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#252 Nov 11 2009 at 12:23 PM Rating: Good
publiusvarus wrote:
Tulip,

If men have no say in whether or not a child is aborted why should the man be responsible for financially caring for something he had no say in? Basically you're saying it's a womans problem until the child is born then it becomes the guys problem.


No, once it's born, it's both of their problem. It should be in the womb, too, but really, the woman bears the responsibility for it. She has to carry it, has to have the hormone issues, the weight gain, the aches and the pains. She cannot run away from it. I would love for a woman to be able to give this burden to a man. However, since that is impossible, the decision of whether to carry the child to term or not rests mostly on her shoulders. She is able to override any man or woman who says she should continue to carry it.

Once that kid is born, the man needs to step up and help the kid out. Is it fair? Meh, not really. But any effort to remove the man's responsibility from this hurts the innocent kid, and that's not really acceptable.

Your issue isn't with liberals or democrats. It's with god. Take it up with him/her if you like.
#253 Nov 11 2009 at 12:36 PM Rating: Excellent
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See, this points up a really fundamental problem with the abortion debate, and one that I truly believe will keep it from ever being fully resolved.

Pregnancy, or rather the ability to bear children, gives women a power that men can not have. There are men, and even some women, who will never be fully comfortable with that basic fact and who will react inappropriately to their discomfort with anger and resentment.

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#254 Nov 11 2009 at 12:48 PM Rating: Good
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See, this points up a really fundamental problem with the abortion debate, and one that I truly believe will keep it from ever being fully resolved.

Pregnancy, or rather the ability to bear children, gives women a power that men can not have. There are men, and even some women, who will never be fully comfortable with that basic fact and who will react inappropriately to their discomfort with anger and resentment.


As powers go, I prefer my super strength.
#255 Nov 11 2009 at 12:57 PM Rating: Excellent
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Flight and invisibility are good, too.

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#256 Nov 11 2009 at 12:58 PM Rating: Good
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Samira wrote:
Pregnancy, or rather the ability to bear children, gives women a power that men can not have.
And men can write their name in the snow. I think it all balances out in the end.
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#257 Nov 11 2009 at 1:00 PM Rating: Good
Samira wrote:
Flight and invisibility are good, too.


I'm a fan of breathing in space, myself.
#258 Nov 11 2009 at 1:16 PM Rating: Decent
Samira wrote:
See, this points up a really fundamental problem with the abortion debate, and one that I truly believe will keep it from ever being fully resolved.

Pregnancy, or rather the ability to bear children, gives women a power that men can not have. There are men, and even some women, who will never be fully comfortable with that basic fact and who will react inappropriately to their discomfort with anger and resentment.


I'm perfectly content with my consolation ability of being able to urinate while standing (and not get it all over myself).
#259 Nov 11 2009 at 1:19 PM Rating: Good
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Samira wrote:
See, this points up a really fundamental problem with the abortion debate, and one that I truly believe will keep it from ever being fully resolved.

Pregnancy, or rather the ability to bear children, gives women a power that men can not have. There are men, and even some women, who will never be fully comfortable with that basic fact and who will react inappropriately to their discomfort with anger and resentment.


I'm perfectly content with my consolation ability of being able to urinate while standing (and not get it all over myself).


I urinate while standing and manage not to wet myself every time I use a public restroom.

Sorry, BD.
#260 Nov 11 2009 at 1:19 PM Rating: Excellent
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You are, and apparently Ugly is, as he runs out to pee Uglysasquatch in the snow whenever possible (so, what? eight months out of the year?).


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#261 Nov 11 2009 at 1:52 PM Rating: Good
So, we've decided through consensus agreement now that men are just jealous that God gave women the ability to have the babies, and anti-choicers like Virus are scared ******** that while they can knock a woman up, they can't force her to have the kid. As long as Roe vs Wade is law, they don't have the final piece of control over women they so desperately long for.

There's some evolutionary force at work here, I suspect.
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#263REDACTED, Posted: Nov 11 2009 at 1:56 PM, Rating: Sub-Default, (Expand Post) Cat,
#264 Nov 11 2009 at 1:59 PM Rating: Good
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Seems your type are the only ones who want to keep men from having any.


I'm part of the Human Extinction Project. Smiley: nod
#265 Nov 11 2009 at 2:02 PM Rating: Good
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Seems your type are the only ones who want to keep men from having any.


I'm part of the Human Extinction Project. Smiley: nod


VHEMT? Or some other one I don't know about and need to sign up for? Hopefully less voluntary.
#266 Nov 11 2009 at 2:06 PM Rating: Good
Yeah VHEMT.
#267 Nov 11 2009 at 2:06 PM Rating: Excellent
publiusvarus wrote:
What happens when a man decides to sue the federal govn because he is being forced to pay for a child he never wanted and the mother refused to have an abortion?


In a rather stupid way, Varrus actually makes a good point here. Consider this, with regard to elective abortion only (abortion due to health risks to the mother or child is a no-brainer)

Scenario A:

Man and woman have sex, woman gets pregnant.
Woman doesn't want to bear responsibility, but man does
Woman has abortion. Man loses child he actually wanted to care for

Scenario B:

Man and woman have sex, woman gets pregnant.
Man doesn't want to bear responsibility, but woman does
Woman has baby, sues for child support. Man pays child support for 18+ years

In scenario A, the woman can choose not to bear the burden.
In scenario B, the man cannot choose not to bear the burden.

