Is it really THAT big of a deal???Follow

Think it depends on how good "average" is.

Sex really is that big of a deal, but how much/how often/what kind varies greatly from person to person, obviously. Sex by one's self is enough for some people.

Nexa

It depends on the individual. Some people are quite asexual.

And the older you get, the lesser your libido, so the less it matters. Maybe.

But for now, yes, it's that important. If I was told my marriage would become sexless after a while, I'd seriously reconsider.

Cos I'm a bit of a rebel like that.

Take that, olde French institutions!!

And that was the consensus in one of the conversations I had. This marriage supposedly morphed into some kind of "deep friendship" where sex was a memory (the guy hadn't gotten any in something like 8 months and he said that he hasn't gotten a BJ in YEARS). And he said he was seriously considering finding someone just for the sexual release. Everyone else said Casual Encounters on Craigslist, because THAT works.

If she's on another continent, she's not technically a "mistress".

She's an "important overseas business meeting".

I don't understand why you'd remain married. I mean, I know sex isn't required to love someone, but if you've lost the desire to share that intimate connection with someone

Don't mistake sex with intimacy. Women seem to do that a lot for some reason.

Yeah, a little "What's the deal, here?" might go a long way.

Maybe he smells bad. Maybe she's having an affair. Maybe her hormones have shifted and she's just not interested and won't accommodate, in which case she can't really complain if he looks elsewhere (IMO).

...says the youngster.

It's a good question. There's so much more to it than simply 'ok' sex versus 'great' sex, though.

As a young single women, sexual encounters were often longer, more diverse and seemingly more orgasmic, cept none of them guys knew me like my hubby does. He can drive me wild in moments.

A friend of mine entered in a G rated marriage, at his insistance (she wasn't ready to get married but her family pressured her and so did he) and I don't think it was ever formally consumated, to use an archaic term. A little over a year later she's involved in an extra marital affair.

I think it's necessary for a healthy relationship, whether it's for the purposes of procreation or the purposes of relieving stress or the purposes of just having some fun with your hunnie. Without it, what you have is either a marriage of convenience, a really good friendship that you're calling a marriage, or a lie.

I think that's what it is. His wife is getting older and I mentioned menopause as a possibility and he did admit that could be it. I really don't think she's having an affair and I don't think he's wanting to have one either, but he said that rubbing one out only goes so far.

haha, men are great...she's either your little **** or someone else's *****.

Nexa

sex in a relationship is important. It is a way you show the person you love that you love them in that way and no other. It's a bonding experience that is shared only with one another, hence making it special. In not talking about one night stands or quickies, but sex within a relationship. There are different forms of sex so I'm only answering on this particular type.

A sexless marriage typically means the couple have sex less than ten times a year. It works for some and others not. The problem really lies in how much sex each individual in the relationship is comfortable with. If you have two people with a compatable sexual appetite, it doesnt matter how much or how little sex there is so long as each person is satisfied. The problem arises when you have two people with a big difference in sexual appetite. The person who needs more sex feels starved of attention, love, validity, and can begin to turn those feelings in on themselves. They start to blame themselves for not being sexy enough, not lovable enough, not good enough. On the other hand the person with the smaller sexual appetite begins to feel obligated to perform, thus cheapening the act itself and resenting their partner. This is where infedility, seperation, divorce, and other big issues can arise from, if the two dont communicate and try to figure out a comprimise.