckily nothing bad came of it. Now that I'm poly though, there's more than just my health on the line. If I catch something from someone, there's a very real chance that I will pass it on to my other partner(s), and because of that fact, I'm more careful than I normally would be. I had a talk with my new guy about this very thing before we had sex, and while I would certainly like to fluid bond (what we poly people call it when you have sex without dental dams/condoms) with him, I have to insist that we wait on that until we both have been tested across the board. He was understanding, and had no problem with it at all.
Archmage PigtailsOfDoom wrote:
I had a talk with my new guy about this very thing before we had sex, and while I would certainly like to fluid bond (what we poly people call it when you have sex without dental dams/condoms) with him, I have to insist that we wait on that until we both have been tested across the board.
So, uh, why do you have to have some super special term for that...?
Belkira the Tulip wrote:
Archmage PigtailsOfDoom wrote:
I had a talk with my new guy about this very thing before we had sex, and while I would certainly like to fluid bond (what we poly people call it when you have sex without dental dams/condoms) with him, I have to insist that we wait on that until we both have been tested across the board.
So, uh, why do you have to have some super special term for that...?
Fluid bond sounds much more scientific than "receive his load".
BrownDuck wrote:
Belkira the Tulip wrote:
Archmage PigtailsOfDoom wrote:
I had a talk with my new guy about this very thing before we had sex, and while I would certainly like to fluid bond (what we poly people call it when you have sex without dental dams/condoms) with him, I have to insist that we wait on that until we both have been tested across the board.
So, uh, why do you have to have some super special term for that...?
Fluid bond sounds much more scientific than "receive his load".
It's such a stupid name for what it is describing that it gave me three heart attacks and a dodgy leg.
BrownDuck wrote:
Belkira the Tulip wrote:
Archmage PigtailsOfDoom wrote:
I had a talk with my new guy about this very thing before we had sex, and while I would certainly like to fluid bond (what we poly people call it when you have sex without dental dams/condoms) with him, I have to insist that we wait on that until we both have been tested across the board.
So, uh, why do you have to have some super special term for that...?
Fluid bond sounds much more scientific than "receive his load".
I dunno, I just figured unprotected sex works pretty well, and it doesn't need an explanation.
Belkira the Tulip wrote:
BrownDuck wrote:
Belkira the Tulip wrote:
Archmage PigtailsOfDoom wrote:
I had a talk with my new guy about this very thing before we had sex, and while I would certainly like to fluid bond (what we poly people call it when you have sex without dental dams/condoms) with him, I have to insist that we wait on that until we both have been tested across the board.
So, uh, why do you have to have some super special term for that...?
Fluid bond sounds much more scientific than "receive his load".
I dunno, I just figured unprotected sex works pretty well, and it doesn't need an explanation.
It doesn't help her feel part of a community, though, because it's not the term "we poly people" use.
DON'T FLUID BOND WITH NEW PARTNERS UNLESS YOU'VE BEEN WITH THEM FOR AT THE VERY MINIMUM 18 MONTHS.
PolyNewbs.
PolyNewbs.
Turin wrote:
Seriously, what the f*ck nature?
Pensive the Ludicrous wrote:
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Right. Women are crazy, emotional, and irrational all the time. PMS is just an excuse.
I think I loathe the occasions when men say atrociously stupid things about women, staining my soul and person simply by proxy, more even than when women say stupid things about men. It's a pretty close level of loathing to be sure, but the former is just slightly more disdainful to my emotional landscape.
Edited, Dec 4th 2009 10:47am by Pensive
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Women are no more or less crazy or emotional than anyone else regardless of where they might be in their menstrual cycle.
Jacobsdeception the Sly wrote:
Pensive the Ludicrous wrote:
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Right. Women are crazy, emotional, and irrational all the time. PMS is just an excuse.
I think I loathe the occasions when men say atrociously stupid things about women, staining my soul and person simply by proxy, more even than when women say stupid things about men. It's a pretty close level of loathing to be sure, but the former is just slightly more disdainful to my emotional landscape.
Edited, Dec 4th 2009 10:47am by Pensive
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Women are no more or less crazy or emotional than anyone else regardless of where they might be in their menstrual cycle.
What a derivative post.
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DON'T FLUID BOND WITH NEW PARTNERS UNLESS YOU'VE BEEN WITH THEM FOR AT THE VERY MINIMUM 18 MONTHS.
PolyNewbs.
PolyNewbs.
Et tu, Anna?
Edited, Dec 4th 2009 7:49pm by Kavekk
I was more Poly involved a few years ago. Now I'm just too lazy but I've been around kinky/poly and whatever types for years.
Turin wrote:
Seriously, what the f*ck nature?
BrownDuck wrote:
Belkira the Tulip wrote:
Archmage PigtailsOfDoom wrote:
I had a talk with my new guy about this very thing before we had sex, and while I would certainly like to fluid bond (what we poly people call it when you have sex without dental dams/condoms) with him, I have to insist that we wait on that until we both have been tested across the board.
So, uh, why do you have to have some super special term for that...?
Fluid bond sounds much more scientific than "receive his load".
Sweetums wrote:
BrownDuck wrote:
Belkira the Tulip wrote:
Archmage PigtailsOfDoom wrote:
I had a talk with my new guy about this very thing before we had sex, and while I would certainly like to fluid bond (what we poly people call it when you have sex without dental dams/condoms) with him, I have to insist that we wait on that until we both have been tested across the board.
So, uh, why do you have to have some super special term for that...?
Fluid bond sounds much more scientific than "receive his load".
I was thinking a science textbook, but that works, too.
Sweetums wants to be fluid bonded with Edward Cullen.
Turin wrote:
Seriously, what the f*ck nature?
Ambrya wrote:
That's been my experience, and this is coming from someone who actually has PMDD. Hormone levels simply make me more likely to react to provocation, and less likely to moderate my response when I do so. But there IS some sort of provocation involved--it just might not be at a level to which I would normally respond any other time. I don't just fly off the handle for no reason.
Let's be honest though. Sometimes that provocation is the husband not realizing that you want him to pass the salt and forcing you to ask for it, which obviously must lead to a massive argument about how he's just not sensitive to your needs...
AMIRITE?
King Nobby wrote:
More words please
gbaji wrote:
Ambrya wrote:
That's been my experience, and this is coming from someone who actually has PMDD. Hormone levels simply make me more likely to react to provocation, and less likely to moderate my response when I do so. But there IS some sort of provocation involved--it just might not be at a level to which I would normally respond any other time. I don't just fly off the handle for no reason.
Let's be honest though. Sometimes that provocation is the husband not realizing that you want him to pass the salt and forcing you to ask for it, which obviously must lead to a massive argument about how he's just not sensitive to your needs...
AMIRITE?
He knows I salt my asparagus. Must I ask EVERY TIME???
I think it sounds rather nice.
Sounds like an off-brand rubber cement.
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