Anyone ever disown a parent?Follow

Just wondering because I am seriously considering it. Something to do with not staying long enough on a quick trip up to Cincinnati. Apparently my wife and I aren't fitting into someone else's plans...

Is there a legal process or can you just ignore cell phone calls for a period of time? Any advice would be appreciated.

Nope. But there is a lot more to this story but it boils down to an old, lonely woman who, in her effort to not be lonely, continues to drive the people closest to her away. It's really rather sad.

My Dad was able to divorce her. He took the easy way out.

yeah, we just ignored her for 4 years. We're rebuilding now. It took her quite a bit to learn that we weren't going to play her game. Her only contact for 4 years was by email. If she started up her shut we'd just not reply for a month or so. She's finally coming around and we had our first face to face visit a few months ago.

Grow up.

I disowned my dad. I haven't seen him since 1994. You can't really do anything legally unless you need a restraining order. I just cut off contact and told my family not to try to interfere with that--not that they have contact with him either.

He's somewhere in Florida, being an alcoholic *******.

You sound like a spoiled little brat.

I get along with mine just fine. Now grandparents are another thing. My father's father I didn't meet until I was 15. He's a horrible man, and I've only seen him maybe a dozen times over the last 10 years.

My mother's mother is just annoying, she lives only about 7 miles away though, and we visit her for dinner all the time. She's just never happy with anything and is constantly moving her furniture around (and of course that means getting her adult grandchildren to do the moving).

About ten years ago after a particularly traumatic incident, I wrote my alcoholic mother and told her that if she ever called me again while drunk, I'd never speak to her again, and I meant it. Luckily, I wasn't forced to actually carry through, because she's never called me drunk since. However, I almost considered cutting her out of my life again a few years ago over some other stuff, but some relatives talked me down from it.

At this point, it's very sanity-saving for me to simply distance myself from her mentally and regard her as some distant and cordial aunt, rather than "mom."

If whatever is going on is something you feel is absolutely a deal-breaker for any sort of future relationship, I'd say your best bet is to confront them, perhaps in writing, and say, "I cannot tolerate this behavior and if it continues, we will no longer have a relationship."

Good luck.

I had a period when I wanted nothing to do with my mom. Years later she realized how her behavior had affected me and apologized. She was dieing of cancer and I got to treasure our last few years together.

My father and I got along for the most part, but like many dads of the 60's and 70's he left parenting to my mom. I did look up to him as a child and found as an adult, we got long great over our share interest in computers.

I get along with my parents. I mean, we argue, but it's about stupid **** like discarded socks and where I parked the car. It's actually quite amazing that we manage to argue about anything, since most of it is so trivial.

I've only seen my mother once in that last 10 years, and even it was just long enough for me to tell her to **** off and stay out of her chidrens' lives. I disowned my mother because she stole $5000 from me, left my step dad for my (at the time) best friend, is a drunk crackwhore that blew her boyfriend while my five year old sister watched. The only reason I know about that last part is because it was happening in our living room and I walked in on it while my sister was saying, "eww, mommy kissed it"


No, I'm not making any of that up, and it's just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to how much of a **** stain my mom is. In the past 10 years she's married and divorced twice, had four DUI's (the state finally revoked her license), and quit her job as a manager at McDonald's because she makes more money being a *****. Oh yeah, she's also in her 50's and dresses like a modern teenager, though she doesn't have the body for it by any means.


I know there's some people here that get turned on by that kind of thing; if any wants her number let me know, just promise me that you'll be abusive.

Yeah, and I thought some of my family was bad. Yikes.

I think you're right.