Is there anything else as demotivating as negative feedback at work?
Especially when you suspect you were right anyway, and your manager is wrong, and you dare not say anything about it to her face.
And here I was happily chugging away at work when I first came in. Now I'm sitting in my cubicle, deflated, staring moodily at my A+ study guide.
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catwho, pet mage of Jabober wrote:
Especially when you suspect you were right anyway, and your manager is wrong, and you dare not say anything about it to her face.
Eventually, you find a way to question it without sounding insulting. I've had to get quite good at this here at work...
catwho, pet mage of Jabober wrote:
Is there anything else as demotivating as negative feedback at work?
A hellbitch of a co-worker.
Just remember, it pays the same if the boss is right or wrong. Rather than getting bent out of shape about whatever it is, just slough it off and keep in mind in the end it'll come down on the boss' head.
Water on a duck's back, dudette.
Totem
Water on a duck's back, dudette.
Totem
catwho, pet mage of Jabober wrote:
Is there anything else as demotivating as negative feedback at work?
The ****** attitude you're displaying about it is far worse. Try thinking of it as 'constructive critisism' and all that managerial double-speak.
Turn that frown upside down.
If your boss was unprofessional, you can talk to HR about it. Otherwise, you just gotta take it.
"The Rich are there to take all of the money & pay none of the taxes, the middle class is there to do all the work and pay all the taxes, and the poor are there to scare the crap out of the middle class." -George Carlin
Totem wrote:
Just remember, it pays the same if the boss is right or wrong. Rather than getting bent out of shape about whatever it is, just slough it off and keep in mind in the end it'll come down on the boss' head.
Water on a duck's back, dudette.
Totem
Water on a duck's back, dudette.
Totem
You are very zen. I want what you're drinking.
Turin wrote:
Seriously, what the f*ck nature?
Ahhh, I used to get bent about all the stupid stuff my co-workers or the boss used to do. My blood pressure would go up, I'd get irate, and I'd stew about unintentional or semi-intentional slights. Then I realized that none of it mattered. It paid the same if I got upset or not or if I tried to make improvements or not. So I stopped trying to make a difference and just went to work, and went home when the day was done. I let others do all the worrying about what was important and just did what I was paid to do-- fly.
An organization like mine, where we have nurses, paramedics, mechanics, and pilots all living together for 24 hours at a time makes the workplace a Peyton Place. To avoid all that, when someone tells me about coworker X, I just say, "Really?!? Huh. Wow." Then I act all surprised and incredulous. I never repeat what anybody tells me, I deny knowing anything, and I refuse to admit that someone talked to me. It means everyone tells me what's going on, but it frees me from having to defend myself or others when controversy arises. I just shrug my shoulders and say, "Huh?"
Much easier that way.
As long as the paycheck arrive every two weeks and they don't bounce, I'm happy. That being said, I absolutely do love to set off the rumor mill about pay raises, new (and bogus) policy changes, but I never use anybody's names. "I saw on the company email..." or "I heard the other day that..." works wonders.
Totem
An organization like mine, where we have nurses, paramedics, mechanics, and pilots all living together for 24 hours at a time makes the workplace a Peyton Place. To avoid all that, when someone tells me about coworker X, I just say, "Really?!? Huh. Wow." Then I act all surprised and incredulous. I never repeat what anybody tells me, I deny knowing anything, and I refuse to admit that someone talked to me. It means everyone tells me what's going on, but it frees me from having to defend myself or others when controversy arises. I just shrug my shoulders and say, "Huh?"
Much easier that way.
As long as the paycheck arrive every two weeks and they don't bounce, I'm happy. That being said, I absolutely do love to set off the rumor mill about pay raises, new (and bogus) policy changes, but I never use anybody's names. "I saw on the company email..." or "I heard the other day that..." works wonders.
Totem
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Posted: Apr 16 2008 at 12:10 PM, Rating: Sub-Default, (Expand Post) There is the option of going into business for yourself.
Kaelesh wrote:
catwho, pet mage of Jabober wrote:
Is there anything else as demotivating as negative feedback at work?
The sh*tty attitude you're displaying about it is far worse. Try thinking of it as 'constructive critisism' and all that managerial double-speak.
