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#27 Sep 20 2006 at 6:43 AM Rating: Decent
Barkingturtle wrote:
I'd venture a guess that you probably just wanted some symnpathy and so you decided to post about how your wifey had blind-sided you and there wsa no choice but to accomodate her.


Hell if i'd wanted sympathy this would be a stupid place to post. I am quite secure enough about the situation that I don't need validation from an anonymous forum. Althrun wanted to know if people had experienced that sort of thing, thats about it as my objective for posting.

Barkingturtle wrote:
If you honestly think there's no other avenues to explore beyond chaining her to the radiator or silent surrender than you really weren't prepared for marriage, and I blame your drunken father and the ***** you call mom.


I never said I sat back and took it. You said that. I just said she left me and I was surprised. And as far as weak insults go mate..... no your momma!
#28 Sep 20 2006 at 6:50 AM Rating: Excellent
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Kween Piratess Darqflame wrote:
Telling the spouse BEFORE filing is nice. Well not nice, but at least not as surprising as finding a divorce petition on your keyboard. If there is a problem, TALK about it. All relationships have ups and downs. What may feel like I don't love you any more, may just be a lull and may change. Marriage is a committment, it's not all honeymoon, you HAVE to work at it all the time. So when you stop working, stop communicating, you are a loser, and your spouse deserves to find someone who will actually do the things you can't/won't. What is hilarious is when the ex comes back and apologizes and says they still love you and they are sorry... yup you are sorry fella! Smiley: rolleyes


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#29 Sep 20 2006 at 7:12 AM Rating: Decent
Anyone care to remind me why people get married?

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#30 Sep 20 2006 at 7:14 AM Rating: Good
RedPhoenixxxxxx wrote:
Anyone care to remind me why people get married?



The dowry. I'm holding out for two cows and a trunk full of textiles.
#31 Sep 20 2006 at 7:18 AM Rating: Decent
Grandfather Barkingturtle wrote:
RedPhoenixxxxxx wrote:
Anyone care to remind me why people get married?



The dowry. I'm holding out for two cows and a trunk full of textiles.


I wish I lived in Alabama.
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#32 Sep 20 2006 at 7:34 AM Rating: Default
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Aeropig the Flatulent wrote:
Pretty much what is happening to me right now as it happens except it is my wife that wants the divorce, and it was me who was surprised.

There are worse reasons for wanting a divorce and to be honest after 8 years together I actually have to admire her for having the courage to do it.

Maybe you should try GasX.

I don't see ditching a marriage as an admirable trait. Hope you ddon't have kids.
#33 Sep 20 2006 at 8:16 AM Rating: Decent
TommCat wrote:
Maybe you should try GasX.

I don't see ditching a marriage as an admirable trait. Hope you ddon't have kids.


Nah no kids thank goodness.

Is it an admirable trait to stay in a marriage that makes you unhappy? I think it takes guts to stand up and do something that you know people you care about may hate you for, because you believe that it is better in the long run. Sure there are much better ways to go about changing things, people just deal with things differently. But hey maybe your right maybe we should all just suck it up and do nothing to change the situations that make us unhappy. Cos that wouldn't make you a "poosay" as BT puts it.
#34 Sep 20 2006 at 8:25 AM Rating: Good
Aeropig the Flatulent wrote:
Nah no kids thank goodness.

Is it an admirable trait to stay in a marriage that makes you unhappy? I think it takes guts to stand up and do something that you know people you care about may hate you for, because you believe that it is better in the long run. Sure there are much better ways to go about changing things, people just deal with things differently. But hey maybe your right maybe we should all just suck it up and do nothing to change the situations that make us unhappy. Cos that wouldn't make you a "poosay" as BT puts it.


Nobody would suggest you do nothing to change the situation, but you sound like you're just giving up, and surrendering when you're fighting for that which you supposedly love is not an admirable trait. An admirable trait would be having the perseverance to try and mend the relationship. An even more admirable trait would be being patient enough to hold back on marriage until you are mature enough to understand these concepts.

I don't think you're being up-front, though. I sense infidelity or perhaps you have the four inch transplanted cOck of a Chinaman.
#35 Sep 20 2006 at 8:50 AM Rating: Decent
Barkingturtle wrote:
Nobody would suggest you do nothing to change the situation, but you sound like you're just giving up, and surrendering when you're fighting for that which you supposedly love is not an admirable trait. An admirable trait would be having the perseverance to try and mend the relationship. An even more admirable trait would be being patient enough to hold back on marriage until you are mature enough to understand these concepts.

I don't think you're being up-front, though. I sense infidelity or perhaps you have the four inch transplanted **** of a Chinaman.


Smiley: laugh

No infidelity. I just don't feel the need to go into minute detail about it. I was simply telling the Althrun that I had experienced something like the example in his post. Just as he requested. You are right in that I am resigned to the situation now. It doesn't mean I always was, it's just at some point you have to get on with your own life. It appears that when I said that I am going through it you jump to the conclusion that she is walking out the door at this very moment. Divorce doesn't happen over night mate. I am sure you realise that.
#36 Sep 20 2006 at 9:30 AM Rating: Excellent
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Nexa wrote:
He's into someone else, whether he's ******** her yet or not. I'd bet money on it.
That's pretty much where the line gets drawn, either by you or your spouse. Maybe you're frustrated in your current relationship, but there is a point where you simply decide the other person isn't worth it to you, and you want the newer relationship more than the old one. I find this is typical of people who are addicted to the beginning love-high feeling, but don't know what to do when it wears out. Not everyone is up to a long-term relationship.

