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Yes, in one ear and out the other. She'll be "different" this time. I love my husband, he's a great man. How he came from this woman, I have no idea. Ok, to help explain how ****** up she is, when her and my husbands step father got divorced, he was 19 and in the military. She tried to have it put in the divorce papers that he could have no contact with my husband. This man was the only father he ever knew. He adopted my husband at the age of 7. She still harasses him and his new wife if she hears we went to visit them.
Couldn't you like, hire an escort to accompany your hubby to Momma's house in your absence? There are a number of perks to this resolution. First off, she thinks you're out of the picture, and second, you don't have to be around her. Plus, maybe she'd get along better with a hooker, especially if she could possibly provide her with grand-munchkins.
That would work right up to the part where my husband is antisocial. How I slipped through, I'll never know.
Tough bind. The fact that he is so blind to the situation is pretty big red flag (and this is coming from a guy who missed more than a couple red flags himself). If you come out and say 'your mother has been consistently abusive and manipulative to me in the past despite my best efforts to extend the olive branch and has done some very nasty things behind your back, I have tried to bring this up before and I have felt you have never got the full scope of it" and he still responds with 'it's not like that' well that is just *****, shrug.
My sisters mother in law is flat out crazy, much like yours. At least her husband recognizes it though. There is no avoiding her since she is family but they manage to cope and not let it get to them because they aren't expecting anything else.
My sisters mother in law is flat out crazy, much like yours. At least her husband recognizes it though. There is no avoiding her since she is family but they manage to cope and not let it get to them because they aren't expecting anything else.
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Sorry to hear that you're going through that Katie. It sucks. All I can say is bring a pair of ear plugs with you when you guys go visit. And when she tries to get your attention, just tell her "I'm sorry, I'm here for my husband, not for you."
Thumbelyna Quick Hands wrote:
Sorry to hear that you're going through that Katie. It sucks. All I can say is bring a pair of ear plugs with you when you guys go visit. And when she tries to get your attention, just tell her "I'm sorry, I'm here for my husband, not for you."
Yeah, that California **** won't fly in a southern family.
In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.
Samira wrote:
Thumbelyna Quick Hands wrote:
Sorry to hear that you're going through that Katie. It sucks. All I can say is bring a pair of ear plugs with you when you guys go visit. And when she tries to get your attention, just tell her "I'm sorry, I'm here for my husband, not for you."
Yeah, that California sh*t won't fly in a southern family.
*nod*nod*
Dealing with woman who thinks she's still in control requires subtlety. Butting heads or avoiding the issue gets you nowhere fast.
Poison her vittles.
It looks like Katie has tried to be subtle in dealing with the MIL, and it hasn't worked. So for once she might actually have to deal with it directly.
Crossville... wow, yeah... my brother and sister-in-law live in Cookeville. Crossville is even more boring. I feel for you on that front.
Thumbelyna Quick Hands wrote:
It looks like Katie has tried to be subtle in dealing with the MIL, and it hasn't worked. So for once she might actually have to deal with it directly.
Well, there's direct and then there's direct.
California direct: "I don't care to deal with your bad energy."
Southern direct: "Bless your heart, I just hate to see you upset yourself like this."
In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.
Or just: Aren't you just special.
Is "Get over it" a nice enough answer?
If not, how about "grow the f'uck up"?
If not, how about "grow the f'uck up"?
Crossville is about 30-45 minutes from me. Come on down Katie. We'll do lunch. /giggle
Or drag your MIL over here and toss her in the reactor. Always a good time.
Or drag your MIL over here and toss her in the reactor. Always a good time.
I met my mother-in-law exactly once before she died. She died less than a month after the wifey got pregnant.
Not that this helps you any now, but when/if you have a child you should make sure she never gets to see it and tell her its punishment for all those times she could have been supportive, but wasn't.
You need to strike a balance between assertive and constructive.
How about "FUck off and die you dried up old witch"?
How about "FUck off and die you dried up old witch"?
"I started out with nothin' and I still got most of it left" - Seasick Steve
You need to get the root of the problem, really.
Get a divorce.
Get a divorce.
Lord Nobby wrote:
You need to strike a balance between assertive and constructive.
How about "FUck off and die you dried up old witch"?
How about "FUck off and die you dried up old witch"?
Nobs, this is America. We don't persecute witches here anymore. That's what we have you redcoats for.
I'm just tired of the one that ends up being the big meanie. Mr.Katie loves his mom like every southern boy should The problem is he fails to see her faults until I'm to the point where I explode. Instead of making her apologize we just cut ourselves off from her. Which then leads him back to the out of sight out of mind syndrome where he forgets how much of a manipulative **** his mother is. Like the latest gem where he tried to convince me she doesn't do what she does out of malice, it's because she has no boundaries. BULL ******* ****! I know better.
Well, we're going in circles at this point.
You're not going to change either of them. You need to find a way to tolerate her behavior for his sake, preferably without driving yourself crazier.
Why do you care about this old biddy's bad behavior anyway? What's stopping you from letting it go? She can't actually influence anyone, surely.
You're not going to change either of them. You need to find a way to tolerate her behavior for his sake, preferably without driving yourself crazier.
Why do you care about this old biddy's bad behavior anyway? What's stopping you from letting it go? She can't actually influence anyone, surely.
In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.
I guess the main thing is even when I bit my tongue, was as nice to her as could be, she was still a complete *****. I know it hurts my husband but I'm so tired of seeing her be this way. I hate knowing she hurts him. If I'm anything it's loyal to my family and very protective. No one is allowed to hurt my family. You're from the south. You understand. We can beat on our own all we want but Lord forbid anyone else do it. When we have no contact with her we are wonderful. When she comes around my husband ends up being lashed out at by her because of me. He gets caught between me who refuses to let her push around any more and the mother that pulls the "Oh poor me, I'm divorced and am spending all your dad's alimony money to the point you and your wife might have to take me in, but I hate your wife so you need to get rid of her". You know it's bad when your own sisters, brothers and parents have disowned you for being a complete ******* manipulative *****.
I guess mainly I just needed to rant to get it off my chest.
I guess mainly I just needed to rant to get it off my chest.
Invite her for a nice hiking trip and when your husband isn't looking trip her off the mountain.
That sucks Katie...even more so because it's in Crossville. I'm from Murfreesboro myself (not too far away), and I find the grand majority of the area boring as hell. 
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Katie come hang with DF and let the old man go see his mother! 
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