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I'm also not entire sure that anyone pays for the parking spaces, I believe they're required by law to be placed in a parking lot when it is paved.
I "pay" for it by having to walk farther than I might have to otherwise. Also, someone pays for the space, either way. If it's the business, who's going to pay for that? The customer, right? So I'm paying that tiny bit of extra money every time I shop there so that the owner can pay the additional expense of having handicapped parking spaces, but I don't get to use them.
Yes. Handicapped people pay that extra to. But they get the benefit.
The point is that I don't complain that I can't park there. I understand why those spaces exist and who they are for. And I'm ok with that.
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Regardless, if the government does give some kind of a reimbursement for them, everyone pays for that reimbursement equally, we don't make non-handicapped people have to pay less. Your analogy would be valid only if non-handicapped people had to pay for the parking spot and handicapped people didn't.
Ok. So you and I go out to dinner. We split the bill evenly, but only I get to order and eat.
Is that fair? Of course not. You'd only do that if there was some reason you felt ok with helping to pay for me to have a meal. And if the government were considering making it a requirement for you to do so, you'd certainly feel it was valid for you to consider whether the circumstances warranted the benefit you're providing for me. I can't claim I have a "right" to it anymore than a handicapped person has a "right" for handicapped parking to exist. It's a benefit. A nice thing we do for those who we feel need it.
My point is that I'm ok with the benefits granted by the legal status of marriage when applied to heterosexual couples. It makes sense to me. I'm ok with paying that extra in this case. I'm *not* ok with paying that extra in order to subsidize a gay marriage. If they want to marry, that's great. But I don't feel that they need for me to pay for it. They are in no greater "need" than I am. I would oppose that just as I'd oppose someone saying we should change the definition of handicapped to include left handed people. They don't need to park up front anymore than I do, and gay couples don't need the benefits granted by the state status of marriage anymore than I do.
Get it?
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Wrong, wrong, wrong. Couples that marry and can't have children are granted the same benefits as couples who can have children.
Sigh. But they *could* have children, right? We can't know for sure beforehand.
Let me put this another way. If we have an outbreak of salmonella in say peppers from a particular company (just to stay somewhat topical). Not every single pepper will be tainted though. Most are going to be completely safe in fact. But we don't test every pepper and then sell those that are good and dump the ones that are bad. That would be too expensive and take too much time. We simply treat all of them the same and dump them all so that we're sure we get all the tainted peppers, right?
Same deal here. We can't test every couple to see if they can or will have a child. It would take too much time and be too expensive. But just as we can say it's only peppers from that company (and not artichokes or peppers from other companies) that are tainted, we can say that *only* couples consisting of one male and one female can produce a child together. No more. No less. Thus, we treat them all the same. All qualify for the benefits because any one of those couples *could* produce a child. We just can't say for sure which ones will...
A gay couple cannot produce a child together as a natural consequence of being a couple. It's physically impossible. Thus, while we can't say for sure which heterosexual couples can or will produce children, we can absolutely say that no gay couples will. Thus, it's silly to include them.
If you want to argue that we should further tighten the restrictions on marriage benefit, that's a completely different argument. But I think arguing that since the restrictions aren't perfectly tight that we should just loosen them is bizarre. It's like saying that since not everyone who speeds will cause an accident that we shouldn't have speed limits. Silly...
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On top if it, children grant an ADDITIONAL benefit given, so as much as you may want to ignore it, a certain amount is given solely for marriage.
No. Those benefits are provided for being the guardian of a child. Period. Single people get the same benefits.
I think we can all agree that children are better off being raised by two parents rather than one, right? And the "best case" for children is to be raised by the two people who are their biological parents. Thus, it makes sense to provide additional benefits for those who marry.
Those benefits need to be an incentive. Meaning that they have to exist prior to children appearing. If we wait until after children are born to provide benefits for them, then we're back to the state supporting single women bearing the full brunt of child-raising. The whole point of marriage is to try to prevent that as much as possible. It's not perfect, but it's better than if it didn't exist at all...
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Again, why the hell should I pay for your base benefit if you don't want to pay for mine?
First off. I'm single. Technically, it's really: "Why shouldn't I have the ability to choose which sorts of benefits I pay for that other people enjoy?".
Let me make this really clear (again): I agree with and am ok with paying to provide the state marriage benefits to heterosexual couples. I am not ok with doing so for gay couples. That's my choice and is certainly my right.
You've asked me why. I've explained my reasons (at length, and this is about the 80th time). My reasons haven't changed. No one has yet explained adequately why I should subsidize gay marriage. Instead, I keep getting arguments about how maybe not all heterosexual marriages should be subsidized, but not why gay marriages should.
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It probably keeps coming up because your logic is stupid and hypocritical. Maybe you should try harder.
I've explained my logic over and over a zillion times on this board. I've literally seen every single argument that's been made here. Many many times. No one has *ever* presented a valid counter to my argument. What typically happens is we get to a few bits past this point, usually devolving into name calling, and then the topic drops off the front page and is forgotten, only to re-appear a few months later with most of the pro-gay-marriage people having conveniently forgotten every argument I made.
I get that you disagree with me. What I don't get is why so many people argue this issue as though they'd never heard my argument before. It's the "But what about this?" bits that slay me. I suppose I'll just keep repeating the same arguments and hope that maybe one day, when this topic comes up, someone will actually preface their pro-gay-marriage position with at least some recognition for the sorts of arguments I use every single time.
Just once. That would be nice...