Jophiel wrote:
shadowrelm wrote:
funny. "im divorcing you" poped into my head as those make or break 3 words.
"You're done already?"
Nexa
Edited, Mar 29th 2007 1:18pm by Nexa
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"You're done already?"
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Edited, Mar 29th 2007 1:18pm by Nexa
“It has always been the prerogative of children and half-wits to point out that the emperor has no clothes. But a half-wit remains a half-wit, and the emperor remains an emperor.â€
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
He said it first. I'd say it was about a month/month and a half into the relationship. I told him he was lying, haha.
Nadenu wrote:
He said it first. I'd say it was about a month/month and a half into the relationship. I told him he was lying, haha.
When Mr. Thumb first said, I have to admit, I was a tad freaked out. I knew that this relationship was going to be different from any other relationship I ever had and to actually say those words meant something irrevocable was going to happen. Which did.Nexa wrote:
Jophiel wrote:
shadowrelm wrote:
funny. "im divorcing you" poped into my head as those make or break 3 words.
"You're done already?"
Nexa
"Who are YOU?"
In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.
Samira wrote:
Nexa wrote:
Jophiel wrote:
shadowrelm wrote:
funny. "im divorcing you" poped into my head as those make or break 3 words.
Belkira wrote:
Wow. Regular ol' Joph fan club in here.
I said it first about a month into our relationship. It was pretty fast; we were having sex on our second meeting - we met at a party Sunday night at my place and she spent the night in my bed; came over the next Thursday and we ended up going out for condoms.
We're getting married on our three year anniversary this summer!
We're getting married on our three year anniversary this summer!
publiusvarus wrote:
we all know liberals are well adjusted american citizens who only want what's best for society. While conservatives are evil money grubbing scum who only want to sh*t on the little man and rob the world of its resources.
Debalic wrote:
I said it first about a month into our relationship. It was pretty fast; we were having sex on our second meeting - we met at a party Sunday night at my place and she spent the night in my bed; came over the next Thursday and we ended up going out for condoms.
We're getting married on our three year anniversary this summer!
We're getting married on our three year anniversary this summer!
...
so it's back on again? Stop confusing me.
Nexa
“It has always been the prerogative of children and half-wits to point out that the emperor has no clothes. But a half-wit remains a half-wit, and the emperor remains an emperor.â€
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
Nexa wrote:
Debalic wrote:
I said it first about a month into our relationship. It was pretty fast; we were having sex on our second meeting - we met at a party Sunday night at my place and she spent the night in my bed; came over the next Thursday and we ended up going out for condoms.
We're getting married on our three year anniversary this summer!
We're getting married on our three year anniversary this summer!
...
so it's back on again? Stop confusing me.
Nexa
Stop confusing you?
Ha!
publiusvarus wrote:
we all know liberals are well adjusted american citizens who only want what's best for society. While conservatives are evil money grubbing scum who only want to sh*t on the little man and rob the world of its resources.
Barkingturtle wrote:
Thumbelyna Quick Hands wrote:
It was only after that that I realized how people can get their emotions tied up in some good sex.
This is why I dig sleeping with married women, because they usually feel too guilty and obliged to their spouse to burden me. Or maybe, just maybe, I'm terrified of going through another heartbreak so I choose emotionally unavailable partners. Whatever the case, this past year has been physically satisfying, but has probably eroded the last bits of my virulent soul.
Take it from someone who is just a little bit farther down that road than you are: When the time is right you will look for someone again.
I was the first, about 5 months in. I'm still young, and have never been with another girl in the same way... but I truly feel that I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her. We've been together over a year now, and hopefully will remain together. It always makes me worry when I hear people talking about breaking up or divorcing after being together for so many years... sometimes I wonder if the same will happen to me. It would probably be the worst day of my life. 
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Vataro, Eater of Souls wrote:
I was the first, about 5 months in. I'm still young, and have never been with another girl in the same way... but I truly feel that I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her. We've been together over a year now, and hopefully will remain together. It always makes me worry when I hear people talking about breaking up or divorcing after being together for so many years... sometimes I wonder if the same will happen to me. It would probably be the worst day of my life.
eh, you get over it. Sorta.
Nexa
“It has always been the prerogative of children and half-wits to point out that the emperor has no clothes. But a half-wit remains a half-wit, and the emperor remains an emperor.â€
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
Nexa wrote:
Vataro, Eater of Souls wrote:
It always makes me worry when I hear people talking about breaking up or divorcing after being together for so many years... sometimes I wonder if the same will happen to me. It would probably be the worst day of my life.
eh, you get over it. Sorta.
