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I had a friend in school that had really bad psoriasis on his scalp, arms, and legs. He used to get teased a lot and some of the "not so bright" kids were fearful of "catching" it. I pretended to date him briefly.

Nexa

I think I'm happy to have never heard of this then?

Nexa

I take extreme offence to this. I have been a “stepfather” since ’05 and been in my stepdaughter’s life since 01 and that doesn’t make me a parent? Who the hell are you to pass judgment on weather someone is a parent or not? I take it from your posts and the information you have put out there, that I have at least double if not triple your experience as a parent but since I have never fathered a child I am not fit to be a parent? There is an old saying… “If you know not of what you speak, your mouth is best used for chewing”. My advice to you? Go get something to eat because you sure as hell don’t know what you are talking about.

Newsflash but IIRC, I'm shorter than you!

And as to who can say who is a parent and whatnot, agree with the other posters that a step-parent, adoptive parent, bio parent, etc., I've been all 3. All I can say is that the emotional connection and bonding that you have with the child is what matters and how involved you want to be with your child.

Edit: I'd leave pics, but I know I just posted some a few weeks and the kids haven't changed all that much. The hubby's all fixed and we're not having anymore, so it's ironic that I'm wanting to hear the patter of little baby feet again.

Edited, Aug 25th 2008 2:14pm by Thumbelyna

I'm going to get neutered soon also, but that's the point where you start adopting. My wife does *not* want to go through pregnancy again (nor do I want her to!).

And thus ends the peace and love in the thread, lol!!

No, you don't understand....

You REALLY don't....

My wife is a wonderfull person and I really couldn't imagine life without her, but when she ramps up the complaining, it's all I can do to turn the switch from actually listening to the "uhh huh, sorry to hear that" type of responces...

I love my stepdaughter just as if she was flesh of my flesh and blood of my blood. I drop her off at school in the morning, pick her up at the library when I get off work, go to all of her band performances, help out at her cheer fundraisers, go to all of her cheer competitions, discipline her when she messes up, and reward her when she does something spectacular. She is a wonderful kid and to know that I had a hand in molding her to be the way she is makes me all warm inside.

She calls me by my first name and not dad because I am not her father. Unfortunately, she has a better relationship with me then her biological father (who could easily take the douche-of-the-year award) but hey, I’m not complaining, and I know where I stand with her.

I also think that as a step-parent, the cards are automatically stacked against you because the child views you as some kind of interloper/trespasser into their little world so you have to work harder to earn the child’s trust.

When I first started dating my now wife, it was all I could do to not step on her toes or interfere while she was disciplining her child or when I saw her doing something wrong and my wife didn’t. No matter how I felt, (barring medical emergencies) she is not my child and anything that concerned her then was not my call. Whenever her child wanted to do something I always had to clear it with her mother. Now that I have been around since 01 and have watched her grow from a silly 6 year old to a wonderfully intelligent 13 year old it’s a bit different and we co-parent.


Edited, Aug 25th 2008 3:38pm by Aadyn Litefoot

I'm happy to move on, with one exception because you seem to be missing a vital component of what *I* took issue with. The insult to Smash was to him, and while I don't appreciate my daughter being involved in it, that is that. However, your initial post...which I first replied to and to which you seemed confused, was only exacerbated by this:


The implication in the first post and the unnecessary "explanation" here is still that *I* would involve myself with and make a huge part of my child's life someone who is not only not a positive influence...but an outright negative influence who will be detrimental to her in some way is insulting to ME. Since before the birth of my daughter, she is ALWAYS my first priority. I love Smash to pieces, don't get me wrong, but I would NEVER date someone who was not prepared to be a good and loving role model to my child.

I don't feel that I should need to spell that out here, but I feel that we have an excellent community of parents and I really enjoy being able to talk about our kids, how they are growing, what they're doing, etc. We may have heated discussions about parenting issues, to include discipline, immunizations, public vs. private schooling, etc...however, *I* draw that line at saying you personally, and your child personally and specifically are wrong/bad/stupid/ugly/etc. Before you even start, I recognize that Smash *does not* have that line, but last time I checked, we're two separate people and I would appreciate it if that could be remembered in times of heated debate.

We say there are no lines here, but I still believe some things are below the belt. Evidently, I'm not the only one.

There, I've said what I need to say, whether or not you read it or comprehend it.

Nexa

Come on, guys. Enough already.

No. It's not enough already. It'll never be enough while you continue your vapid, banal, useless posts. It'll never be enough so long as you're so screwed up that you can only validate your existence on this planet by using your child as a proxy.


The fact is that while I've seen a lot here about Smash and Nexa being involved, I have NOT seen a great deal about Smash being involved in the parenting of Nexa's little girl, which led me to assume that Smash was not acting in a step-father capacity yet.


You're not capable of inferring anything about Nexa and I, or our relationship, or how Hannah fits into it. You're too stupid. Am I not being clear? You're incapable. You'll never understand what we don't oversimplify for you in the same way that an ant will never direct a major motion picture.



That is, I think, not an unreasonable assumption,

You are wrong.


Mom's boyfriend is not always involved with the children (as Aadyn just finished discussing about the early days of his relationship with a woman with children.) And after all, this is SMASH we are talking about, who doesn't present a terribly paternal persona around these parts. So the confusion is fairly valid.


No, it's completely invalid. It's not a mistake anyone else made. Why do you think that is? Why do you think it is that you get things so incredibly wrong when others don't. I'd ponder that a while were I you.


If I was mistaken in this assumption, I apologize to Nexa AND to Smash, but this crucifixion bandwagon everyone is jumping on is just a wee bit gratuitous. I have never EVER been anything but 100% supportive of people who take responsibility for the upbringing of a child, and I've been around here long enough that most of you should have picked up on that.


Let me clue you in on the "bandwagon". You're a bad mother. You make it obvious post after post. Sheer politeness and lack of desire for confrontation prevents most people from drawing your attention to it, but when you post something so incredibly stupid, it pushes them past that line. If you're going to persist in your useless posts about how much you're ruining your kid's life, you have to be polite. If you're polite, the vast majority of people will just pity your kid, but leave you alone. They'll assume you just aren't bright enough to know better.


I misspoke because I misunderstood the nature of Nexa and Smash's relationship. Fine. Get over it already, ffs.

Has little to do with the vitriol. In case you missed it, it's because you're a bad mother.

ANYWAY...

Great pic, Wint!

BOOYAH I am special!!!!