On the other side of the coin, there are warning signs people just refuse to acknowledge. If your husband or wife keeps arguing with you about the same thing and expressing that they just don't know what to do anymore, take heed and get yourself to a counsellor or compromise quick, before they lose their patience and leave you. You can't really ***** if he's been telling you for months that he hates not spending any alone time with you, and you never saw fit to do anything about it because you assume your wedding ring is a handcuff. Taking people for granted is a silver bullet.
#37 Sep 20 2006 at 9:32 AM Rating: Excellent
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Atomicflea wrote:
...you assume your wedding ring is a handcuff. Taking people for granted is a silver bullet.


Tell it like it is, sistah.

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#38 Sep 20 2006 at 9:32 AM Rating: Decent
Aeropig the Flatulent wrote:
I care about my sister, but I wouldn't want to be married to her....

Oh actually now I see why your confused. Crazy Yanks.


Well unless you're British royalty or a redneck from the Appalacians, marrying your sister isn't even an option.

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He's into someone else, whether he's ******** her yet or not. I'd bet money on it.


Maybe is isn't a her. Maybe he's found new love with another man, she-male, goat...whatever.


#39 Sep 20 2006 at 9:35 AM Rating: Decent
Atomicflea wrote:
On the other side of the coin, there are warning signs people just refuse to acknowledge. If your husband or wife keeps arguing with you about the same thing and expressing that they just don't know what to do anymore, take heed and get yourself to a counsellor or compromise quick, before they lose their patience and leave you. You can't really ***** if he's been telling you for months that he hates not spending any alone time with you, and you never saw fit to do anything about it because you assume your wedding ring is a handcuff. Taking people for granted is a silver bullet.



You live and learn... Smiley: cry
#40 Sep 20 2006 at 9:36 AM Rating: Good
Flea, I hate not spending any alone time with you.
#41 Sep 20 2006 at 9:37 AM Rating: Good
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Know of a few couple that have gotten divorced that way, usually the couple is composed of one or two idiots though.



Mine was because she was a devil cUnt, but I knew what I was getting into.
#42 Sep 20 2006 at 9:37 AM Rating: Good
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Grandfather Barkingturtle wrote:
Flea, I hate not spending any alone time with you.
I'm okay with it. BFF?
#43 Sep 20 2006 at 9:38 AM Rating: Good
Atomicflea wrote:
Grandfather Barkingturtle wrote:
Flea, I hate not spending any alone time with you.
I'm okay with it. BFF?


I want my handcuffs back.
#44 Sep 20 2006 at 9:47 AM Rating: Good
Grandfather Barkingturtle wrote:
Atomicflea wrote:
Grandfather Barkingturtle wrote:
Flea, I hate not spending any alone time with you.
I'm okay with it. BFF?


I want my handcuffs back.
I'll let you borrow mine so long as when you return them they are still attached to the Nexa girl.
#45 Sep 20 2006 at 9:50 AM Rating: Good
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Grandfather Barkingturtle wrote:
Atomicflea wrote:
Grandfather Barkingturtle wrote:
Flea, I hate not spending any alone time with you.
I'm okay with it. BFF?


I want my handcuffs back.
Aww... That's not how nice friends play!

Edited, Sep 20th 2006 at 1:50pm EDT by Atomicflea
#46 Sep 20 2006 at 9:52 AM Rating: Excellent
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Is it an admirable trait to stay in a marriage that makes you unhappy?


The marriage isn't making her unhappy. She's making herself unhappy, and you're apparently not helping.
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#47 Sep 20 2006 at 9:53 AM Rating: Good
I won't let you guilt me into thinking it's justified how you neglect me. Friends don't manipulate eachother like this, Flea.
#48 Sep 20 2006 at 9:58 AM Rating: Decent
Samira wrote:
The marriage isn't making her unhappy. She's making herself unhappy, and you're apparently not helping.


Look I appreciate the comment, but I really didn't post it for the attention. I was just answering the post. I would hope you mean well, but with all due respect you don't really know what you are talking about.
#49 Sep 20 2006 at 10:03 AM Rating: Good
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Aeropig the Flatulent wrote:
Samira wrote:
The marriage isn't making her unhappy. She's making herself unhappy, and you're apparently not helping.


Look I appreciate the comment, but I really didn't post it for the attention. I was just answering the post. I would hope you mean well, but with all due respect you don't really know what you are talking about.




Might as well give up, not knowing what they are talking about never stopped anyone in this forum. It's just how they work.
#50 Sep 20 2006 at 10:04 AM Rating: Good
Aeropig the Flatulent wrote:
Samira wrote:
The marriage isn't making her unhappy. She's making herself unhappy, and you're apparently not helping.


Look I appreciate the comment, but I really didn't post it for the attention. I was just answering the post. I would hope you mean well, but with all due respect you don't really know what you are talking about.
She knows full well that you're just an cnut.





Edited, Sep 20th 2006 at 2:04pm EDT by Elderon
#51 Sep 20 2006 at 10:08 AM Rating: Good
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Grandfather Barkingturtle wrote:
I won't let you guilt me into thinking it's justified how you neglect me. Friends don't manipulate eachother like this, Flea.
You're right. Tonight I'm bringing over Moonstone and Applejack, and we can braid and brush their hair. After that, I'll slap you in the face while reciting every Pat Benatar song I know in my best uniform monotone.

It'll be just like old times!
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