Allegory wrote:
AmorTonight wrote:
Yes, he has, you just keep ignoring it and repeating the same rhetoric over and over.
No, he keeps repeating "That would be giving special privileges to homosexuals," again and again, but it keeps being wrong.
No. I keep saying that it would be granting special benefits to same-sex couples. That's not the same thing. Your wording makes it appear like it's about homosexuals. It's not. Two straight women can't qualify for those benefits anymore than two gay women.
It's not specifically about the sexual orientation of the people. It's about the combination of sexes represented by the two people in the couple. You may think that's not relevant, but it really is.
Let me present you with an analogy:
Let's say that the government decides that hybrid vehicles are a great idea. So they create a subsidy program for them to encourage people to buy them. In order to qualify for this subsidy, I have to buy a car that fits the criteria for a "hybrid" car.
Now. Let's say I like my big ol V8 chevy and I want to buy it. But I want the subsidy. Can I argue that the government is discriminating against *me* because I'm not allowed to buy the car I want to buy? I'm forced to buy the one that I don't like if I want the subsidy? How is that fair? So people who like hybrids get a benefit for something they'd buy anyway, but I only get it if I buy something I don't want and I don't get one for what I do want.
Honestly. That's about how I view the gay marriage movement on this particular issue. Gay marriage in principle. Fine. Social institution? Absolutely. Civil contracts. Definitely. But to change the legal status qualifications? Absurd. Exactly as it would be absurd to change the requirements to call a car a "hybrid" purely because you believe it's discrimination to not provide the same benefits to people who buy other types of engines. Sorry. It's just that silly...
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1. It can't possibly be a special privilege because everyone would have it.
Yes. That's the point. The benefits cease to have value if everyone gets them. Don't they? Exactly as if everyone got to park in the blue spaces, they'd have no meaning or value (other then costing more).
And you were sooooo close!
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2. It's not a privilege given, it's restoring a freedom specially denied to a specific group.
Er? Excuse me? When did we historically grant these benefits to gay couples and then take them away? You've got that one backwards.
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Men don't marry women just because they are women, they marry the person they love, who happens to be a woman.
And yet. If they weren't women, there'd be no need for marriage. Maybe you didn't get this when I said it earlier. If humans reproduced by asexual budding or something, we would never have invented the thing we call "marriage". It's only because when men and women have sex, they will statistically produce children and a need to manage that process within a society, that the institution was created.
Men choose to spend their lives (or just some time) with a woman because he loves her, or just wants sex. Historically, men marry women for two reasons:
1. He wants to ensure that any children she has are his to ensure his inheritance and biological reproduction.
2. If he doesn't, the womans father will come after him.
Seriously. That's why. The institution we have today is the descendant of that basic concept. Lots of stuff added over time, but that's basically it. We marry to secure biological reproduction for the man, and to secure support with raising of children for the woman. The institution is enforced by the community because it is the most efficient manner to handle the production of offspring within any large society (beyond small clans).
Every single large scale community has developed essentially the exact same institution for the exact same reasons. This is not accidental. It's a pretty clear case of biological necessity driving sociological construct.
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In the same way that a straight man you wouldn't marry just any woman off the street a gay man doesn't want to marry just any woman off the street.
It's not about what you want. It's about a sociological need to manage the production of children. That's really it. What's so funny is that as we've experimented with expanded definitions and social roles, we've seen the very statistic that marriage is designed to prevent grow. Rates of births to single mothers has skyrocketed over the last half century. That's not a coincidence. It's the exact result of all the tinkering being done to social institutions by people who are sure they don't really serve any purpose and can just be changed willy-nilly without consequence.
Funny.
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Straight men want to marry the person they love, and gay men want to marry the person they love as well.
No. Straight men are encouraged (strongly in many cultures) to marry the woman they have sexual relations with. For exactly the reasons I've illustrated above. Gay relationships simply don't enter into the picture. It's not about discrimination against homosexuality. It's a simple recognition that homosexual relationships don't require marriage to be non-damaging to society.
The ancient Greeks were probably one of the most tolerant cultures when it came to homosexuality. Yet, if you'd suggested the concept of gay marriage, they'd have looked at you like you were crazy. You didn't marry your gay partner(s). You loved them. You spent time with them. You helped them out financially and got them trained into a craft (depending on your age relative to theirs). Or you just plain dallied with them. But a man married a woman. And it was entirely about having children. There certainly was love there too. But the point was that it never occurred to them to institute something like gay marriage. The whole concept was absurd. Marriage was about establishing paternity and inheritance. Why would you force that on someone for any other reason?
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Creating gender restrictions prevents a specific segment from pursuing their constitutionally guaranteed right to be happy.
I can't even start with how lame this argument is... Let's just skip this.
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Saying a gay man has the same rights as you do is saying that he doesn't really care who he marries so long as it is a women.
No. I'm saying he can marry anyone he wants. But he's not going to receive government funded or mandated benefits unless he marries a woman. Exactly as the guy who decides he's rather drive the V8 doesn't get the hybrid subsidy.
Get it? You still get to choose. Are you saying you can't love your partner or commit your life to that person unless the government pays you? Seriously?
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So the same must be true of straight men, it shouldn't matter who a straight man marries so long as it is a woman. Love must have nothing to do with marriage then.
It really doesn't. The government doesn't care if you love the person you marry. Some edge cases where they suspect immigration fraud aside, of course. What it cares about is creating an incentive for people who may produce children to marry. It's really that simple. Traditionally, there were massive social and legal penalties for men and women who had sex outside of marriage. I think we should agree that creating incentives instead of stoning people to death is a better way, right? But it doesn't change the basic purpose of this involvement. We've changed a punishment for not risking pregnancy outside of marriage with incentives designed to avoid it. That's a kindler gentler way of accomplishing the same thing. But let's not pretend that this means that the benefits should be given out to anyone for any reasons. There's still a reason for them, and gay couples just don't apply.