Gonna back this up for a sec, since I thought this was relevant:
Commander Annabella wrote:
No,the immutability of homosexuality is irrelevant because it presupposes that the behavior itself is problematic.
Actually, in the context of marriage, it's not homosexuality that is problematic (except in some early tribal cultures where birthrate really mattered), but that heterosexuality is both problematic and necessary.
In settled societies, heterosexual relationships result in children. This is both necessary to continue the species, but also problematic if you can't account for who's responsible for the care of the child in question. That's why marriage was created. We can debate its role in society *today*, but the need to attach children to parents (specifically men) was absolutely the reason the institution of marriage was created.
As I've stated repeatedly, homosexuality does not present any sort of real problem for the society as a whole. We're not burdened with a need to overpopulate in order to fight off a high death rate or enemy tribes bent on wiping us out via attrition and resource competition. Homosexual relationships, regardless of nature, don't significantly affect the society as a whole. Heterosexual relationships do. They statistically produce children. This biological fact hasn't changed. The same socio-economic problems exist, no matter how much we try to pretend that in our brave new world they don't.
There is still a need to encourage heterosexual couples to marry. This also hasn't changed. We've replaced strong social and legal pressures with economic incentives. That's nice, but it doesn't change the purpose of those incentives. They exist in order to attempt to reduce the number of children born to single women. No. It's not perfect. But IMO you're committing a silly slippery slope argument to say that since we've already done things that make these incentives less useful that there's no reason not to make yet more changes in the same direction.
We can debate whether a model in which the government encourages marriage as a means of providing for children, or one in which the government simply directly pays for their care is better. I tend to think that the former is better, but that's certainly subject to debate. However, I think it's patently unfair to the importance of the issue at hand to just assume that this isn't a valid debate and that the marriage benefits granted by the government really don't serve any purpose other then as a reward for people who love eachother.
Because as nice of a sentiment as that is, that's *not* why I'm ok with paying for it. And by extending those benefits to gay couples, you're acting upon an assumption that this is the only reason the benefit exists, without the benefit of any sort of debate. Some of us (many of us), simply disagree with that. While most don't (or can't) elaborate exactly why, they do recognize that this isn't about rights for gay people, it's about destroying the definition and purpose of the marriage benefit itself. That's the key issue here, but it gets skirted by simply arguing about rights and discrimination.
What I'm trying to do is get folks to recognize that there's more to this then just an appeal to emotion regarding a disadvantaged group's rights. There's something else at stake. This is why I've repeatedly referred to this as throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Because including same sex couples in the criteria for those benefits doesn't give gay people rights. It damages the purpose of the marriage benefit. There's a whole social engineering argument about that as well, but it's something I'm opposed to.
My point is that gay people are not being denied a right. They can obtain all the things they want and need in their relationships without making this exact legal definition change. They don't "need" to do this. It's unnecessary and carries with it a cost that IMO far outweighs any benefits to the gay community. I oppose it, not because I don't like gay people, but because I *do* support the idea that children raised by two married parents are not only themselves vastly better off, but generate sufficient positive benefit for society as a whole that it's worth doing what we can to promote it. I feel that in their rush to gain some minor semantic issue, the gay agenda is costing us something much much more dear.