I want to touch on something Joph said that I think is really important.
Corporal punishement should not be the result of any single event escalating. I think that might be where some of the confusion lies (and where it often ends up as abuse). You should not start with a child who did something minor and then escalate punishement if he's being pissy and end up with a spanking. Ever. Because in that case Smash is correct (ok. All the stuff he quoted is). The punishement does not get properly associated with the behavior. All the kid learns is that if he gets his parent(s) angry enough, they'll eventually hit him. The association becomes one of "escalate to violence if you don't get your way", which is exactly what you *don't* want to do.
I was spanked as a child, but it was always based on what I'd done. Never an escalation. If I did something very minor, I got a minor punishement (removal of toys/priviledges, extra chores, etc). There was a whole separate catagory of things that got you a spanking. Typically, this involved things that required us to actually have made a choice to be "bad", not just forgot something or failed to do something correctly. So if I decided to break my sisters dolls, I could count on a spanking, but if I accidentally left the milk out on the counter and it spoiled, that wouldn't. Arguments and disagreements about other punishements (or just in general) typically resulted in greater punishments lumped on (of the non-corporal kind). I suppose if I'd argued hard enough or tried to hit one of my parents, that likely would have resulted in a spanking, but that never happened.
In any case, I'll also disagree with something someone else said. Spanking most definately *must* be punative. If it's done "in the heat of the moment", the parent can't be sure he or she is doing it for the right reason. My dad always did the spankings and he was *never* angry when he did them. When one of us had "earned" a spanking we were told that we had. We were sent up to my parents room and given about 10 minutes to think about what we'd done. My dad would come in, have a chat about what we'd done, why it was wrong, including whatever we'd come up with while thinking about it. Then he would spank us. Afterwards, he'd spend a bit more time talking about the whole event and generally being as consoling as possible.
There were a number of issues I had with my parents when growing up. But the method and use of spanking was absolutely *not* one of them.
I'll also point out what I see as a flaw in a lot of the studies being bandied around. I don't think it's accurate to include "rate and forcefulness" of spankings when correlating results. At least not if you're trying to make an argument for or against spanking as a tool in general. If you want to talk about what kind or method of spanking is used, those numbers are useful. But spanking in general should not include those values (unless you're using them to exclude the higher frequency and/or more violent ones).
The studies seem to approach this backwards. It's backwards for exactly the reasons Joph gave earlier. The studies approach seems to actually assume that if a little bit of spanking is "good", then a lot of spankig must be "more good", and so judges spanking by ranking "more spanking" as being more indicative of spankings effectivness. By doing this they throw weight into exactly the "wrong" factors involved with spanking. It would be like trying to argue that drinking alchohol should be outlawed because the more one consumed of it, the worse their problems got. It ignores the possibility that a moderate amount may do no harm, and may actually do some good.
Um. And it also kinda ignores the possibility that in households where spanking is practiced, it's reasonable to assume that the kids who get spanked more often are more likely to be the "bad kids" in the set. We can't say with any certainty that they'd have been perfect angles if only they weren't spanked. All we can say is that they got punished using the method those parents used more often then other kids, and (surprise!) also ended up being more likely to be troublemakers later in life. Um... Maybe they're just troublemakers? It's a varient of the FSM fallacy. Certainly we should not be scaling our results based on those values...
IMO, if you want to run a study that shows the effectiveness of "spanking" versus "not spanking", you need to ignore frequency and forcefulness. Simply look at the set of all households where spanking is practices and all households where it is not. Then compare the rates of "troubled kids" between the two. If anything, you want to remove the cases where parents started out not wanting to spank their kids but changed their minds because their child turned out to be a hellion and they felt they needed to. Because you can't tell if they were hellions because they were spanked, or were spanked because they were hellions.
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