Lady isyris wrote:
Belkira the Tulip wrote:
So you're saying that an 8 year old shouldn't be able to tell the difference between boys clothes and girls clothes in an effort to make sure that we don't have gender identity crisis anymore?
I just don't think that clothing choice should constitute a gender identity crisis. Men should be able to wear whatever the hell they want, the same as women. (Isn't it funny how a woman can wear slacks but the moment a man puts on a skirt, he is the subject of ridicule?)
I suppose I don't see as many different aspects as some, though. To me, there is how you fit into a society (which I suppose is closest to what people refer to as gender), there's the equipment you're born with, and there's your preferred type of sexual enjoyment. I can understand the desire to alter ones equipment to match one's sexual preferences. I can even sort of understand why a person would want to be treated as other than what they were born as--some things are easier for people perceived as men, others for women. What makes no sense to me is why someone would care about actually being male or female if there was no sexual activity involved. If you're not using the equipment, how does it make any difference? So what Annabella said,
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Gender identity is not the same thing as adoption of socially prescribed gender roles.
doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me.
The only reasons I can think of for wanting to be female are if you have a ******, want to have a ****** so that you can use it, or want to be treated as your society treats women. Wanting to have a ****** just for the sake of having a ****** doesn't make much sense.
Gender is not ones Sexual Orientation How hard is it to get this through peoples heads. I know Trangender m2f's and f2m's that are gay, lesbians, strait and bi-sexual.
They have always known what
Gender they were and their body image didn't fit into the body they were born in. Sexual Orientation tends to be more fluid and something that isn't fully develop until after puberty.
My gender and sexual orientation is all over the map. The important thing is that I accept and am happy with who I am in my body. The things I'm unhappy about have nothing to do with my gender or sex and I wouldn't change either. What I would love to have been born different, is all about my being dyslexic and prone to develop physical and mental health problems later in life.
A friend of my who is a Transqueer author, once told me that though I am very happy as a female in a female body, my liking to dress in gender neuter clothings for comfort and interests in far more things, that society feel men are better at, then women, makes me Transgender. But it isn't a label I use very often. Just when people get confused over my back ground as an Artist who loves science and math and favorite toys were Lego's and Think Sticks.
I know I have no problem with my daughters deciding what their sexual preference were as teens. They like many girls their age went through a period of experimentation and see themselves more bi then strait. Each of them had to learn how to deal emotionally, with the fact that their biological father wasn't happy as a male, and now lives as an woman. They have met and accept her girlfriend.
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