publiusvarus wrote:
Samy,
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Unwillingness to put yourself in another's shoes is the very definition of lacking empathy. So now you know what it means.
Feel free to empathize with all ignorant people of the world. I try to spend my free time making a more substantial contribution to the welfare of my neighbors. Like giving away vegetables from my garden. Feeling sorry for someone because they've had it rough serves absolutely no purpose and is in fact counterproductive.
Feeling sorry for them is not the useful point.
Understanding what they have been through and are going through,
understanding their life situation in all its facets, all the social things that happened and didn't happen to them, the environment that they had to work with,
that's the purposeful and productive point.
Because there are structural things that get in the way of some people looking after themselves. There are structural things that actively destroy some people. Understanding those structures and changing them is important.
It's great you give away vegetables. That's a short-term stopgap, and a very beneficial one, because it raises nutrition, which helps a little for to people make good decisions on.
But you need to know
why people fail. Because it's NOT just because they make poor decisions and that they don't put any effort in. Only when you have a well targeted safety-net that removes outside reasons for people's failure to be self-supporting, that's when you can look at the people who've "failed" and shrug and leave them to the mercy others...private charity.