Nexa
I have this feeling that I won't get over it, because the thought of falling in love again makes me feel like the past would be cheapened. Like with each manifestation of love it will become more and more dilluted, till I'm just a jaded dude in my forties smothered by a couple of kids and shackled by a woman I love, but not as much as I should. I just don't want to settle, ya know? But it feels more and more like I stand little chance of finding someone who fits my fantasy ideal of what my mate should be as well as she did, and still does, except for the part where she doesn't love me, any more. Other than that, she's still perfect in my mind.
And so I drink.
For me, I can say it right off the bat, because I love everyone. I don't have the same ideas about what love is that many others do though. Love, in love, I just don't get that stuff... it's schoolyard to me... do you like me or LIKE like me?
I love everyone the same and I don't care if you're my mom, my girlfriend, future wife, stranger on the street, the guy who hates me that has never even met me from the Middle East, or the guy who hates me that HAS met me from the Middle East. I plainly do not care. I will always love you no matter what you do. I think that if you don't understand that, then you don't really know what love is... the love you talk about is a selfish emotion that barely scrapes the tip of the iceberg that real love is.
But as for my relationship with the womenfolk, I look for two things outside of love, which conveniently also start with an "L". Do I lust for you and do I like you? Sorry if that's not the most magical and romantic way to describe your feelings for someone... if I like you, we can be around eachother, and if I'm attracted to you, we can bump uglies.
Too bad for me, there just aren't a lot of women, or people in general, that feel the same way about love as I do, and that severely limits my possibilities. I haven't met one yet (or maybe I have, but couldn't identify it). If I did, there's a good chance that I either wouldn't like them or be attracted to them (more likely the latter; it's pretty easy for me to like someone who meets the initial "qualification").
But there are a whooooooole lot of people who will never hear me say MY three magic words: I like you.
Slighly more will hear my two magic words: ur hawt.
I love everyone the same and I don't care if you're my mom, my girlfriend, future wife, stranger on the street, the guy who hates me that has never even met me from the Middle East, or the guy who hates me that HAS met me from the Middle East. I plainly do not care. I will always love you no matter what you do. I think that if you don't understand that, then you don't really know what love is... the love you talk about is a selfish emotion that barely scrapes the tip of the iceberg that real love is.
But as for my relationship with the womenfolk, I look for two things outside of love, which conveniently also start with an "L". Do I lust for you and do I like you? Sorry if that's not the most magical and romantic way to describe your feelings for someone... if I like you, we can be around eachother, and if I'm attracted to you, we can bump uglies.
Too bad for me, there just aren't a lot of women, or people in general, that feel the same way about love as I do, and that severely limits my possibilities. I haven't met one yet (or maybe I have, but couldn't identify it). If I did, there's a good chance that I either wouldn't like them or be attracted to them (more likely the latter; it's pretty easy for me to like someone who meets the initial "qualification").
But there are a whooooooole lot of people who will never hear me say MY three magic words: I like you.
Slighly more will hear my two magic words: ur hawt.
Barkingturtle wrote:
I have this feeling that I won't get over it, because the thought of falling in love again makes me feel like the past would be cheapened. Like with each manifestation of love it will become more and more dilluted, till I'm just a jaded dude in my forties smothered by a couple of kids and shackled by a woman I love, but not as much as I should. I just don't want to settle, ya know? But it feels more and more like I stand little chance of finding someone who fits my fantasy ideal of what my mate should be as well as she did, and still does, except for the part where she doesn't love me, any more. Other than that, she's still perfect in my mind.
And so I drink.
I'm not getting into some touchy feeling discussion with you because it'll just ruin my image of you being a tiny gnome pervert, but I'll just say it's different every time. It doesn't feel the same as with other people, and I don't mean in some sort of quantitative more/less way, I mean entirely different and not in any way comparable. I've never felt like loving another person changed how I felt about past relationships, but perhaps that past relationships were learning experiences and a valuable part of becoming a person that I like.
Nexa
“It has always been the prerogative of children and half-wits to point out that the emperor has no clothes. But a half-wit remains a half-wit, and the emperor remains an emperor.â€
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
Better
"I started out with nothin' and I still got most of it left" - Seasick Steve
I <3 you Nexa, let's make babies.
Nexa wrote:
I'm not getting into some touchy feeling discussion with you because it'll just ruin my image of you being a tiny gnome pervert, but I'll just say it's different every time. It doesn't feel the same as with other people, and I don't mean in some sort of quantitative more/less way, I mean entirely different and not in any way comparable. I've never felt like loving another person changed how I felt about past relationships, but perhaps that past relationships were learning experiences and a valuable part of becoming a person that I like.
Nexa
What she said.
It's funny how I imagine him as this gnome like pervert as well.
The Glorious GitSlayer wrote:
It's funny how I imagine him as this gnome like pervert as well.
