bubspeed wrote:
It's the same with people calling in sick for work because their $(*%*$ little darling is sick... They are mostly all women and now I have to do their freaking job too. The brats irresponsible parents haven't had the common sense to line up a babysitter.... The really sad part is all the other fat moms I work with all giggle and roll their eyes like they have been their and done that. It's acceptable in their eyes so the Mom is never canned.
There really is some truth to this. In my department, there are 4 women. Two of them started at the same time as me (we actually attended our new employee orientation together). The third was here for about 6 months when we started. All three of them have had children over the 7 years we've been with the company. Two are still "associate" engineers, one has been promoted to a full engineer. I'm the only one with no children, and in the same amount of time I've become a lead engineer (I have a whole project team that reports to me). I make a lot more money than they do as well. It's not because I'm more talented or smarter or a better developer than they are. They're all very good at what they do, and they've all run full projects on their own (competently, I will add). I just don't keep taking time off. Other than an occasional sick day and a week of vacation here and there, I'm in this office every single day working my butt off. My dedication to my job is what's helped me to advance.
A few of the other project leads and I were discussing this issue a few months back, and among those willing to reveal their salary, it turns out we all make within $5,000 of each other (which is less than a 5% difference up or down). I make a little bit more than one lead who's been here a year less than me, and a little bit less than the two leads who have been here longer.
Maybe my company is just really progressive when it comes to equal pay? It's possible, but I really think it has more to do with where an employee puts their focus. Mine has been on my job. The other women focus on their families (and there's nothing at all wrong with that!). I really don't want to hear them complain about not being paid the same. They're just not here 10 or 12 hours a day, six days a week. They're not doing the same amount of work as I am, or even as much as the junior (male) developers who are here working just as hard as I am. We all have to make choices about where we will put our efforts. If you want to have the responsibility of a family, you have to understand that's going to take time away from working on advancing your career, whether you are a man or a woman.