Mistress GwynapNud wrote:
Is arranged marriage evil and needs to be stopped?
yup. But forced marriage is different than arranged marriage. Arranged is where the young ppl actually are for it wholeheartedly. You wouldn't think even arranged marriages happen anymore in democratic Eastern societies like India and Japan...but it does to some degree. Whenever a couple gets married in Japan for instance, lineage is important so they actually have services to check people's ancestral history. Many Japanese women who have fallen in love with an American man come to live in America because it's taboo to marry outside your race. That's still very true in asian countries.
Mistress GwynapNud wrote:
Personally I think its a mix. Forced marriage needs to be prevented but I like the idea of checking the groom fully before marriage. If we tried that in the UK we may end up with less disfunctional families and single parent households. Even if you fall out of love at times, at least your goals still match and you can work through the rest. Maybe an Xfactor search with a 4 person panel of relatives would work
That's a nice idea. But the FIRST reason for forced marriage to begin with was so you marry your 2nd cousin and the
money stays within the family. The SECOND reason (which is true today) is
simply for prestige. I can see it now:
Daddy is so happy that his brilliant little girl became a doctor, he's told all his friends, and now he's a celebrity in his little town and wants to build on that by having her marry who HE wants her to...just the way his parents did.
She...having tasted the 'forbidden fruit' of a free social culture in the West, realizes how stupid forced marriage is, and tells them 'no' (though she obviously still loves them). The parents, being complete ********, tells her their mom is sick and to rush back. She flies 10000 miles and they tell her she's getting married to the guy who picks rice and is missing a few teeth. She loves them but freaks, writing to her friends in the UK to rescue her. -
As for
arranged marriage, young ppl over there who are college students that have their parents choose for them will tell you it's better because "they don't have to worry about finding a partner".
But I mean come on, dating is fun. No young adult over here who has enough social skill to chill with ravers or hang out with a frat would consider it.
But in the East, there is no dating. Guys hang out with guys, chicks hang out with chicks. If you go to a festival in South Asia, you will see guys dance with other guys in social settings. They would consider any girl that dances a dirty little *****. In America, guys
want girls on the dancefloor. I could tell you so many stories that would bend your ear back about how xenophobic they are and unwilling to empathize with Western social culture but I think this rant is long enough.
Asian people who have arranged marriages don't adjust to Western society if they come here because they have had someone else make all their social decisions for them. Arranged marriage creates social retards (but it works for a conservative, dull society where all they do is go to work and come home to ****). So that's all they do and want...which is boring.
On a lighter note, the doctor thing has nothing to do with it. Over there the only 2 courses colleges prepare them for are medical science and taxi cab driver. The rest pick rice or fish. And if you have a ******, you're still a 3rd world ***** for making daddy pay for your dowry. It ******* sucks.
