Lady DSD wrote:
It's personality. Thank your wife for her awesome genes
. As I said, everything I taught Xavier I'm teaching Ashe and in the same way.I never had an issue with Zavi. He was never one to bolt. Ashe is a whole new ballgame. And he gets it too, that he's going to be in trouble if he leaves our side. He just doesn't care.Sounds like Tristan is somewhere in the middle of those two, it seems. He's usually willing to behave, but sometimes he just decides he doesn't want to. Whether or not he's eaten recently, and if it's getting close to nap time, have an influence as well.
Since the moment I stopped taking Tristan everywhere in the stroller and started letting him walk, we've had a ritual of reciting the rules of wherever we are going before we get there. If we're going into the bookstore, he's not supposed to take books off the shelves until we get to the children's section and choose the books we're going to look at. If we're going to the zoo (we have a membership) he doesn't have to hold my hand or ride in the stroller (unless he wants to) to start, but if he doesn't stay where I can see him and runs off, he will have to ride in the stroller, and if he gives me a hard time about riding in the stroller, we will go to the car and leave. If we're going to be walking in a parking lot or along a street, we hold hands. So before we arrive, I'll ask him, for instance, "what's the rule for parking lots?" and he'll say, "hands!"
Now, this doesn't always guarantee that he's going to follow the rules without protest once we actually arrive, but I have found that it really does significantly reduce the incidences where he's become unmanageable while we're out and about. Unfortunately, his dad keeps forgetting this step, and so they have many more occasions where Tristan acts up when they're out together. So Mr. Ambrya's first experience of taking Tristan to the zoo was a disaster--they went later in the morning closer to nap time, and Mr. Ambrya didn't set the rules up front, whereas the first time I took him to the zoo solo, we were there earlier in the morning right as they opened, and did establish rules up front, so he was much better behaved for me--until it got later in the morning, and then his willingness to "be a good listener" noticeably decreased.