Ahkuraj wrote:
Gbaji's argument as I understand it:
... "the taxpayer" shouldn't have to carry the cost of married benefits for homosexual couples, because homosexual marriage does not benefit society, unlike hetersexual marriage, which does benefit society. He then says, don’t just call discrimination, what would justify accepting that cost when procreation doesn't naturally result from homosexual pairings?
More or less correct. I tend to define it more as an attempt to avoid a negative (children supported solely by their mothers), but that's close enough.
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Try to forget, for the moment, that the question is essentially a selfish one ... "What's in it for me?" and that it ignores the emotional needs of our fellow human beings.
All discussions of cost versus benefit are based on this at some level. And let's be clear. It's not just "what's in it for me?". I can certainly choose to provide benefits to people for emotional reasons. The example of the handicapped spaces is a good one. I'm more than willing to bear the cost of this, even though it does not benefit me one tiny bit.
The better statement of principle is "what am I willing to pay for and why?". I'm ok with paying for handicapped people to park closer to the store. I'm ok with paying for heterosexual couples to gain some benefits if they marry. But I wouldn't be ok with having a "pink spaces" in which gay people get to park closer to the store (for example), and for much the same reasons, I'm not ok with providing those benefits to same-sex couples who marry.
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It’s better for all of us if homosexual couples have the same kind of financial encouragements (legal benefits, etc) to remain together as married couples do.
Financial encouragements to get married in the first place, actually. But close. It's not an after the fact thing. If two people see a significant financial benefit to getting married instead of just shacking up, they'll be more likely to get married. And if they have children, that's better. But if those two people are of the same sex, there's no point to providing the incentive.
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The presence of homosexuals in our society is a fact. The issue is whether it makes more sense as a society to turn our backs on the question, leaving it to chance, or systemically encourage them (by means of the benefits of legal recognition of the marriage) to form loving, stable, marital relationships. Marriage is a stabilizing influence on society. Married people are on average more productive, more responsible, healthier participants in our society. Single people on average cost all of us collectively more than married people do. For example:
Single people are more likely to be unemployed – Dept of Labor statistics are easy to find: unemployment rates (2007) of 2.5% for married people with their spouse present, 5.3% for widowed/divorced/separated, 8.8% for single (never married). Employed people pay more in taxes and cost us less in government programs and uninsured medical expenses, among other financial benefits.
Nice facts, but a bit misleading. Unemployment levels only show people looking for work. In many marriages, one spouse stays at home (often to care for children), while the other works. If we were to calculate the actual percentage of single people who work compared to married people who work, the numbers would come out totally differently.
Not to say that your general argument that marriage is a stabilizing influence isn't correct, just that your facts don't really have much bearing on that. I will agree that married couples will tend to be more stable and beneficial to society overall than single people.
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Single people are more likely to commit crime – Dept of Justice statistics are easy to find. Even when you norm the rates for age, single people are more likely to be criminal offenders, especially for the more serious crimes. For example, capital offenders in prison in one study were found to be over 50% single (never married). In contrast, single people make up less than half the general population.
Yup. But you can't show whether this is because people who get involved in crime are less likely to get married or the other way around. Social benefits don't necessarily show up in this sort of statistic. Again. I tend to agree with you, but it's not as cut and dried as that. The mere fact of being single isn't going to make you want to commit more crime. It's just that if you commit crimes, you're more likely to be single.
You could argue that a married person would be less likely to risk his relationship and family, but that's strengthened (again) by the presence of children. I think if you calculated the statistics for any of a number of social measurements against married couples with children versus those without, or even single parents with children against single people without, you'll find a much stronger correlation.
Just a guess though. But one that I'm fairly certain is true. The point being that chasing the "symptom" isn't really correct. Applying the label of marriage to different types of relationships doesn't automatically confer the same statistical results. It's at least an attempt, so I'll give you credit.
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In addition, some homosexuals (the ones with the right equipment) can have babies in the usual way, and do, because they want children.
Only by choice though. You're approaching the issue backwards. You're trying to make this about choice. But the benefits are provided across the whole population. That's deliberate. If you think about this from a 10k foot perspective, you'll realize that child bearing is not actually a choice for heterosexual couples. For each individual, it is. But for the whole, it is not. That group *must* produce children, or our species becomes extinct. Therefore, it's *not* really a choice. Not as a group. They must breed. Therefore, it's relevant to apply some benefits to make that process as painless and inexpensive (or even beneficial) to society as a whole.
While a lesbian could choose to be impregnated, it will never be with whomever impregnated her. Should we reward her for that choice? That's a separate issue though IMO. The point is that we provide some sort of incentive for those who will *not* choose to have a child, but will (must) have them for our species to survive to do so in a state of marriage as often as possible. That's why we target the benefits at that group.
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A stable family group is a much better venue to raise children in for a variety of reasons, but one of them is the savings to the taxpayer. One study not hard to find (google tax marital status) found that "Single Parents Cost Taxpayers $112 Billion"
How is that any more stable than a woman having a child as a single person and then marrying someone else? While that's a step in the right direction (after the fact), it's not something that should be encouraged. She's free to choose that, but there's no reason for me to have to subsidize that choice.
If a heterosexual couple has sex often enough, they will produce children. Whether married or not. If a homosexual couple has sex, they never will. We need to cover for the eventuality that will happen, not the choice made by an individual.
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Now I can hear someone saying "but these statistics have to do with heterosexual marriages, why should we believe they would apply to homosexual couples?" My response: Think about it. Why wouldn't they? The same forces that lead married hetersexuals to become more responsible citizens would be acting on married homosexuals. Why wouldn't the effects be similar?
You're assuming that.
Um... But remember. I'm not opposed to gay couples marrying. I just don't see why their marriages should be subsidized. The value they bring by doing so is a minor good. But the value to society for heterosexual couples marrying is much much greater. That's the point here.
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To summarize, failing to encourage marriage by homosexuals is counter to everyone's self interest.
Not to the extend that failing to do so for heterosexuals does. Remember, it's about cost versus benefit. We lump a whole bunch of financial benefits into the marriage status. That cost is justified given the extreme benefit to having more children born to a married couple than to single mothers.
The societal benefit for gay couples getting married is minimal. That's nice, but it doesn't justify that much cost. Give them a fruit basket maybe...
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To go back to that alternative reply I mentioned ... social contract. One way to evaluate potential rules is to ask yourself "What rules would I want if I were setting it up in advance and didn't know which side of the equation I'd end up on?" I think the answer is obvious. If I were setting this up in advance and didn't know whether I'd be heterosexual or homosexual, allowing homosexual marriage has lots of upside and very little downside.
It's not about "sides" though. That's the wrong way to look at it.
The issue is about a set of benefits designed to be an incentive for behavior. The group we target those benefits to needs to represent a value as a result of that changed behavior equivalent to the cost of the benefits. Heterosexual couples meet this requirement, so it makes sense to provide the benefits to them. Homosexual couples do not. Therefore, it does not make sense to provide the benefits to them.
That's the logic of my position. It's comes back to the original question: "Am I ok with paying for this benefit for this group for this reason"?