Nexa wrote:
Oh, and evidently, the paperback of She Comes First isn't out until April of 2009...so grab a used hardcover or read it in the store (like I will...I always raise eyebrows in the Borders Cafe). I was reading
Loose Girl when I was last there. Still need to finish that one.
Nexa
Bull; I've had the paperback version of "She Comes First" for years. I must have gotten it... at least 2-3 years ago? It's an interesting read. I think what it is best for is getting a man into the mindset of pleasing a woman, and that sexual fun is NOT sex. Actually, the author starts the book off with "Confessions of a Premature Ejaculator," where he explains that his initial "research" into the topic was because he was really bad at sex. It was only after he really started to delve deep into the world of "cunning linguism" that he realized "foreplay" should be "coreplay."
The book is nice in that it has various diagrams and it will actually allow you to accurately label all the parts of a ******. And once you know the areas, then you can focus on different parts. Now, the problem with the book (and really, any book on sexual activity that I have found) is that every person is different. The author of "She Comes First" gives various techniques to help your lady reach ******, but they may or may not work; if your woman is uncomfortable with "down there" in the first place, no amount of oral sex will get her off.
Despite this inherent limitation, yes, read the book! You'll learn a lot about anatomy, and if you really don't know much about cunnilingus, it will give you a great starting guide. Just don't take it as scripture; the most important part of any sexual activity where you want to please your partner is being able to effectively communicate/read their mood. Nothing gets older than asking every 30 seconds "Is this good?"
Edit: There were some other interesting ideas, such as oral sex while a woman is menstruating, or the "virgin kiss." But again, the best part of the book is getting someone to FOCUS, not on sex, but on his/her partner. Go figure: to be good at oral sex, you need to have your head in the right place!
Edited, Jul 1st 2008 9:11pm by LockeColeMA