Atomicflea wrote:
I don't see it as a banishment. Why do some women take it so personally?
Okay, hypothetical scenario. Happens to dozens of women every day.
You're out with your mother for a day of shopping with and for the baby. You stop by a family restaurant for lunch, and you're eating your salad and having a great conversation with your mom when the kidlet begins to display signs of hunger--signs which will rapidly escalate to a full-out wail if food isn't offered pronto.
You don't have enough supply to have expressed breastmilk ready to offer in a bottle, or your baby suffers from nipple confusion when offered the bottle and won't take it (or won't take the breast at a later feeding). Your baby also squirms and refuses to eat if his or her face is covered.
You have two options. The first, you can leave the table and nurse in the bathroom (or car, as Pikko pointed out) and the other is to try to nurse discreetly at the table. If you choose the latter option, it's possible the other customers, the waitstaff, or the management may approach you and harass you, even if there's nothing showing.
Can you honestly say you wouldn't resent having to interrupt your pleasant afternoon and your lively conversation with your companion in order to excuse yourself to the bathroom (where there is more likely than not NO place to sit and nurse than in the stalls with the toilets.) Are you saying it wouldn't strike you as at all bizarre that of all the people in the restaurant, YOUR BABY should be forced to eat his or her lunch in the bathroom, even though s/he's doing absolutely nothing shameful or wrong? And if you choose not to go to the bathroom, can you honestly say it wouldn't feel like banishment if the manager approached you and asked you to do so?
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Not everyone is having this transcendent experience.
It's not about having a transcendent experience. Breastfeeding is bloody hard work, and if you can cop a moment of tenderness and bonding with your baby here and there, great, but for the most part, it's a frickin' HUGE burden to take on. But at the same time, every day the medical and health community reveals more reasons why breastfeeding is best for both mother and child.
It's about trying to function in a world where making the best choice for your child comes into conflict with virtually every option our society offers. It's about getting the message from one side that you're a bad mother for not breastfeeding, but then getting no accomodation for doing so, and possibly being the recipient of hostility when you do it.
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While I try to be respectful of it, I don't feel special priviliges are in order. That's all.
No one is asking for special priviledges. We just ask that we not be refused the priviledges every other non-breastfeeding person enjoys without a second thought, like eating lunch in a public place, just because we also have a baby to look after.