Dissapointment in parentsFollow

Meh, I thought of saying something completely stupid and troll-worthy, but for some reason I don't feel up to it at the moment, so here's some srsness!

The main thing to keep in mind is the very large difference in the two meanings of the word 'parent'. On one hand, 'parent' can describe those that gave you your biology, and on the other, those that shaped your life through words, actions, and love.

Honestly, I'm of the mind that you shouldn't worry too much about the people who lay behind your birth. It's the ones that are there through your life that influence you more than genes, those are the ones who matter. I don't think you really glean any remarkable traits through your genealogy, but I'm also someone who thinks that intelligence is gained through need or want, not through birthright.

My biological father has never been a major part of my life. While my stepfather is an... abrasive individual at best, an ******* and bully at worst, I still acknowledge that he has had more of a positive influence on me than my "real" father has, and will likely stand by that when I am old and grey (or when I'm 25 and grey, as apparently that's when my biological father went grey =/... thanks a lot).

Even if it did, the people who need it wouldn't bother reading it.

Some people should know better. Society really is going down the plughole, etc etc.

While you have reasons for the disappointment, focus on the positive. If it wasn't for your biological parent's participation in your creation, you wouldn't exist. The events set forth from your creation has culminated in you being blessed with loving parents and the life you live. Sounds like that's enough in itself to be thankful for the role your biological parent played.

In the immortal words of Keanu Reeves in the only role I ever actually liked him in:



Edited, Nov 21st 2009 6:44pm by Ambrya

I'm disappointed by my biological, and only, mother. At least you have 2 good parents.



Okay, she's not really a bad parent.. I can trust her with personal information and stuffs.. but there's a lot I can't trust her with.

Yup, that would be one disappointing parent reveal.

Almost worth a NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

My Own Private Idaho?

I can sympathize Gwyn, I'm adopted. I don't know much about my biological parents, other than the few things my real parents told me about my biological mother when she lived with them for the last five months of the pregnancy. According to them, she was fat, lazy, and extremely immature. She would sit at home all day long watching TV and doing coloring books, while my parents both worked. She also did drugs while she was pregnant with me prior to her moving in with them. Somehow I still managed to turn out pretty good.

Honestly I think most talent is nurtured rather than something you're born with. The exceptions are those with extreme talent. Take Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera for example. Ignore what you think of their particular style of music, most people would agree that while Britney is a decent singer, Christina's raw, natural born talent far out shines hers. These are two women who had very similar opportunities growing up, they were both in the Mickey Mouse Club at the same time, and both of their original images were highly cultivated by Disney. Personally I think most people have the ability to sing as well as Britney given the right opportunities and lots of practice and training. Very few people have the capability to sing as well as Christina, however.

As much as I love my parents, there is one thing I was very frustrated about growing up. There were several activities I had a big interest in growing up, and they never did anything to help me cultivate those interests (hell they didn't even really help me make friends). We lived about 10 miles out of town, and most of the time they didn't feel like having to drive me to and from practice for these activities. I never did any youth sports, or had voice lessons, or gymnastics, or youth theater. I wanted to, and I showed interest but I guess it just didn't dawn on them to look into those things for me. I didn't start doing sports or dance until I was in middle school, when I found out about these things myself and told them I wanted to be involved, and as a result I was a rather crappy athlete. This is something I definitely plan on keeping an eye on with my own kids.

Considering I have neither of these issues... sure? Shrug.

I may be wrong, but that's my belief. I think that the people who are morons were raised by morons, and never encouraged to make anything more of themselves. On the other hand, intelligent people can come from a pairing of two parents who are dumb as rocks, if they put their mind to learning... willpower and peer pressure (kids picking at you due to your parents being idiots, etc.) would help more than the genes in that instance. But again, just my opinion.

Parenthood.

nurture >> nature

Parents from very humble circumstances produced some of the most brilliant students I've been around.

I know people who worry about mental illness. I'm sure some of that is genetic. But just having a parent who did nothing really wouldn't be much of a concern to me.

Another related point is that greatness often skips a generation. Some of this, in my limited experience, is due to the massive resources of parental time given to the "great" children, who then spend far less on their own (since they are "great" after all - which is a codeword for having a great career, virtually never just for being a great parent).



You are vastly more qualified to be a parent then the average American that I know. Breed like a rabbit if you feel like it. You'll be raising the world average parent quality, I expect.

the line for me that conservatives have to cross to be horrible is the whole torture issue. I have no idea where you are on this but considering you're from the UK, I expect I know.

"Set potential" is a self-contradictory concept.

Potential relies entirely upon the notion of flux in the future tense. At least partially it relies upon the murkiness as regards knowledge of future actions, and at most relies upon the murkiness as regards the possible existences themselves of those actions.

A potential which is set is not a potential at all. It's an actual limitation of one's existence.

Dsd, I think you may have missed one aspect of what she was saying. She was 10 miles from town as a child. If you are relying on your parents for transport and they do not help you travel that does lock you out of activities. And while in school, that can socially exclude you. Its easier to make friends when you have the ability to show up ... Just sayin' ..



You sweety



I torture my boyfriend, does that count?


Edited, Nov 22nd 2009 9:36pm by GwynapNud