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I found out on Sunday night that my probably-gay baby cousin ***'s family isn't being so understanding of his penchant for girl-toys anymore.
Apparently, *** had his mother help him write his letter to Santa last week, and it was once again full of things like Barbies, baby dolls, baby doll clothes, princess dress-up costumes, pretend make-up, a purse, etc.
So, after talking it over with his dad, ***'s mother gave the letter to Santa back and said, "Santa said to give this back to you because he won't give little boys presents that are meant for little girls. We can write another list with toys on it that are for little boys, and Santa will be happy to bring you anything on the list."
*** cried.
It really broke my heart to hear that story. I can't imagine a Christmas where everything I most wanted was outright denied to me because they weren't the "right gender" for me.
I guess since *** is coming up on his fourth birthday, his family is getting more and more uncomfortable with the entire situation. They were fine when they thought it was something he'd grow out of, but now they're not so pleased with it, obviously.
I think it is all pretty sad.
Apparently, *** had his mother help him write his letter to Santa last week, and it was once again full of things like Barbies, baby dolls, baby doll clothes, princess dress-up costumes, pretend make-up, a purse, etc.
So, after talking it over with his dad, ***'s mother gave the letter to Santa back and said, "Santa said to give this back to you because he won't give little boys presents that are meant for little girls. We can write another list with toys on it that are for little boys, and Santa will be happy to bring you anything on the list."
*** cried.
It really broke my heart to hear that story. I can't imagine a Christmas where everything I most wanted was outright denied to me because they weren't the "right gender" for me.
I guess since *** is coming up on his fourth birthday, his family is getting more and more uncomfortable with the entire situation. They were fine when they thought it was something he'd grow out of, but now they're not so pleased with it, obviously.
I think it is all pretty sad.
If this kid is gay or transgendered (and personally, I think it's too young to know if he is, but then, I've never actually met him and maybe my friend has other insight into the situation not mentioned here) he's in for a very hard road if this is an indication of the way his family is going to behave toward him. This is the sort of situation that winds up becoming those quasi-abusive scenarios where the kid is forced to do only "masculine" activities and punished or berated if he does anything that seems "feminine."
Since I don't appear able to make a poll for some reason, I'll just type it out. If this were your son, how would you handle it?
Try to steer him toward being more of a "boy?"
Don't worry about it, it's too early to tell if this indicates anything about his future sexual preference or identity?
Support him in being whomever he wants to be?
Other?