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I hate that Sommelier guy for changing his name.


Oh, and Demea, too.


And Snorre.


Cnuts.

Child support only works if the person received the child support actually spends it on the child(ren).

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that car she bought with YOUR money? guess who she carries arounnd in it. that house she spends your money on? guess who lives there too.

a guy at work biotched up a storm because his wife bought a nice pair of shoes. 300 bucks i think. ranted and rasied all kinds of hell. bever mind that he gives her 2000 a month but her mortguage is 2800, not counting car payments, insurance, food, clothing and the list goes on and on and on.

unless what you are giving her pays for her WHOLE morguage/rent, WHOLE car payment, WHOLE insurance bills, WHOLE utilite bills, she IS spending the pittance you send her for child support on your child. the other stuff is coming from HER paycheck.

i did read it. i just saw it in a differant light. i make good money. i could never afford two households. i dont see how anyone could. you have to do without because you do have to? i can see why you are fustraited. but it is not your childs fault. you still OWE your child. and if his mother buys a fancy meal, your child is eating it too. if she buys a nice car, your child is benifiting from it too.

and unless you are there every day after school to pick him up and care for him so she CAN work a full time job and earn more money, YOU are responsible for that too because YOU are responsible for YOUR child.

i have no sympathy for parents, men or women, who put themselves before their familey. none.

there is a guy at work, a good looking guy, who married a great looking woman. had a couple kids, wore her out till she was in her 40s with baggage, then dunmped her because she biotched at him all day. her fault. a nag. never mind he was looking past her sholder every time a good looking woman passed by. never mind he openly flirted with anything that gave him the eye. and alot of them did.

her fault, she did nothing but biotch at him all day. so e divorced her, hooked up with a really hot looking woman 10 years his junior, and left his mid 40ish wife with her baggage behind.

to this day he cant understand why she hates him. cant understand he took everything from her, used her up, then trashed her future and golden years, leaving her a single 40 plus year old mother sruggeling to make ends meet.....and ranting all the time about how she sucks his money from him for her own purposes.

you made your bed. you ARE STILL responsible for it, even if you dont still live in the same household.

if she goes out and buys a cruise for herself and a new boyfriend, its not YOUR money unless YOUR money pays 100 percent of the needs of your child. the entire mortguage/rent, the entire car payment. all the insurance bills, all food and school needs, all medical needs. ALL of it, AND......AND.....you also allow your ex theh chance to persure a full time career by caring for YOUR child while SHE is at work.

unless you are doing all of those things, its NOT YOUR MONEY.

I have reverse grudges: sh*t I feel bad for decades later and long after the other person(s) involved have forgotten. Example: I still get teary eyed when I think of the time when I was 8 and told my dad I didn't want him to go roller skating with me anymore because it was embarrassing.

Nexa

If ex wives count then yes. Maybe after I get done paying child support so she can not spend it on the kids and then have the nerve to ask me for more I won't hate her as much.

I probably will though.

I have reverse grudges: sh*t I feel bad for decades later and long after the other person(s) involved have forgotten.