Well, it's easier to imagine when you played WOW with him, and he really was a tiny gnome pervert. I'd be walking around in all my elegant night elf sleekness and the next thing I know, he's there humping my leg and giggling.
I'm sure he's the same in person. You're coming to Chicago, right BT?
Nexa
“It has always been the prerogative of children and half-wits to point out that the emperor has no clothes. But a half-wit remains a half-wit, and the emperor remains an emperor.â€
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
Nexa wrote:
I'm not getting into some touchy feeling discussion with you because it'll just ruin my image of you being a tiny gnome pervert, but I'll just say it's different every time. It doesn't feel the same as with other people, and I don't mean in some sort of quantitative more/less way, I mean entirely different and not in any way comparable. I've never felt like loving another person changed how I felt about past relationships, but perhaps that past relationships were learning experiences and a valuable part of becoming a person that I like.
Nexa
You know, I sure hope so. I am aware that my current perosnal stance on love and relationships is more than just a little bit self-fulfilling and cowardly, but it's safe and respectful of what we had together. Trouble is, I'm still so hung up on her, and it's not diminishing. I catch myself comparing every girl I date to her, sort of subconciously, and they can never fully measure up. I know I should just accept them for who they are, free of some self-imposed standard that is impossible to obtain and unfair to impose on what have been some very nice ladies, but that is so much easier in theory than practice.
I guess what it boils down to is my belief that unlike ****, I only have so much love to share, and once I give it away I can never get it back.
Barkingturtle wrote:
I guess what it boils down to is my belief that unlike ****, I only have so much love to share, and once I give it away I can never get it back.
I say you take it back. By force if necessary.
Nobby wrote:
And don't forget that deathless Irish version of foreplay, "Brace yerself, Bridget!"
As to this:
Chester wrote:
I have this feeling that I won't get over it, because the thought of falling in love again makes me feel like the past would be cheapened.
Well, bud, you have two choices: live in the past or move on. It's not romantic or tragic either way; it's just a choice.
In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.
Barkingturtle wrote:
You know, I sure hope so. I am aware that my current perosnal stance on love and relationships is more than just a little bit self-fulfilling and cowardly, but it's safe and respectful of what we had together. Trouble is, I'm still so hung up on her, and it's not diminishing. I catch myself comparing every girl I date to her, sort of subconciously, and they can never fully measure up. I know I should just accept them for who they are, free of some self-imposed standard that is impossible to obtain and unfair to impose on what have been some very nice ladies, but that is so much easier in theory than practice.
I guess what it boils down to is my belief that unlike ****, I only have so much love to share, and once I give it away I can never get it back.
It's really not so much unlike the fear that one child parents have that they couldn't possibly love another as much as they love the child they have already...and that they'll be taking some love away from the first to give to the second should they choose to have another. It just doesn't work that way.
I hear what you're saying though, and certainly not advocating that you jump into any relationship you're not ready for. I'm just saying that you should allow yourself to be open to the idea that there are, and pardon me for saying this, other fish in the sea. And while you should certainly accept people for who they are, that doesn't mean settling...you're not doing them any favors (I've made that mistake too many times, and they always know on some level and resent you for it). You'll meet someone some day though, and she'll be different and not comparable to the girl you loved and you'll love her in a different way and appreciate the newness she offers and the way she compliments your personality and it will just be something entirely unfelt before. Maybe it'll sweep you off your feet or maybe it will just be a slowly growing realization, but it will be good and you'll be happy again. You'll see.
On that note, no matter the hurt caused, I've never regretted loving someone. I think loving other people does more for me than them loving me by a long shot. It's like Christmas presents, I get more from giving them than getting them. Of course, it's nice to have it go both ways.
Nexa
“It has always been the prerogative of children and half-wits to point out that the emperor has no clothes. But a half-wit remains a half-wit, and the emperor remains an emperor.â€
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones
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Sorry. Wrong Hole.
lol
Nexa wrote:
I'm sure he's the same in person. You're coming to Chicago, right BT?
Nexa
Actually, after having seen the size of my tax refund, I'm thinking of it.
Truth be told, though, I'm even more pervy in person, where the full scope of my facial expressions and hand gestures can be absorbed completely. Plus, I drink a ton. I mean, it's totally a lifestyle for me, so I'd need to be accomodated.
I apparently said it first. It was one of those head board knocking, neighbor banging on the wall, screamingly good sex nights. I'd gone to see Mr.Katie at some air base he'd been sent to for 7 lvl school. I don't remember saying it, but he swears I did. He told me the next morning that he loved me too. We'd been together a few months. We both knew almost from the beginning that this was it. We just clicked on a level that I'd never felt with anyone else. He's my best friend and my greatest love.
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