A Conscience is a *****Follow

So, I'm currently seeing two girls. I've done so only once before, but because that was between a girl I was only going to see a couple times and an ex, my conscience never reared it's ******* head. This situation is different.

Girl 1 will henceforth be know as G1. I've known her for about 7 months and she's a lot of fun. We've got a lot in common, I enjoy spending time with her, and she goes out of her way to see me. She's very nice, but I also work with her. Because of that, for about 6 of the 7 months I've known her it was platonic. However, truth be told, for some reason I've never been all that attracted to her. My friends all think I'm crazy but as of a month ago I didn't really have anything else going on so I went for it. I'm hanging out with her tomorrow, but she has no idea about Girl 2. The sex is meh.

Girl 2 just left my house. She's an Irish girl from Co. Kerry who moved into my apartment building for the summer. She's hot, she's fun, and while G1 might have just about everything I might want in a girl personality wise, G2 is a natural redhead with a sexy Irish accent that I find completely irresistible. Oh, and she's only here through August, knows and is ok with me seeing G1, and the sex is great.

My conscience has reared it's ugly head and I feel I only have 3 options. 2 may quell my conscience, 1 will be risky but could end up being the most rewarding.



1 will only be the most rewarding if G1 never finds out. If she does, things at work will probably suck more so than if I go route 2. 2 will either end my relationship with G1 or in some weird universe, it allow me to stay the course.

G1 HAS had a threesome, mind you.

Since I prefer the Irish girl, 3 would be the most honorable. 4 is also honorable, but won't happen till August, unless G2 is playing me...

Which is probably more realistic than me getting into this situation in the first place.

None of those make sense until you say what you want. Do you want to be with G1 or G2?

Without knowing, here's my take: If G2 knows and G1 does not, it seems a bit unfair to me, even if just because she may not want to be in a multi-partner relationship, and taking that decision out of her hands, quite frankly, is something assholes do.

Edited, Jul 12th 2007 6:22am by Atomicflea

sounds to me like G1 is a rebound type GF anyways. I'm not hearing much excitement when you talk about her. And you wouldnt be playing with another woman if she was what you really wanted in the first place, relationship wise.

Tell her, break it off and enjoy G2 while you can. After she leaves, go from there.

Break it off with G1, but in an open ended sort of way. Tell her that you're not interested in being in a serious relationship right now, and that you want to be able to see other people. Tell her that there's someone else you're interested in and that that person is leaving at the end of the summer and you want to be able to see her before she leaves. If she's cool with that, and wants to keep dating in a nonexclusive way, great. If not, you've given her an acceptable, if not ideal, out.

The relationship with G1 isn't going to last in the long term anyway, I think you realize that. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't treat her with the respect that any decent human being deserves.

Nexa

If you only have a month and a half to go until G2 is gone, then I'd just let things play out like they are now. Your only issue in all this is making sure G2 knows when G1 is at your place so she doesn't stop by at the wrong time.

Pics Please.
Does girl two want to travel and see Baltimore?

Girl 2 just left my house. She's an Irish girl from Co. Kerry who moved into my apartment building for the summer. She's hot, she's fun, and while G1 might have just about everything I might want in a girl personality wise, G2 is a natural redhead with a sexy Irish accent that I find completely irresistible. Oh, and she's only here through August, knows and is ok with me seeing G1, and the sex is great.

Stop dating the work girl. Not close. Tell you're gay or something if you want to stay friends.

I would be honest with G1, however you do not need to tell here about G2. Tell that you care about her a lot and you see long term potential in your relationship, but you are not yet ready to make a monogamous commitment to her, yet. Add that you want to make sure there are no misconceptions, because you would not want her to get hurt, because she means too much to you, and that you want the relationship to stay on the level it is now.

I would than proceed to the standard open relationship rules if she is amenable, like no dating anyone the other person knows, (unless you live in a small town or something) no coming over without calling first, and one or even two set nights a week when you are exclusive to each other.

You can work in the threesome idea a couple weeks later if shes ok with the open realtionship thing.

Edited, Jul 12th 2007 2:02pm by fhrugby

If'n I had it all to do over again.... I would'a banged me that redhead silly!

For every 1 perfect redhead you can find, a woman can find at least 20 tall, dark, and willing men.

Enjoy it while ya gots it.

Break it off with G1. You don't seem interested in her aside from sex, and work relationships are FULL of bad bad bad things after they end. But rather than keep it going to avoid that, you should break it off ASAP so that the effects are less than they could be.

Completely your decision though, hard to answer for someone else.

I took Girl 1 to see Tool last night, which was awesome btw, and told her about Girl 2 after.

She wasn't happy about it, but she still opted to stay the night.

Guess it's going to be a busy summer. Darn my luck!

Kil yourself now. You found yourself a bunny boiler.



Edited, Jul 13th 2007 11:48am by GitSlayer