It's kind of unfair to allow a woman to opt out of responsibility for the child and disallow a man that same choice, especially when the former constitutes making the choice for both the man and the woman. The obvious solution is to ban elected abortion. Both parents must then always bear the burden of the consequences of their action.

Edited, Nov 11th 2009 2:12pm by BrownDuck
#268 Nov 11 2009 at 2:06 PM Rating: Good
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I feel so sorry for poor Varus, the victim. All these aborted fetuses and poor folk and liberals are just killing him with their abhorrence. He's not anti-choice; well, except for everyone but himself, and maybe anyone who isn't a commie pinko hippie liberal. Those evil, self-centered bastards!

And as far as throwing unwanted kids into the foster system: How many of these kids do you think will be born addicted to some drug? Undernourished? Premature? To people with disabilities? Most of them will have problems that will never go away. They will be a huge burden on society as they bounce around from home to home until they end up homeless once they're finally 18. What a wonderful society we would create.

Man, I'm a cold-hearted libbie hippie. Kill all the unwanted and broken babies! Bwahaha.
#269 Nov 11 2009 at 2:13 PM Rating: Good
publiusvarus wrote:
Cat,

What happens when Roe V Wade is overturned?

What happens when a man decides to sue the federal govn because he is being forced to pay for a child he never wanted and the mother refused to have an abortion?

Oh and it's pro-life not anti-choicers. I'm all about choice. Seems your type are the only ones who want to keep men from having any.


Roe won't be overturned. But if it is, then I say we women pull a Lysastrata and refuse sex until it's reinstated.

A man can sue the government over that all day long. I'm sorry to see, however, that you're so opposed to a man taking care of a child he helped create. I hope you understand one day that what you're advocating hurts the child so much more than it will punish the mother, since that's what you're looking for here. I understand the dilemma, and I'm sorry. But again, take it up with god, not us. Once you want to carry a kid to term instead of a woman, we can revisit the issue.
#270 Nov 11 2009 at 2:16 PM Rating: Excellent
BrownDuck wrote:
In a rather stupid way, Varrus actually makes a good point here. Consider this, with regard to elective abortion only (abortion due to health risks to the mother or child is a no-brainer)

Scenario A:

Man and woman have sex, woman gets pregnant.
Woman doesn't want to bear responsibility, but man does
Woman has abortion. Man loses child he actually wanted to care for

Scenario B:

Man and woman have sex, woman gets pregnant.
Man doesn't want to bear responsibility, but woman does
Woman has baby, sues for child support. Man pays child support for 18+ years

In scenario A, the woman can choose not to bear the burden.
In scenario B, the man cannot choose not to bear the burden.

It's kind of unfair to allow a woman to opt out of responsibility for the child and disallow a man that same choice, especially when the former constitutes making the choice for both the man and the woman. The obvious solution is to ban elected abortion. Both parents must then always bear the burden of the consequences of their action.

Edited, Nov 11th 2009 2:12pm by BrownDuck


Again, no. Why should a woman be punished for something that she has no control over?

I say again. Once a man can take over the burden of gestation and labor, we can revisit the issue. Until then, it's an unfair situation where the only blame rests on god.

There is absolutely no guarantee that "both parents will always bear the burden of the consequences." A woman can get pregnant from a one night stand, or the father can disappear without her being able to find him. Banning elected abortion is completely unfair, as the man can find a way to weasle out of the situation, while a woman wouldn't be able to.

Edited, Nov 11th 2009 2:19pm by Belkira
#271 Nov 11 2009 at 2:41 PM Rating: Excellent
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I'd be okay with a man opting out of responsibility for a child, assuming A) that he sign away all rights to and interest in the child; and B) there's a guarantor available to ensure that mother and child are able to live in safe housing with enough to eat. Guess what, y'all? That means the government.

Yay for government!

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#273 Nov 11 2009 at 2:42 PM Rating: Excellent
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Belkira the Tulip wrote:
Again, no. Why should a woman be punished for something that she has no control over?
For the same reason a man has to pay for something he has no control over.

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#274 Nov 11 2009 at 2:44 PM Rating: Good
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I would hope, regardless of the woman being the one to have to carry the child, she would at least consider the feelings of her husband/partner/long-term boyfriend in her decision to have an abortion. It's still ultimately her decision, but to stand around implying that it doesn't matter at all what the man wants seems to just be an immature way of looking at things. This is usually an issue covered through discussion while dating though.

If we're discussing one-night stands or pregnancy early in a relationship, then yeah, the man should mostly shut up and go cry in a corner about how cruel life is should she go through with the abortion.



Edited, Nov 11th 2009 3:46pm by CBD
#275 Nov 11 2009 at 2:45 PM Rating: Good
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If we're discussing one-night stands or pregnancy early in a relationship, then yeah, the man should mostly shut up and go cry in a corner about how cruel life is should she go through with the abortion.
I'll agree to that.
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#276 Nov 11 2009 at 2:48 PM Rating: Good
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Samira wrote:
I'd be okay with a man opting out of responsibility for a child, assuming A) that he sign away all rights to and interest in the child; and B) there's a guarantor available to ensure that mother and child are able to live in safe housing with enough to eat. Guess what, y'all? That means the government.

Yay for government!



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