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So sorry to hear this Thumb. 
Hi guys. Thank you so much all for the well wishes. Green arrows for all since I can't hug you.
All I'm hearing are the rumors and innuendo right now so I'm trying to not pass judgment on anyone who was there when it happened. But if it did shake down the way I'm hearing, I'm about to go ballistic because it was completely preventable.
We had a prayer service at the man-made lake/lagoon where it happened. Then had a rosary service at my auntie's house later that evening. Flowers were left at the lagoon and people were stopping to give their condolences when they realized who we all were. I saw the off-duty nurse who tried to give CPR to my nephew when he was pulled from the water and she was devastated. She kept apologizing to my cousin for not being able to save his son.
I could barely even look at my grandmother. She was just staring into space yesterday and last night and in her mind, she's not supposed to outlive a great-grandchild. I know that she's thinking that it's been her time and she's been ready for it and to know that she's outlived a 4 year old great-grandchild is unbearable. But she had the strength to give my nephew's face a kiss and a blessing and a short prayer at the hospital before the medical examiner took his body away. I wouldn't have been able to do that.
My family is reeling right now. Blame and mud-slinging is happening right now and I'm trying to stay out of that, but I know I'm going to get dragged into sooner or later.
My nephew was a typical 4 year old. Sunny, always wanting to play, smiling. He loved being with his big brother and older cousins and tried to rough-house play as much as possible. He hated being left out of anything. There was a family party just a couple of weeks ago at Chuck E. Cheese and he was running around with his tokens, trying to figure out which arcade game to play and it was hysterical watching him trying to make a decision when he just couldn't. Too many shiny blinking machines for him to make a choice. That's the memory I'm going to hold onto. I can't let myself think of the way he died, otherwise I just can't keep it together.
Edited, Sep 3rd 2008 10:08am by Thumbelyna
All I'm hearing are the rumors and innuendo right now so I'm trying to not pass judgment on anyone who was there when it happened. But if it did shake down the way I'm hearing, I'm about to go ballistic because it was completely preventable.
We had a prayer service at the man-made lake/lagoon where it happened. Then had a rosary service at my auntie's house later that evening. Flowers were left at the lagoon and people were stopping to give their condolences when they realized who we all were. I saw the off-duty nurse who tried to give CPR to my nephew when he was pulled from the water and she was devastated. She kept apologizing to my cousin for not being able to save his son.
I could barely even look at my grandmother. She was just staring into space yesterday and last night and in her mind, she's not supposed to outlive a great-grandchild. I know that she's thinking that it's been her time and she's been ready for it and to know that she's outlived a 4 year old great-grandchild is unbearable. But she had the strength to give my nephew's face a kiss and a blessing and a short prayer at the hospital before the medical examiner took his body away. I wouldn't have been able to do that.
My family is reeling right now. Blame and mud-slinging is happening right now and I'm trying to stay out of that, but I know I'm going to get dragged into sooner or later.
My nephew was a typical 4 year old. Sunny, always wanting to play, smiling. He loved being with his big brother and older cousins and tried to rough-house play as much as possible. He hated being left out of anything. There was a family party just a couple of weeks ago at Chuck E. Cheese and he was running around with his tokens, trying to figure out which arcade game to play and it was hysterical watching him trying to make a decision when he just couldn't. Too many shiny blinking machines for him to make a choice. That's the memory I'm going to hold onto. I can't let myself think of the way he died, otherwise I just can't keep it together.
Edited, Sep 3rd 2008 10:08am by Thumbelyna
I'm so sorry Thumbelya 
no words can can help you and your family during the days ahead as you try to accept the lost of your nephew.
[hugs]
Elne
no words can can help you and your family during the days ahead as you try to accept the lost of your nephew.
[hugs]
Elne
In the place of a Dark Lord you would have a Queen! Not dark but beautiful and terrible as the Morn! Treacherous as the Seas! Stronger than the foundations of the Earth! All shall love me and despair! -ElneClare
This Post is written in Elnese, If it was an actual Post, it would make sense.
This Post is written in Elnese, If it was an actual Post, it would make sense.
Thumbelyna wrote:
. Blame and mud-slinging is happening right now and I'm trying to stay out of that, but I know I'm going to get dragged into sooner or later.
Edited, Sep 3rd 2008 10:08am by Thumbelyna
Edited, Sep 3rd 2008 10:08am by Thumbelyna
Omg, I think after the tragedy, this is the saddest thing of all. The last thing your family needs is hate and anger amongst each other; you're all only going to get through this with each other. The people who should be "blamed" are the parents, but they've already paid drastically for their mistake (if any even occurred), and your family should keep that in mind.
Wish I could help ya more Thumb, have my own crap going on. *hugs*
DaimenKain wrote:
The people who should be "blamed" are the parents, but they've already paid drastically for their mistake (if any even occurred), and your family should keep that in mind.
You are a major cocksucker for even suggesting that. What the hell is the matter with you?
I'm so sorry Thumbelyna. I can't imagine how horrible that must be. I wish you and your family the best.
Kaelesh wrote:
DaimenKain wrote:
The people who should be "blamed" are the parents, but they've already paid drastically for their mistake (if any even occurred), and your family should keep that in mind.
