gbaji wrote:
Aripyanfar wrote:
If you aren't married in law, by culture and custom you aren't married at all.
Since when?
And for the bonus question, aside from determining inheritance and parental responsibility, when did this ever matter? Do you see how "the law" portion only matters to heterosexual couples?
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Rights and benefits are two different things.
Honestly, this is probably the single most fundamentally misunderstood concept in modern socio-political thought. And that lack of understanding causes massive confusion and mis-application of law when it comes to issues like gay marriage. I keep hoping that maybe if I repeat this enough times, maybe the light will go on in some people's heads and they'll get why so many modern social arguments aren't so much "wrong" as just mis-phrased.
Denying a group of people benefits is not the same as denying them rights. Even after I've painstakingly explained how the only thing being denied to gay couples is the benefits, you continue to respond with talks about rights. Would you please just stop and comprehend what I've written? Pretty please? :)
I read the rest but I have to stop right there. No matter how great you are of a person, and how knowledgeable of your own fields, and no matter that you can quote the Laws of Hammurabi, you have betrayed such a fundamental lack of understanding of the entire social construct and reality that people have lived in the past.
If you have no correct fundamental concept of past living conditions and especially the morés that arose from them, you can have only a superficial understanding of your own present society, culture, and living conditions. It's certainly enough to get by on and function pretty effectively with in the present. But as far as being able to accurately perceive and critically examine your own society and culture, it's insufficient.
If you don't know how something got to be the way it is, you don't know why it is the way that it is, and you can't see all of it.
Marriage always came with socially awarded benefits, as well as rights. Now we've got
extra (not new, but extra) financial benefits via the tax and social welfare system as well.
You would like to make a new and modern separation between the
rights and tax-and-social-welfare
benefits of marriage, depending on the sexual orientation and makeup of the couple entering into it. You want this separation because the marriage of gays breaks your perception of the social contract between
you as a taxpayer, and
married couples as originators of children who will in future be paying taxes that will support you in old age. Via paying for massive public infrastructure that you will still be enjoying the benefits of, if not directly through an old age pension or health care.
There are several arguments, that I think are very strong solid arguments, against that last paragraph, that I hold in my being. But I truly don't think it's worth wasting your or my time with them. Firstly, I think you are arguing with incomplete data. Secondly, your and my moral constructions and priorities, and your and my conceptions of how an economy functions prosperously, are so far removed from each other that I predict it would take several years of arguing to even have a chance to start affecting each others ideologies.
And I bet you think I'm operating only on ideology and you're operating only on fact.
[10,000 word essay removed on what and why an ideology is, and what facts are, and the physical constraints and possibilities of each human interacting with and operating on facts]