What acts constitutes sex and how do you lose your virginityFollow

I would consider **** sex, but not oral.

I guess for guys losing their virginity is **** (give or take)/vaginal but for girls is vaginal, as the hymen would be broken.

Edited, Jun 15th 2009 7:37pm by Galkaman

If I'm right, the hymen can be broken when inserting tampons, right?

Gays guys would probably be considered to have lost their virginity when they have either ****** or been *******

You are really a virgin until you've been fisted past the wrist.

Eh, people are going to define virginity differently, just let them decide what they think counts as losing it

my views: ****/virginal, oral is more foreplay to me.

And I consider sex to be everything from 'getting warmed up' foreplay to the end of what ever sexual act your partaking in.

It's kinda contextual though, isn't it? If the objective is to prevent unwanted pregnancies, then there's nothing wrong with focusing on vaginal penetration as the big "no no" to abstain from. There's also nothing wrong with the abstinence being targeted in a "heteronormative" manner either...



I think there's a difference between what constitutes losing your virginity, versus what constitutes "having sex". Most people assume losing one's virginity involve penetration of the ****** with the *****. Obviously, that's in the context of a heterosexual relationship. Um... But that's typically what virginity signifies. If we just want to expand it to mean any sort of sexual activity, then a hand job might be sufficient. I just think it kinda loses it's relevance outside of that context...


But, if we are to do so, I think it's about doing something beyond just petting within whatever sexual context is involved. In a broad (and perhaps easy rule of thumb), one could look at how undressed one gets when looking at non-traditional sexual encounters. Most lesbians I know look back to their first time getting fully naked on a bed/couch/rug and spending quality time with another woman as their virginity-loss experience. Kissing and petting is one thing, but that's considered the "whole thing" in terms of sexual experience.


As to what "sex" is? I'd say any sort of contact involving parts of the body we don't normally allow you to interact with in public. So, kissing is not sex, but a hand job is. So, basically, anything involving contact under or without clothing is "sex" IMO.

I bet he plays BDSM games where the D stands for Democrat.

Gratz Anna! Your thread made it for a full hour before it got moved. I know you're used to ones with more staying power but it's still an accomplishment.

Edited, Jun 15th 2009 8:50pm by Shaowstrike

Ha, ha, ha, sex is dirty.

For a heterosexual guy- vaginal/**** penetration.
**** guy- **** (penetrater or penetrate-e.)
Straight girl - vaginal/**** penetration.
Lesbian - idk...Fisting?

A topic of this nature is more appropriate in here where linguistic restrictions shall not interfere with the flow of dialogue. That and I don't have to babysit it as much.

I lost mine at the age of nine when the neighborhood bully decided to play chicken with me on our bikes and ran me off the road and into a concrete retaining wall lining a ditch. I came down hard on the bar of the bicycle and bled for a couple days. Girls who ride horseback often lose theirs as well. Any number of incidents can break the hymen; I couldn't consider it indicative of virginity at all.

But, mostly, you can keep STDs a secret. Pregnancy on a teen is a little harder to hide.

Um... Yes. Hence, the traditional association with virginity and vaginal intercourse... It only fails to make sense if you're using a non-traditional meaning of virginity.




That's a different issue (but a valid one). My point was that there's nothing inconsistent about this if one maintains the traditional meaning of virginity.