Jophiel wrote:
gbaji wrote:
Take into account the fact that 100% of all children born in condition b will be born (and mostly cared for) by single mothers.
Several things wrong with this.
(A) There is no reason to assume that the majority of children in these instances will be mainly cared for by single mothers.
I think it's a reasonable assumption, though.
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People have been pairing up and raising children since the dawn of time (even without tax breaks!).
Yes. And we call that "marriage". My example assumed that they *don't* do this. No marriage in this context means that the male and the female do not share their lives, expenses, etc. So there's no "pairing up and raising children" going on.
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In other cultures where such pairings are uncommon, children have been raised communally.
Yes. But not in our culture, so that's kinda meaningless.
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Your intended depiction of a town of children raised by single mothers has no real standing.
Sure it does. Because that's what happens in our culture when the men who impregnate the women do not pair up with them socially and economically to help raise the children. What did you think I meant by "0% of heterosexual couples marry"?
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(B) If there was no marriage, in some sense it wouldn't matter anyway. As I've pointed out time and again, child custody/support laws aren't connected to marriage.
Of course they are. In the sense that they are not needed if the couple is and stays married. Your argument essentially devolves into: "There's no need to encourage people to marry because we have some rules to handle what happens if they don't". Um... Are you arguing that a society full of parents raising their children while receiving child support from the other parent is as "good" as one in which all the parents are married?
Again. Those are the ends of the spectrum. I'm not assuming 100% perfection here. Just establishing that the higher the percentage of heterosexual couples who marry, the better off we are as a whole. Everything else staying the same, this is absolutely true. Divorce is less than ideal, but if we don't have marriage in the first place, things are even worse, right? This somewhat assumes that getting married is the "best" case, right?
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If we had some magical scenario where no one ever got married again, all those single mothers whose baby-daddies didn't stick around would still be eligible for child support just like today's real life single mothers.
Eligible is not the same as receiving. And it's never going to be as good as the two parents being married either (are you going to refute the statistics on children of married couples, versus children of divorced couples, versus children of parents who never married?).
Not to mention, the whole "Who's child is this anyway" problem. One of the values of marriage is that the husband is legally assumed to be the father of any children born by the wife. We don't have any replacement mechanism outside of marriage other than lawsuits and paternity tests.
I'm not arguing "perfection". Just stating that one case is "better" than the other, and saying that it's worth subsidizing an incentive to increase the rate at which "better" happens.
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I'm not seeing the "catastrophic" ending here. At least, you certainly failed to make a convincing argument for it.
Ok. Then why do we provide the benefits at all? You are free to dismiss these things, but clearly we do, and have for some time considered marriage (between a man and woman) to be important enough to provide all of these benefits. What other reason would there be? While I think we all like to see people be happy and find their soulmates and what not, I don't think that sufficient reason to justify all the benefits we provide right now.
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Are we dealing with an imaginary world where people get married and stay together to raise their child only for the tax benefits?
It's not just the tax benefits Joph. I listed a lot more strictly financial benefits. Um... And every little bit helps, doesn't it? You're playing the "all or nothing" game again. Either every single person chooses to get married solely because of the financial incentives, or they don't really do anything. That's just not true. There is some statistical number of people who will get married prior to producing a family, and some number who wont. The incentives will not be the sole and most important factor, but it will tend to push the statistics in the direction of the former. That's the point.
Certainly, in a world where we've removed most of the social factors that traditionally nudged young men and women into marriage, is it so ridiculous to think that maybe leaving the financial incentives around is such a bad idea? Again, if they don't serve this purpose, then why have them? They exist under the assumption that they do produce enough of an incentive and benefit to married couples with children to be worth doing.
If you want to argue that we should just eliminate all economic benefits of marriage, by all means, make that argument. But I'm talking about why *I* oppose changing the laws to allow gay couples to qualify for the legal status of married. And my position is internally consistent.
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And once you remove those benefits, all those mated pairs of **** sapiens shrug and say "forget it"?
Again with the "all or nothing" argument. Not "all". Some. Some may just not chose to marry in the first place. That's the point. You talk about "mated pairs", but that's not what's happening. Young adults aren't forming into mating pairs in the first place. They are just mating. And we're wondering why the rate of children born to single mothers just topped 40%...
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Because I think it's a safe bet that the vast majority of currently married couples raising children would keep at it because, you know, crazy shit like love for their partners and families feelings of responsibility and crap.
Key phrase "vast majority". So a minority wouldn't? That's something, right? How much is that worth to us?
And the issue is not about currently married people. It's about future married people. It's about trying to get young adults to think of marriage as something they should seek out and desire rather than something that ties them down. People who are already married wouldn't magically divorce if the benefits of marriage were eliminated, but I suspect a whole lot of people in the next generation who might have gotten married will not do so if those benefits are gone.
And we will suffer for that as a society.
I still don't see how this line of reasoning qualifies for an argument *for* gay marriage. It's an argument to eliminate marriage as a legally recognized status entirely. I think it's a weak argument for it, but that's what you're really doing. Nowhere in there did you say why it's important to provide these things to gay couples.
You're basically arguing that since the existing benefits really aren't worth the expense, that there's no reason not to extend them to a broader group. And I happen to think that's a pretty dumb argument. I know you're a liberal and all that, but even you have to realize that this is kind of a dumb reason to spend money...