ElneClare wrote:
While being able to get support for being transgender at an early age is both better for a child's mental health and outwear appearance, I can't say it justifies giving a child hormones to delay onset of puberty. I also feel the that risk of taking hormones as an adult female is too risky, when one looks at how they been link to breast cancer, has a lot to do on how I feel about the issue.
My concern (in both cases) is with the idea of identifying a child as "transgendered" at that age in the first place. Lots of young boys like to play with dolls and play "dress up", etc. Lots of young girls like to play with cars and footballs and whatnot as well. And very very very few of them decide later in life that they need some kind of gender transformation to be complete or something.
Sending the boy off to school in a dress is just as damaging IMO as taking away his "girl toys". IMO, a decent balance should work. Let the kids play with whatever they want, but keep their dress, hair, etc "normal" for their sex. You shouldn't assume that because a boy wants to wear a dress, or a girl doesn't like to wear dresses that this in any way represents a significant gender identity problem, or that gentle nudging to "wear boy/girl cloths" is going to harm them at all. Most kids go through phases like this at some point. Parents who simply tell them to wear the appropriate clothing without otherwise making a big deal out of it will avoid a hell of a lot of therapy later on. If you allow it to become a big deal *then* you'll have problems.
While his methods are wrong IMO, the doctor who believes that this sort of gender choice can't/shouldn't be made this early is spot on IMO. While there can be a genetic component that will cause some people to be predisposed to the gender opposite that of their sex, I'd wager you'll ***** a lot more kids up by allowing or encouraging environmental "transgender" actions then you'll ***** up by disallowing them. Statistically, there are a whole lot more male gendered boys who will go through a phase of wanting to wear dresses and whatnot, and will be screwed over by parents thinking that he's a transgender and encouraging him to "be whatever he wants to be", then there are actual genetically predisposed transgendered males. And the later group wont change their core feelings no matter how much you tell them to wear "boy clothes".