Let's Talk about sex! - LongevityFollow

She now has a boyfriend who is, I quote "very large" and able to "last for an hour, then go again within 10 minutes."

37.32 to 1 against that she's just ******* with you.


The thing is, the average man only lasts about 6-8 minutes,

The fuck? "Takes 6-8 minutes to reach ******" maybe. I find it difficult to believe that the average hetero coitus lasts 7 minutes.

Consider seriously: just asking what she wants. If it's important for her to ****** every time, that's fine. If she's not worried about it, that's fine too. It's sort of important for you to know, though. What you really want to avoid is some fucked up goal oriented thing where it's important to YOU that she comes or does so in a given timeframe, or as many times as you do, or whatever.

How women reach ****** is hard to understand and foreign to men, in general, and to be a little cliche, all women are different. There are many women who just aren't going to ****** from penetrative sex with no other stimulation, even if the sex lasts 9 days. Physiology happens. Some women can have 15 orgasms in an hour, some are hypersensitive to the point of pain after the first. There's no manual. There's no secret "Chinese basket trick" maneuver that's going to make it magic for her. Some women don't like cunnilingus. Some women ****** from **** sex. You really, really, really, have to ask. Don't guess. Don't try to read reactions that before there's real intimacy in a relationship are often going to be play acting, just communicate that you want her to be happy and that you're open to what she likes. Unless it involves baby oil, because that's just disgusting.

Good luck.

I was actually going to start a similar thread the other day when my wife told me I should be bragging.

When we have sex, I bust my nut in a minute or two - but that doesn't determine how long I "last". It's hard to tell how long it takes for her, since she likes to "hold off" and often tries to stifle herself due to the sleeping baby.

A question, though, for the wimmins: do you care if your man gets bored, as long as he continues to go? Often my wife will want me to keep going for up to three hours, after which she claims six to eight O's. Since, as mentioned, I'm done shortly after penetration, I usually try to leave the TV on an interesting channel beforehand (like Science or History Channels).

Men on SSRI can go on for a frustratingly long time.

It makes me feel like I'm in a BizarroWorld version of Chasing Amy:

Alyssa: So, for you, to fuck is to penetrate. You're used to the more traditional definition. You inside some girl you duped, jackhammering away, not noticing that bored look in her eyes.
Banky Edwards: Hey, I always notice that bored look in their eyes, alright?

Sometimes I wish my wife would notice the bored look in my eyes...

And "we all" aren't so gullible as to consider them merely "dubious."

It took a long time to learn that. I didn't have my first one until after my first child was born. Now, I can have them on request.

Back in the day when my wife and I still had long-lasting sex (15 minutes is an eternity with a four-year-old in the house), I had a pretty simple method to keep it up and running. Whether it'll work for anyone else, I don't know, but it works for me.

Sometime between the "getting close" feeling and actually ejaculating there's a "point of no return", past which you're going to get off no matter what you do. Pull out just before that point and sort of stifle the ****** (can't describe it better than that; it's sort of like trying to not puke when you're sick). If you time it right, your **** will basically give up trying to get off, leaving you free to scrump to your heart's (and your partner's) content. A warning, though: You'll likely end up with an "uncomfortable *****", and if you do have an ****** it'll be a really crappy one.

I'll usually use the "stop" as a sort of teaser. Make it part of the action, not a break in it. Provided you got the timing right, you should only have to do it once, but you can get quite a lot of mileage out of strategic pauses.

I can see that.

Dry, dusty, isolated.

Overpriced.

That to me, usually kills it, I'm done.

As in.. whose south?

****? Cunnilingus? If ****, **** form whom? The an or the woman.

My husband already gave his advice, but part of the reason that worked well for him is that he does the rest of the foreplay in a way that just works well for me. I joke that it is natural aptitude when I think it has more to do with compatibility of desires.

And best advice for the OP that I can think of, is to not worry about what sort of sex your ex is having. I would bet she is just telling you that crap to be petty. If you have a girlfriend now, focus on her. If you don't yet, just remember that you both need to work together to make it great.

That talking dirty thing, just doesn't do it for me, and some times is a deal breaker for me as well. I am a sensual, I want to feel sensual, not dirty. It's amazing what a damn good kiss can do for me! I like to be touched, hugged, pampered. One kiss and and in/out you are done, you are going to pay dearly!!!

Smash might actually know what he's talking about in some way, I mean, c'mon, he got Nexa!!!

Other than whats already been mentioned on here, have you tried looking into training your Pubococcygeus muscle or PC muscles for short?

Your PC muscle stretches from your pubic bone to your coccyx (your tail bone). Its the muscle your body uses to control urine flow and it also contracts during ******. If you have ever made your ***** move up and down while its erect or stopping and starting the flow of your urine than this is you using your PC muscle.

To train it all you simple have to do is act like your stopping and starting the flow of your urine. You can do this while sitting down, waiting for a bus or to be called on for your appointment, at work if you have a desk job, or even while your blasting away aliens in your favorite video game.

The exercise it self is called a Kegel exercise. Doing multiple sets of this exercise has multiple benefits for men, and women too! You can get stronger erections and even the possibility of having a "dry" ****** meaning that you climax without cumming and therefore may allow you to achieve multiple orgasms before finally letting go of your load. It has other benefits but this is bout sex though, right? ;)

Edit: Also, its worth mentioning that the longer you make yourself wait before "letting go" the finally result can be a very satisfying, intense, and maybe a little painful (it doesn't bother me) ******. But, be warned if you have too many "dry" orgasms you could risk being stuck with a very stubborn erection or the ***** muscles could even get... tired? for lack of a better word and you lose your erection. Usually no more than once or twice before letting go is all you really need to get the intensity and pleasure that you both want.

Edited, Jul 18th 2009 11:18pm by Dipster