Huh?
And how is Catwho's attitude sh*tty? I didn't catch anything like that from his/her post. >.>
When a managerial figurehead starts talking down to you in a negative way, especially an unprovoked situation, it's not "Constructive Critisism". >.>
It's called blowing off steam at the "lowers", weither it's coming from their home life, from their boss's, or from just a plain crappy day, it has nothing to do with "Constructive" anything.
If it was "Constructive", I'm sure Catwho would've said that his/her boss ended it on a positive note.
And as a person who has been a manager at one level or another at many different business' and industries, what Catwho mentioned sounds far from "Constructive" at any level, and sounds more like he/she was a release valve for his/her boss.
Edited, Apr 16th 2008 4:41pm by Nuhnisgodly
Depends on the type of feedback, and how it was given.
If it was justified, and had to do with your work, then take it professionally and not personally. Yes, it sucks when you've put your time and effort into something just to have another judge it as "not good." But you're at work to work. If that isn't good, come back, and try to make it better.
If the feedback wasn't given well, or you think you're in the right and your manager is in the wrong, confront them on it. If they still act like a jerk, take it over their heads to the next level.
If there is no next level, you can quit and start your own job unless you see it getting better.
If you're having problems dealing with any feedback, I highly suggest Totem's method.
If it was justified, and had to do with your work, then take it professionally and not personally. Yes, it sucks when you've put your time and effort into something just to have another judge it as "not good." But you're at work to work. If that isn't good, come back, and try to make it better.
If the feedback wasn't given well, or you think you're in the right and your manager is in the wrong, confront them on it. If they still act like a jerk, take it over their heads to the next level.
If there is no next level, you can quit and start your own job unless you see it getting better.
If you're having problems dealing with any feedback, I highly suggest Totem's method.
Trust me, I'm trying to get out of the dead end slums of marketing ASAP. (Hence, the A+ study guide. If I can bother people about IT equipment, why can't I run it myself?)
catwho, pet mage of Jabober wrote:
Trust me, I'm trying to get out of the dead end slums of marketing ASAP.
Oh, is this your boss?
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Is there anything else as demotivating as negative feedback at work?
The sometime work is performed with a bit of adrenaline pumping. If your boss has to get your gears grinding by negative feedback take it for what it's worth.
They didn't fire you for a reason. If they think that you are valuable enough to be critical of then do what you have to do to do what they want to to do the they must value you more than you think they do.
You should kill your boss and take her job.
As a boss, one of the things that ticks me off the most is people who don't have the balls to argue their point to my face and to follow through with documentation, because that means I'm just being used to vent and frankly, that's what husbands and mothers are for. If your boss brought someothing up to you, don't take it as negative feedback. Take it as incentive to improve. He/She's not there to fluff your emotional pillow--he/she's there to make you produce.
catwho, pet mage of Jabober wrote:
Is there anything else as demotivating as negative feedback at work?
Especially when you suspect you were right anyway, and your manager is wrong, and you dare not say anything about it to her face.
And here I was happily chugging away at work when I first came in. Now I'm sitting in my cubicle, deflated, staring moodily at my A+ study guide.
Especially when you suspect you were right anyway, and your manager is wrong, and you dare not say anything about it to her face.
And here I was happily chugging away at work when I first came in. Now I'm sitting in my cubicle, deflated, staring moodily at my A+ study guide.
feedback is good and negative can be BUT only if handled properly. i prefer NOT to use negative feedback, but there are just times when it is the ONLY thing left.
sorry you got ******* on.
what course are you taking for the A+, what ever you do, do not waist your time or money on the Cisco one. i just finished it and IT SUCKS big time. not worth the money, time, and i most definatley did not LEARN enough to pass the A+ exam as the material is not detailed enough and the labs were a bloody joke.
If your boss is wrong, then so are you. Make them look good, right or wrong and document the choices you would have made. That way when it all goes fubar, you can say "this is how I would have handled it".
And nothing RE-motivates a person at work quite like a surprise Q1 profit-sharing bonus.
I feel loved again, and glad I busted my **** to meet Q1 goals. Woot!
I feel loved again, and glad I busted my **** to meet Q1 goals. Woot!
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