You are a major cocksucker for even suggesting that. What the hell is the matter with you?
Dude wtf are you talking about? I'm saying that if there's blame being thrown around, it's probably at the parents, and even if they did somehow make a mistake (WHICH IM NOT SAYING THEY DID IF YOU EVEN BOTHERED TO READ MY POST) they've paid for that mistake a thousand times over and don't deserve to have mud slung at them.
How does that make me a **********?
Oh, there's going to be mud-slinging and blaming going around, but not within my own family, it's heading all to the other side. My nephew was with his mom that day, not his dad (my cousin). And suffice it to say, a lot of words have already been said that includes a lot of family drama that I'm not getting into at the moment.
Reading your post about your grandmother and the memory you have of Chuck E. Cheese made me tear up.
/comfort.
I remember seeing a story like this around here in Hawaii last year, the kid's name was Caleb and he was actually at the school that I work at for a brief period of time.
I forget the entire story, but all I do remember is that he was found unconscious in the family pool at the age of 3. He was not breathing for what was determined to be around a total of 45 minutes, and was pronounced "dead", until they somehow managed to revive him. He lived, but was left with severe brain and other organ damage as well as the inability to walk and breathe on his own.
He's made some improvements and recoveries since then, but whether or not he'll ever make a "full" recovery remains to be seen. After surviving through the better part of an hour without any air though, it's hard to completely rule it out.
Although the event certainly could have turned out to be more tragic, I still imagine that his life as well as his family's lives must have suffered through numerous hardships as a result of the incident and the subsequent rehabilitation.
I'm sure that these people as well as innumerable others, in their grieving, allow themselves to be bombarded by "if only" thoughts at some point -- thinking that if so and so had only done this one thing differently, the incident could have been prevented. Dwelling on these sorts of things for too long tends to lead to blame and animosity, which is really helpful for nobody. As has been stated, the damage has been done, it is part of the past now, and there isn't any changing it; only the future can be changed. The punishment has already been meted out and I'm sure his immediate family is in enough pain already; the additional mud-slinging on top of that is not necessary. I do not think that is how your nephew would like to be remembered, as a reminder of the grief and hate amongst his family.
I hope that his family can get past the "if only" phase and start to look toward the future soon.
I remember seeing a story like this around here in Hawaii last year, the kid's name was Caleb and he was actually at the school that I work at for a brief period of time.
I forget the entire story, but all I do remember is that he was found unconscious in the family pool at the age of 3. He was not breathing for what was determined to be around a total of 45 minutes, and was pronounced "dead", until they somehow managed to revive him. He lived, but was left with severe brain and other organ damage as well as the inability to walk and breathe on his own.
He's made some improvements and recoveries since then, but whether or not he'll ever make a "full" recovery remains to be seen. After surviving through the better part of an hour without any air though, it's hard to completely rule it out.
Although the event certainly could have turned out to be more tragic, I still imagine that his life as well as his family's lives must have suffered through numerous hardships as a result of the incident and the subsequent rehabilitation.
I'm sure that these people as well as innumerable others, in their grieving, allow themselves to be bombarded by "if only" thoughts at some point -- thinking that if so and so had only done this one thing differently, the incident could have been prevented. Dwelling on these sorts of things for too long tends to lead to blame and animosity, which is really helpful for nobody. As has been stated, the damage has been done, it is part of the past now, and there isn't any changing it; only the future can be changed. The punishment has already been meted out and I'm sure his immediate family is in enough pain already; the additional mud-slinging on top of that is not necessary. I do not think that is how your nephew would like to be remembered, as a reminder of the grief and hate amongst his family.
I hope that his family can get past the "if only" phase and start to look toward the future soon.
So sorry for your loss, Thumb. My heart goes out to you and your family.
My brother's goddaughter also almost drowned. My brother is a trained lifeguard and the only way that anyone noticed was that my four-year old niece was staring at the pool and wouldn't come inside. She didn't even speak. My brother went to go see what she was looking at and dove in the pool and performed CPR. If he would have just carried her in and they all had lunch, the goddaughter would have drowned. Things like this just happen. No rhyme or reason that we could possibly comprehend. I'm sure his mother is just as heartbroken as anyone.
In Latin America, any children of cousins are nieces and nephews. That second-cousin stuff is Anglo.
Also, Nexa: Did you bop Smash? Seriously.
My brother's goddaughter also almost drowned. My brother is a trained lifeguard and the only way that anyone noticed was that my four-year old niece was staring at the pool and wouldn't come inside. She didn't even speak. My brother went to go see what she was looking at and dove in the pool and performed CPR. If he would have just carried her in and they all had lunch, the goddaughter would have drowned. Things like this just happen. No rhyme or reason that we could possibly comprehend. I'm sure his mother is just as heartbroken as anyone.
In Latin America, any children of cousins are nieces and nephews. That second-cousin stuff is Anglo.
Also, Nexa: Did you bop Smash? Seriously.
I'm really sad to hear such news Thumbelyna, I know I usually don't post here (As I hardly post what so ever.) My heart goes out to you, I'm very sorry for your loss, I had a friend die in a similair way a long time ago, very sad, hugs
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